How does cuckolding impact marital sex?

I am interested in how taking other lovers impacts other womens feeling about sex with their husbands. I have noticed that once many of my friends got into their 30's and 40's, the ones that stick with traditional monogamous marriage have seemed to lose interest in sex altogether. They actually complain about their husbands wanting sex and talk about ways to get out of it. I have found, as have most of my cuckoldress friends, that I still really enjoy fucking my husband. In fact, I would often initiate sex with him except for the fact that I have noticed that he is so much better behaved when I make him initiate and turn him down much of the time. When I tease him about his little weewee, I do it because that turns him on. Actually, his cock is not that much smaller than average and I really enjoy playing with it just as much as a big one.

Do other cuckolding couples have similar experiences?

I know this is only anecdotal, but it sure seems to me that cuckolding women are better sexual partners for their husbands. I don't know which is the cause and which is the effect. Is it that women with low sex drive don't want to fuck around, or is it that women who don't fuck enough different men gradually lose interest in sex?

Many of the men that fantasize about cuckolding also fantasize about being denied sex and being teased and mocked by their wife. That is not what I am asking about here. My question is whether cuckolding makes women more interested or less interested in sex with their husbands.

Agree with you both...anecdotal or otherwise...3 of us agreeing straight away says something I should think

My Girlfriend and I are sitting here Monday PM, reading this thread. We have been together almost 8 years. We had some increasing conflict, and our sex llfe had begun to lose some of the fire.

In the midst of our anger, my girlfriend took a lover. I intuitively knew this, and the conflict increased until on the verge of a breakup, she admitted to having a lover. We worked through the initial anger and ended up with her engaging in sex with him at my urging.

The sex for us has regained its fire. We play dominance and cuckold games. I am no longer jealous of her boyfriend, and she is having her "explosive" orgasms with me once again.

We are surprised that I am so excited at her external trysts. My only disappointment is that she didn't give me as much teasing after her last encounter with him.

Note also, that sex with him has lost some of the passion now that it is with my permission, knowledge, and encouragement.

But we both still enjoy the fact that she has so much fun with him.
I will make you crazy.

My wife dragged me into being a cuckold with out discussing it having sex with a 23 year old tour guide in The Azores a year ago. I was a bit shock especially when she said she would be continuing to do so. In the last year sh has had sex with 14 men. I did not want to here about this at first but now delight in hearing in detail her adventures. I especially like to go places where her former sex partners are playing the innocent unknowing Cuckold. Our sex life was no existent before this but we now have regular good sex. I am a Shoedog (salesman) always loving her feet. I now delight in doing her peds for her "dates".

Well, as long as we're bring anecdotal...

Our sex life slowed down when she started dating, and stopped entirely when she got a steady boyfriend. She's getting as much as she wants form him, and it hasn't made her want any more from me. There's no teasing or mocking or D/s stuff, just that she'd rather have sex with him than me.

Shrug.

Megan,

In our case it has enhanced our sex life and my wife is one of those women that the more she gets, the more she wants. Like you, my wife will deny me at times (usually before and sometimes after her dates) but we still have sex far more than our "normal" friends. When I hear other men complain about their wives lack of interest in sex I can only smile knowing that not only do I get get plenty, but my wife gets even more!

I'm a bull, and my experience is that it tends to heighten the sensual/sexual situation for the couple. Doing the edgy, "forbidden" stuff expands the wants that are there anyway.


Size always seems to be an issue for the couples, at least mentioned, but as some suggest, the application is far more important than the equipment. Given the highly charged situation of the extramarital sex, couples invariably describe their lovemaking in the afterglow as the clearest, rawest, and most sensual with almost a spiritual crest. Duh�.The equipment is never an issue then.

For what ever reamister, this scene seems to ultimately strengthen the couple�s relationship, assuming there is something to start with.

We're sure that woman have a more active interest in sex when they have partners other than their husband. However we think there is also another important factor in that the husband also feels more "energised" and interested when his wife has sex with other men. Therefore when he has sex with his wife she feels a heightened interest and energy and from him which in turn excites her and keeps the sexual spark alive between them.

Well, Megan, I can't remember if our life has changed or if she's become more interested in sex, because it happened almost from the start. Six months into our marriage she went out with a former sex partner, and since then has always had at least one lover on the side. for a few years she was a part time prostitute, which we both enjoyed very much, although lately there's only one man she sees. She has enjoyed the variety, although sometimes, like with fat men, she's put off. However, I think that too may turn her on in a masochistic way. Our sex life has always been exciting, and still is after 30 years.
grc

My theory about cuckold relationships having better sex than conventional married couples is this: For one thing, cuckold couples are open about their sexuality which enhances sexuality in and of iteself. Secondly, a cuckolded husband probably was attracted initially to his wife because, to him at least, she was a trophy. Being cuckolded affirms that his wife is still desirable to others, which turns him on. Last, a cuckolded husband (despite all the stereotypes about small cocks, etc) usually is very happy to spend the necessary time and effort pleasing his wife in bed.
Let's face it--alot of men as they age get bogged down with work, lose the patience (never had it maybe) required to please a woman, so the wives lose interest.
alamodom

...and that's really key, there needs to be something there prior to this. My relationships with secure cuck couples? They always describe thier afterglow sensual experience with each other as the highest they ever had.... Always.

My wife has not even taken a lover yet, but after getting responses from a post on this site our sex has increased both in frequency and in intensity. Every night after IM several potential suitors she is wet and ready to go.

I honestly do not want her to take on a lover (I am selfish) but I do enjoy how horny she is flirting on line with other men. Also, I am hornier feeling the need to prove my prowess with her. It has spiced things up and our sex life has never been better. She now gives me head that I never got before and I lick areas I have never had the desire to lick before.

I am worried that if she ever did go all the way with someone else that it might ruin our marriage.

it seems from this site there are some who have a greatly enhanced sex life but also many who never have marital sex ever again.

YES DOUBLEJ...but (and i'm happy to read) the responders of this THREAD,by a huge margin, agree the sex IS better after the cuckold theme has been introduced!!!
My take on this, is that the number of tiny dicked and cage dicked guys, is a relatively small sub niche. I think the reamister we hear from so many, of these few sexless( and i say this in a loving,cuckoldly and humiliating way) specimens, is the fact that the intensity of their extremity tends to make them more vocal!!! And thank Satyr for that

From my own limited knowledge....just broaching the theme as fantasy has always increased and heightened our sexual intensity!!! And thank Pan for that!!!!!
Who's Your Bitch.single,cuz not man enuf to attract a woman.
Will meet for sissy sex with yor cuck!!

Yes, the fantasy is a huge piece.

Heh! Right you are. Not only that, but we have more time on our hands to post on message boards!

rdvrk
good point.

I was enjoying my wife's affair and the cuckold fantasies until I finally realized that the reamister she was cuckolding me with him was that he was a better man in bed with her - a lot better. I managed to secretely videotape them and she was an entirely different permister having sex with him. She was completely taken over by passion and gave him anything he wanted. She couldn't wait to get her hands on him and the same for having him inside her. She even told him how badly she wanted him to cum inside her. I let someone watch it and his reaction was that it was obvious she was his, at least sexually. After seeing her like that, I knew it wasn't very exciting for her to be with me in comparimister, and now sex together has slowly diminished to an occasional release. I used to have very exciting fantasies about them, in large part because I thought I was equally good with her and that he was just an occasional variation. Since I realized that was not the case, what were my most exciting fantasies, don't excite me at all anymore.

We truly love each other but sex between us has become unimportant in our relationship.

Read into it what you will.

Paave787


SO there can be learning and growth piece. Well, why not the agerage permister is far from a pro in the bedroom.

I don't subscribe to the aspect of being put down, But i will certainly say that allowing your partner to be with another does do alot for the relationship, in my case it has increased our sex life to the point that the only reamister she will be with another is to please me. Which in a way is unfortunate because I want it to please her as well, the fantasy for me is alot of it though. I don't think that I am a cucold in the traditional sense, maily because I don't think I can't please mine and need another to do it, nor do I care rather the other guy is larger or smaller than me. it just turns me on for her to be with another guy. One thing it helped out on was trust we already had a very meaningfull relationship but this expieriance has skyrocketed everything in every way. I have no regrets.

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mistercuckold
Where are you located?

In my case , I havn't had sex with my wife for many years. I'm in my 50s.I fantasise about being cucked(not in a sissy way) .I can't help thinking that things could only improve by the introduction of a lover into my wifes life.
She certainly would enjoy the attention and thrill. I doubt wether it will ever happen though,because she has no interest in sex.Never has! It is good to hear that others are improving their sex lives using cuckolding.

dcuckw2b

Um, you could be surprised....

I'd be surprised if hell froze over too. !!!

You could have a point, but then I'm thinking positive...

dcuckw2b
no sex for years? see a counselor....

My view is people really are not monogamous. It is a choice, not something that people are naturally inclined to do. Cuckolding is a way for women to experience many lovers and still have the security of a stable relationship with her cuckold who loves to serve her. It is perhaps more of a normal type relationship than many would expect. From a purely evolutionary point of view, the more lovers she has the better the chance for pregnancy and from a bigger gene pool than just one lover.Many people will take exception to what i say here , but think about it .

Is it that women with low sex drive don't want to fuck around? Not at all! A husband gets from a wife that which he gives her. Every woman has an incredible sex drive! It is up to the husband to stoke this with sincere words and deeds that make her feel very secure in her desirability. Be an appreciative gentleman and any wife will chase you to fuck around! A lady requires high self esteem to be that tigress in bed!

Is it that women who don't fuck enough different men gradually lose interest in sex? Not at all! I believe your question is: "Does a wife who isn't receiving sexual attention from a husband or lover gradually lose sexual interest?" Of course! She is a human being! Women that feel the need for many lovers just to maintain an interest in sex should consider seeking professional counsel.

When a lady sees what she wants, she always has ample sexual interest to get it! With plenty to spare!

How does cuckolding impact marital sex? When a wife secretly cuckolds her husband with an adequate lover, often her New Relationship Excitement and guilt combine to give hubby some spectacular sex. For a while. I seem to have noticed that many wives that cuck their knowing hubbies with a take it or leave attitude tend to train them to accept a virtual sexless marriage.

The only certainty in a cuckold marriage is the fact that the husband is getting less than 100% of his wife. And the percentage that her lover is now getting she replaces with bitchiness for her husband. Life goes on..........
..............PSEUDO PERSON...YMMV!

At first, it enhanced our sex life. The more we got into, the less she had sex with me. I couldn't blame her as the sex she was having was significantly better. 5 years ago, we had sex 3 times the entire year. She hasn't allowed me inside her since then. I provide oral sex for her and she jerks me off sometimes. Most of the time, she just teases and jerks me to the edge and stops.