Help - I need some advice

Here is my situation. My wife and i have not had sex in over 5 years due to my inability to maintain an erection (no i cannot use the haves that are available). When this first happened, i used my mouth to satisfy her and that was fine for awhile. Then she asked me to buy her a large dildo (much larger than me) and we used that and my mouth for awhile, but she soon tired of that. Thus we have had no sexual contact in over 4 years. i told her then that i would not mind if she found another lover and she just said "I could never do that." (P.S> I think she has)

Since that time i have become pretty submissive to her (although I don't think she realizes it). i cannot satisfy her as a man, so i try other ways. i do all the cooking, dish washing, cleaning, etc at home.

A few months ago i told her i had a dream that she was with another man and that i was there watching. i told her it turned me on to be there. All she did was smiled. A few weeks later, i told her that i had that dream again, the one where she was with another man. All she said was "probably" and left me hanging there.

i truely want to be cuckolded by her. i think we would both benefit from the relationship. Her for the sexual side and me for my submissive side. i just really don't know how to bring up the subject.

What i need, i think (i am so confused) is a Dom to give me some ideas, suggestions, orders, whatever so i can make this happen for BOTH of us.

I have had 5 years to think about this .... the question is how do i tell if this is what She wants also. I would be willing to do just about anything for both Her and her lover(s). But i don't know how to get this idea to reality. Any help anyone can give would be greatly appreciated

dognamedabu, thank you so much for your reply. i certainly appreciate any adivce or even a different take on the situation. i was in no way thinking of making her do anything against her will, or even against her conscience. However, i firmly believe that she has already had a lover. in my opinion, it is the secrecy that is wrong. Having a lover in secret is cheating and could very well destroy an otherwise strong marriage.

Talking to her, as many of you know, is easier said than done. Especially as sub as i have become. i tried to approach the subject telling her of the "dreams" but the conversation fizzled almost immeidtaely. Is that the way to go again? What would a woman think?

Thank you again for your reply. Any other ideas out there....P-L-E-A-S-E

Niko, first of all I fully agree with (the dog named) abu(!). Have racked my brain and the only additional thing I can come up with is the objective of turning her on (it seems to me women do have this possibility of turning themselves off for large periods of time, more or less like the relaxing beauty). Now how to achieve this objective will require creative thinking; maybe you could get one or more guys interested in her (does her age/appearance help?); or you could go for vacation to a place that is on the high side etc. Long shots I admit, but that's all I can see.
Panos

Thank you panos.....she is a lovely woman who won wet t-short contests when she was younger. She now 46 and i am 58. I don;t quite know what you mean by "vacation to a place on the high side" but i know that there are guys where she works that are already interested in her....that is one of the reamisters i think she has already made me an unknowing cuck. Your suggestions are appreciated....thanks again

OK, Niko, good to hear from u. I meant some places where sex is in the air e.g. Mykonos or Mallia in Greece.. Another idea: If she has email, I could try to hit on her... drop me a note if u like at [email protected]
Panos
P.S. Are u Greek?