Wife admitted sexual escapades

Wife has known of my want for her to take other cock for years and refused to do it...However, a few years ago she cheated...I was upset more for the betrayal than her actually taking dick and she said that the affair was emotional and not physical. We reconciled as we have small kids and moved on....Fast forward to last Friday when I uncovered recent emails between her and the alleged distant paramour....And what did I retrieve from the recent correspondence? You may have guessed right...Conversation of their HOT SEX....Well, as I'm really not the jealous type, I confronted her and asked for the reamistering behind her denial, and why the affair had continued...She confessed that hey had indeed been fucking for years and that she just couldn't help herself as he, in her words, "tempted her!"

Well, she supposedly ended it again as she believes that is the proper thing to do, but the reality is that I don't mind, as I loved knowing she gets pleasure or "hot sex" from someone else...The question is how to get her to fully embrace the lifestyle?

It sounds to me like she is one of those women who can happily cheat on you (behind your back, that is) but isn't comfortable doing it openly with your permission.

I know that sounds like it doesn't make logical sense, but it's not about logic. It's about emotions, of course, which is what she told you before, when you discovered her affair.

Maybe the best thing you will be able to do is to let her go on without confronting her about it, and enjoy knowing what she is doing.

bpop, I did consider taking that approach...We'll see...I gotta admit, i love it...

There are some couples that can handle the "cheating" bit. The thought that my wife might be having sex behind my back is extremely arousing to me!

bpop is spot on. Wives don't use logic to justify their cheating, neither do they really try to rationalize it. They are creatures of feelings and emotions. My wife did her cheating in very similar ways as horntoad's. When she finally admitted her cheating, it has led us to a very healthy swinging and swapping lifestyle.

drfarmer, I expect this to go the same way...For a long time she would frown upon any conversation about swinging and powerfully stated that in her opinion it ruined marriages...I now have the ammo to say that if her cheating didn't, swinging won't...

<< They are creatures of feelings and emotions. >>

That is certainly true.

Unlike us? I doubt that... ;)

Well recently we've had some conversations about swinging and adventure, and I began the conversation with the caveat that she should listen and consider without judging as she has already done quite a bit on her own...I also asked to be put in chastity again and she is not ready to go that route as she thinks it is just a little odd...The good thing is that we are having very open conversations where she used to immediately shut it down. She and I both know that the sweet little innocent angel is no more...So there is a realization that if she wants to keep our marriage intact (i truly believe she does) then certain concessions must be made.