Is She cheating? I need advice on what you think

My wife and I have been married for 15 years. We are getting ready to move out of state.

Here is a little bit on our background. We have been married 15 years, and over the past 5 or 6 years, we've debated back and forth off and on a situation of maybe doing a threesome or some swinging (in which we haven't done). More of an in the bedroom fantasy thing.

We haven't talked about doing it lately until this last week. She came in the door from work, and sat down on the couch with me while watching tv..and I noticed her smoking a cigarette really fast --puff after puff...and keep glancing over at me.

I finally looked over and said "What.?"-- cause I could tell she was pondering on something. Finally she said. What would you do if I asked a permister back here to do a threesome?"..
I was pretty much dumbfounded..cause I was the one who had brought up the situation before and she really didn't act too interested.

Anyway,.. I asked her.. well, who are you talking about? And she said a guy that was a customer of hers at work. She said she felt comfortable around him, and he seemed like a really nice guy.

She has been in the bar tending business for years, and has never suggested anything like that about any of her customers. I asked her what else made her come to this decision, and she told me.. well, we are moving next week anyway.

I went ahead and told her it's up to her... but for this past week, she tells me that he hasn't come back in. I'm thinking she probably had already been having her fun with him, and just felt like she might be coming clean by doing a threesome so she didn't feel like she was cheating.

So, the other day I asked her if she approached the guy..and she said she hasn't seen him since she thought about it. Funny thing is, he is a regular there..and goes in everyday usually

I noticed this past week that she got a new hair cut..and started tanning this week.

--Now tonight, she told me that she is going to Apple bee's for a take after work with her co-workers.

For some reamister, I've got my suspicions about this and wanted to know everyones feed back about what you think.

Jack

Jack

Instincts usually dont lie.... especially when they have had 15 years to absorb the nature of your wife... Bottom Line...If you think and feel she is cheating ...Then she probably is cheating or ...tossing the idea around in her mind..

So,.. you think she is secretly going to go through with this on her own..and just saying she going to have a take at apple b's?

And she knows I won't have a car this evening to be able to find out myself..

Where are the ladies here... what do you think about this?

No Jack ... I did not say she was cheating ... I said that your instincts are talking to you .. and they are leading you in that direction for a reamister ... If you question her then you must have a reamister ... and in most of the situations I am familiar with ... instincts usually lead you to the reality.. HOWEVER, accusation and assumption .. wihout proof is not a basis for knowing the truth ... ASK her what's going on.. Talk directly to her ... not that she will tell you the truth but how she deals with the confrontatio will give you some feedback ..

lol.. funny you just mentioned that. I just now got a call from my wife. Said that her and her co workers decided to go to this other place for their after work thing....and the area where it is is over by where this guy lives. I'll ask her when she gets home

Another thing ... I am a different man. My lady never would do something that will piss me off .. because Im not made that way.. If you are not happy with the situation ...call her and tell her to "Get her ass home" .. When she called and said she was going to another place you should have told her "bullcuckolds brownie" .. get your ass home.. unless you dont mind that she plays....Playing is one thing, being honest is another... If she has a cell phone ...call her now .. and tell her to get home.. her response will give you more feedback .. good luck .. question? how do you really feel about her playing anyway? What bothers you most, her playing or her lying about it? If she is that is.. I tend to give her the benefit of the doubt without proof or her admitting it ..

Lying about it bothers me the most. I think that being up front about something is cool... but going behind the back.. that's just fucked up.

You can talk to here telling that how you would feel about her fucking elsewhere and/or lying.
Don't get upset, stay calm so she'd feel more comfortable to talk. And if this gets you horny, well.. just let her know or see.. hehe
etoileh2003

No, probably not lots of women think about it or have a reputation for doing stuff like that but not many do

Buck is right. You are a lucky cuckold.
miles