Daddy's a Wimp

Just curious but I was wondering how other cucks handle this awkward situation. The bull comes to your house to pick up your wife for their date. The kids are watching tv or homework, but you know they see what's going on. After the bull and your wife leave, the kids have all kinda' questions...like..."...daddy why is mommy wearing a mini-skirt"...or..."...daddy who was that guy with mom?"...or..."...daddy I saw them kissing when they got into his car"...etc., etc. How do you explain things and especially what your role is in all of this?

It is best if the kids grow up knowing that Mom has special friends and has relax-overs with her friends or they relax over in her master bedroom just like the kids do with their friends. Early explanations, only to answer questions, about Mom's desire and simply normal practice of having special friends that she likes to be with or play with can help make the entire situation quite workable for all. Of course, it is incredibly important that Dad show he is in favor of the situation. His greeting, getting takes for, chatting with, even cooking dinner for her lovers will make the situation much work acceptable for all. The lover going on the occasional family outing to the beach is also very good. If he is divorced, we found that my watching his and my wife's youngren together while the two lovers are out together also works really well.

If the wife, like mine, prefers having her boyfriends over at the house, we decided that, whenever possible, I should be home at the same time. Very purposely, our home had "wings" and the kids play-room was off the kitchen while her bedroom was at the other end of the home. I would be at home, playing with her flowers while my wife would come home with her lover, give the girls a hug and kiss and then, since this was an often occurrence, announce that she and her lover would be in her bedroom for some special alone or play time and that we should not disturb them unless it was really important. With this type of "matter of fact" line of action my wife was and is able to carry on her affairs with no inconvenience.

Of course, with age, her flowers realized exactly what their Mom was doing, but given our open acceptance of the situation, though there were a few awkward moments, our family life has been wonderful. Most critical is the love and affection that we show for each other and the fact that we have never argued about her boyfriends and lovers. Her flowers realize that Mom likes and deserves to play with her special friends and that I encourage her to do so. They have noted, often, that Mom is always in a particularly good mood after spending some special, private time with one of her special friends.

It can work so long as you and your wife are loving and affectionate and act like this is totally fine with you both.

It is a hot fantasy but best to explain at the level and age of the kid: For example, Under 5 say mummy is going out with a friend and likes to dress for going out. An older young (teenager) you need to to explain in more adult language and make it clear that you and their lady will not divorce of break up and you (man) are OK with the situation.

Thank you for your comments. It is humiliating to have to sit your two flowers down at the kitchen table and explain what mommy is doing and especially , why. They have questions, like: why is mom dressed like that, she looks sleazy; or, daddy I saw the man kissing her when she got into his car...doesn't that upset you? Aren't you going to do something about it?;or, daddy you looked like you were afraid of this guy...is that it?...then they both start giggiling.
I can tell in a basic female way now that they don't respect daddy anymore and treat me differently. I guess I deserve that...I'm a wimp.

Well, based on conventional norms, you are a humiliated wimp when you babysit the girls and stay home while your wife is out dating and, obviously, mating with more virile men. And when you show that you are afraid or intimidated by her boyfriends your position is all the more reinpowerd.

A proper tact would be to simply acknowledge that your wife enjoys the company of other men who provide her with special company and enjoyment that you just aren't capable of providing. However, the best way to do this conversation is with your wife talking with her flowers. She can then comfortably explain her needs and your acquiescence to her wishes as a loving and caring but, admittedly, incapable male and husband. That type of conversation is best and should move things along.

Your wife's flowers may show a bit less respect for you and kid you about Mom's time out playing, but as long as you and your wife are loving and affectionate with each other, all should be fine. It is most important that they see caring affection between you two - they want the security that you two will be staying together and caring for them. Obviously, the household dynamic is altered, with you being the baby sitter while your wife has adult fun, but that should be acceptable.

Best of luck.

How old are your kids?

@brainbox1...why do you ask?...does it make a difference?

ruinedhub4u

Underage youngren being exposed to sexual situations is illegal.

It is called Statutory ****

my kids are not exposed to anything sexual...period!

We have a 15 year old mister. He is extremely intelligent, balanced and very perceptive. In our opinion, kids should not be exposed to the lifestyle if you can possibly avoid it. The kids don't make the choice to be part of or affected by the lifestyle, but it's often thrust upon them regardless of their wishes.

Kids are far too intelligent and certainly can pick up on the fact that Mom is cheating. Sadly 99% of the population looks down on the lifestyle. The reality is people are prejudiced and my mister's life could be impacted. Not to mention, I know the types of questions my 15 year old mister would ask, and the truth would be that promises (marriage vows) were made and broken. We don't find it that hard to be discreet if one must have lovers outside the marriage.

Please don't take offense, this is just our feedback based on permisteral experiences and challenges the lifestyle has brought us.

Cuckolding has always existed and should be taught in sex ed so that white boys aren't surprised or misbehave when women do it.

@Kittensucker....I agree!

after my flower's discovered our lifestyle they began calling me their daddyboi or daddy sissy, regardless of who was present.