McJones:
We are at the point now where she wants me to turn full time homosexual.
An excellent idea! What could be more submissive, more emasculating, more humiliating then being powerd to live gay when you aren't? The similar thing happened to me and I can tell you that there is no end to the cycle of fear- offense-self recrimination-hornyness.
McJones:
As for my wife, she will see a tape of my last night of straight sex, thus tying up that loose end.
Why the last night of straight sex and not a video of some of you homo exploits? Presumably the point is to expose you to her so she leaves you, allowing you to live your new lifestyle. (Or maybe stays as you do, who knows?) Surely the knowledge you are having it off with guys will be equally effective, and more humiliating, then the revelation that you are having an affair with a female?
McJones:
Is this too extreme, or should I pursue it further?
Your call, or course, but since you are tempted enough to ask, I say you should go for it. A life unrealized, lived in fear of convention, with dreams kept secret is no life at all.
Pantalone, Wittol, oblate, abnegator, fellator, pathic, irrumatiophile,fop, epicene, cotquean, skivvy, thrall, and pilgarlic.