Couple looking to explore

We are an older couple (50 m, 53 f) that is looking to explore. He would love to watch her with a black man but so far she hasn't agreed to do it. We have talked about going to a swing club with the understanding that we only play with each other. Figured that may be a way to break the ice. Any couples have any experience with this or guys who have done this with couples? Any advice? Thanks. By the way, she is 5'2", 160ish, brunette, green eyes, 38DD and looks younger than she is.

Hi ,

We are both professional people with good jobs & a good life. However I always had a fantasy of seeing my wife with a black guy ( me now 54 , wife now 57 ) Once the ******** left the nest I started to let her into my fantasy . Softly at first whilst we were having sex , then through online interracial porn which really turned her on . I then suggested I put our profile on a swingers site specifying we were looking for a black guy to join us . She reluctantly agreed but I said there was no pressure on her. We had lots of messages and had fun perusing the replies . We even did a top 10 ! Eventually after messaging a guy for some time & talking on the phone , she agreed we meet him for coffee . He was pure alpha male , great dresser , smelt gorgeous and had a lovely personality. We chatted for an hour or so , and he invited us back to his hotel room ( he was in the area on business) . I went to the bathroom whilst they chatted sat on the bed. When I came back they were kissing passionately & she had amazing sex with him whilst I watched and took photos. She had two orgasms , one through oral & and one through penetration ( first time she'd ever orgasmed that way )

Since then we've met him on several occasions , and also 4 or 5 other black guys . I have to say it's only 3 or 4 times a year & it's always safe sex , but it's something the wife loved and is a real treat . I'd recommend it to any couple who are wondering if they should dip their toe into the water , I don't think you'll regret it

We are an English couple , married for 30 years xx

Thank you for the encouragement

I'm a single guy who's gone to clubs with couples. Sometimes we only played among the three of us, other times strangers joined in.

It can be a good way for a couple to check out a guy's equipment (I assume you want hung) and performance before meeting him alone. I've made some new friends that way.

Some clubs limit or ban single males, so you might want to check that out first.
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One thing I don't see in your post is if she has ever made any comments or suggestions. She needs to feel safe and at peace with this.

If she has any ideas, even very tame ones, work with them. Some may be radical changes in your thoughts, but they are hers and she is a partner in this.

One small step at a time, and yes sometimes one step forward and two back.

Think of it as an enjoyable journey for you two. Enjoy the hell out of the journey even if you never arrive at the final destination.

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My wife and I went to a Swingers club a few times, and it was pleasurable for both of us. However, for your first time, you will find out that your wife will get propositioned from several guys, and you might get a touch of jealousy if you see that she is responding favourably to the attention. Don't be surprised if she gets laid on that first visit .... either after you went first, or last. After all, everyone in there goes there for one reason..... to get laid!

Well we did finally go to a swingers club in March 2021 after Covid calmed down. We had a great time although she didn't play with anyone. We have been back several times since and met some great people. She has played with two white guys we met at the club. She has also played with one black guy we met online, unfortunately it was bad experience. Guy didn't respect boundaries. Has made her wary of black men now.

Hello there, like your profile. I'm a black male. 5'10, 172, decent shape. Educated, educator of young ********. Been in LS ,but back in again. Non pushy, but enjoy married couples. Love how sexy it can be. Love the touch of a woman in and out of bed. Say hi if you would like to talk more...Winston Salem, NC Darryl
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Hello there, there's always someone out there who thinks they should have more and ruin possible good loving relationships with othere.
Like your profile. I'm a black male. 5'10, 172, decent shape. Educated, educator of young ********. Been in LS ,but back in again. Non pushy, but enjoy married couples. Love how sexy it can be. Love the touch of a woman in and out of bed. Say hi if you would like to talk more...Winston Salem, NC Darryl
TBM

We are English too, me, 64, twice divorced, and my girlfriend, a young-looking 45, with a s0n in his 20s, but quite shy and very inexperienced. My 2nd wife cuckolded me and I have thoughts of getting my girlfriend into it, though have always had serious doubts that she do anything like that.

Covid and lock-down here in the UK led her, quite by chance, to discover a garage and hip hop virtual clubbing website that had just started up that day. She loves that type of music which is of course quite heavily black-orientated. 20-odd years ago, once free of her long-term, violent, abusive partner, she would go clubbing with her younger sister. The sister apparently dated one of the black DJs for awhile, which shocked me a bit, my girlfriend telling me, "So yes, Tanya went black, but I never did." Tanya is quite plain compared to her prettier older sister, so I'm sure my girlfriend was the target for a lot of black guys. Maybe that DJ went after her first, before turning his attention to the more receptive younger sister. That DJ is still Facebook friends with my girlfriend and liked a photo of her with the comment, "Who dat cute thang?", so perhaps he still has designs on her.

The online clubbing sessions became a regular thing and with a chat room there too, my girlfriend was soon making new friends, some female, some male. Several of these became friends on her Instagram account too, in particular 2 black guys, one from London and the other also a Londoner, but working in Ibiza. Having direct messaged the UK-based one, she was a bit scared when he replied. It took her a day or two to pluck up the courage to open his message, but it was fine and they have been exchanging messages regularly ever since, like-wise the guy in Ibiza.

She would mention that first guy quite a lot, so one day I texted her saying, "Isn't it about time you asked me if it's okay to have a black boyfriend in London?" Her reply pleasantly surprised me : "I've got two black boyfriends actually lol". I jokingly apologised for forgetting about the one in Ibiza, but said I totally approved of her having 2 black boyfriends, guys that could keep her company when I'm at work in the evenings. "I'm pleased you approve", she replied. "I'm going to tell them you're okay about it", and she did.

The one in London is a bit reserved, possibly married, but has still invited us to go visit sometime. She says the one in Ibiza is "more cheeky" and that she loves his cheerful attitude and smiling face. He too has invited us over. I think he is well aware that I am interested in getting my girlfriend laid by a black guy. It was he that got her to call me "white boy", presumably to gauge my reaction should he decide to go after her white pussy. She told him I liked it.

Nothing has come of either invitation yet and recently a third black guy has appeared on the scene, another Londoner, but quite a bit younger than her. She usually goes for guys about her own age or older like me, so this is something new and exciting. She certainly didn't mind me calling her a "cradle-snatcher". There's another black guy she chats to now as well. I think this one's even younger, in his 20s maybe, her s0n's age.

As I say, nothing has come of any of this, though we do pretend that when she's clubbing online she's actually really going out with her "black boyfriends", which we both enjoy. She's teases me by texting me at work as to what she's wearing out for her date, that she's had her make-up, hair and nails done, that they kept her out really late and just got home, stuff like that.

Whether anything will ever come of this, move things from fantasy to reality, I don't know. When we're apart texting, I can easily imagine her out with a black guy and taking him back to her place for sex, but when we're together that seems so, so unlikely. She's a very loyal woman and it's hard to picture her cheating on me, even with my encouragement to go black, something I'm sure she has considered and has been curious about ever since her sister did it.

Saying that, she's already gone much further with these role-play scenarios than I ever thought she would, so never say never, but if this is as far as she ever goes, so be it. We can still fantasise.
Peter C

Well, here is an update from June of 2023. She is selective but has been playing off an on for the last four years. In that four years, she has had intercourse with 5 different guys. Two were great experiences, two were okay/good and one was a bad experience. We have learned that what happens naturally is best. Three of the guys have been white, two have been black. her last experience with a light skinned black man was unexpected but she thoroughly enjoyed the experience. He fucked her three times that night.