What motivates a bull in a cuckold relationship?

I can appreciate a cuckold�s pleasures of presentation and offense to be got from the lifestyle. I can also understand a wife getting her satisfaction from a superior fuck machine. But, please explain, what is it drives a bull into such a threesome relationship?

First of all, there is the thrill of the variety. Second are that the bull establishes the ground rules of the relationship.
But for me, the real thrill comes from seeing and being with a couple who are not afraid to break with the so-called norms of a marital relationship. Truth be told, I am basically a prop to enhance their relationship. As much as the stories/fantasies on here are about the bull using the "slut" for his pleasure, the truth is that everyone is being used.
I have only had two cuckold couples. In one, the chemistry and expectations were not what I was looking for. The second was three consensual people, patient enough to establish some rules and also patient enough to let a relationship build.
Anyway, that's why I like it.
alamodom

I would say that, for me at least, that is highly inaccurate.



That, on the other hand, is completely accurate.
Cleaning up is the best part!

when I said the Bull establishes the ground rules for the relationship, I meant what happens behinde closed doors. Of course, everyone has to agree to a certain degree.

But, I'd like to hear why that is inaccurate for you?? Not arguing, just interested in your point of view......
alamodom

I thank all three of you for your interesting comments on this thread.

nybrian914 states that it is not a threesome. However, he goes on to suggest that the cuckold has a function of "enhancing" his pleasure presumably prior to and during his mounting of the cuck�s wife. I suggest that the presence of the cuckold heightens the bull�s libido therefore the cuckold is an essential component of such a relationship. It is therefore most certainly a threesome albeit an unorthodox one and the much maligned cuck is an essential part of it.

MY wife has been fucking NYBrian for over 2 years now. It's gone from an MFM to a cuckold relationship but it is still I think a 3way. I suck his cock and worship Her pussy while they make out. All of the decisions are Her's as to when we visit him, what we do, etc.
He asks Her to have me suck him when we are there and it is so very erotic to be told by Her to make him hard. Once Her permissionis given he uinstructs me on how to suck him. She gets off on this.
I get off on sucking a cock that will fuck Her and there is nothing more intimate for my wife and I than to suck a cock together as we kiss each other.

This is a good quesiton, probably best answered by the "bulls" themselves. However, as a wife who has experience in the cuckold lifestyle, I think I can touch on some motives such men may have in these realtionships.

From our conversations with several men who engaged with us in the past, my husband and I have found that there are usually some very logical motives for men to engage in this lifetyle. Often the extra-marital partner for the wife(I dislike the term "bull")is a divorced man who simply wants a pure, no strings attached sexual relationship without any dramatics or entanglements. He doesn't want a girlfriend or another wife. Also, he does not want to take any health risks by jumpiing from one bed to another in this day of sexually transmitted diseases. He would prefer a steady and exclusive sexual relationship with one partner. He decides that hooking up with a cuckold couple is the best way for him to go in achieving such goals.

Of course it takes a special and unique type of man to engage with such couples. He is usually a man who is easily inspired and stimulated by his sexually empowering position in such arrangements. He also finds that working and playing with such couples is a way to creatively explore sexual fantasies and engage in role play that would not ordinarily be possible in a normal relationship. He may be quite prone to dominance and exhibitionism and this directly relates to his sexual motivations in engaging with a cuckold couple.

Alamodom touched on something in his post when he wrote that he sees himself as basically a prop to enhance the couple's relatonship. My husband and I have found that our best partners have been ones who look at their role as helping our relationship and assisting my sexually challenged husband in satisfying me and meeting my needs, as he is unable. They are the truly special ones, the very giving and very sexually s*******ed men motivated by their ability to provide relief and help to an otherwise difficult situation involving a very loving, but weak and submissive voyeur husband and his loving wife who needs somthing quite different in the bedroom.

I could not have said it better luv2bamazed!!! Well Spoken!

Ivory Godess
Life is good but short... Live every day like its your last with no regrets.

Bingo, Luv2bamazed!! My (limited) experience has taught me the best results occur when all the participants have a healthy respect for each other, even if part of the game includes offense. When the participants are caricatures, the relationship will undoubtedly fizzle. After all, aren't we all real people with more complexities to ourselves than merely being a "cuckold", "bull", "hotwife", etc?
alamodom

I cannot speak from the standpoint of being a bull, as I have never been one. However, I have been cucked hundreds of times by 25 different men. I have observed the same reaction from the bulls everytime I have either watched and/or participated when each one mated with my wife. Just as the bull's cockhead swells just before he completes the male role in making a baby, he always turns to me with a smirk that basically says "I have had your broad" and "Now she is mine." Of course I always get to fire the last shot by giving the bull the looks that says: "Yes, you have fucked my wife and you may also have planted a baby in her belly. But she is going home with me."
A man has not lived until he watches another man fuck his wife!

luv2bamazed - yup, well said

I would like to add a bit more about dominance. As life has evolved on this planet by way of dominance over another, the roll of a Bull in the cuckold relationship can almost be an instinctive one.

It's funny because the question most wanna-be Bulls ask is what does the cuckold get out of it?
Vancouver BC, Canada

Alamodom.......Bingo to you, too! I feel you are exactly right about respect being a major part of the equation. The offense aspect and the playing out of fantasies is basically reserved for the bedroom and the sexual environment, in which there is hopefully a mutual compatibility among the participants with regard to their respective roles. But it all works best when this unique three-way relationship starts with a healthy respect for one another outside the bedroom and apart from the sexual activities.

Amazonking and Dick Diva....I think you both have made some good points, also. From our own experiences, my husband and I have concluded that the best and most desired extra-marital sexual partners or "bulls" are indeed concerned as to what the cuckold gets out of the relationship. They don't concentrate soley on the wife and ignore the cuckold and his needs. Instead, they are full participation partners and they are motivated to stimulate, excite, and please both the wife and the cuckolded husband with their actions.