Ok be patient with me please because I love to write and create but I absolutely despise the keyboard to use as a way to express myself...at any rate, allow a guy who has ( I think) gained some valuable insight into this whole fetish over the years.
First I recommend that you read
https://www.cuckoldplace.com/2_22745_0.htmlwing GROWING UP CUCKOLD my absolute favorite, intellegent story on this site and ive been meaning to tell the writer so but have been too busy beating my tiny, limp little pee pee while i read this stuff and secretly wish I would be caught by my wife and her friends, the neighbors wife..etc...
At some point you need to understand there's a major difference between the fantasy and the reality.
Imagine you've just stood naked jacking off in front of your wife and your buddies and maybe even sucked a dick or two in the process...ok the sex is over...now what? Do you think anyone is ever going to talk to you like you are an equal again? This is so hot in the mind but to act it out....most marriages could never make it work for a billion reamisters.
My wife isn't interested in this idea at all. She became irritated when I kept bringing it up and eventually I gently worked her into the idea of doing this together in play only.
Now she actually gets as inventive as I do in her roleplay and we have a weekly to 3x weekly session of watching some interracial, orgy or cuckold porn together and she humiliates me most of the time comparing me to them..etc..
(more later)