sissycindylynn
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A Brief yet simple male’s guide for becoming your woman’s sissy bitch
(Input appreciated, please add your own insights) - sissy cindy lynn
OK, so, how would a sub male go about this?
Well for starters, as you may already know, for many future or current dom women, it's about doing for them.
For those in a relationship, take over as much of the housework as you can, use the vacuum, do the laundry, put the laundry away, offer to do her stuff at home and give her more free time to enjoy herself.
Encourage her to go out with her GF's, help her prepare, help her dress and get ready to go out, tell her sincerely, she's never looked so beautiful in her life.
Ask her to prepare a list of house work that needs doing for you to do and then do house work while she is gone.
It’s important for her to know this is not some kinky little game she is playing for you, you need to make it real for her.
Help her anyway you can through your own self-sacrifice. In bed, give her oral, ask her what she likes and do it, her way. Her orgasms are so much more important and valuable than yours, ask her not to worry about yours, hers was enough for you both. tell her sometime how you prefer wearing panties as it makes you feel closer to her and all women, compliment women, and say you believe it would be better if more women were in charge.
As for makeup, how do women and girls learn, get her magazine subscriptions to ladies mags, Glamor, Cosmo, etc. read them too and learn, fashion, makeup, etc. This is only a start.
When she is tired, and sitting say on the couch, sit on the floor, rub her feet with lotions she likes or oils, get her used to seeing you below her. Back rubs whenever she wants them, needs them or is stressed.
After she showers, if she will let you, towel her dry. If she likes baths, draw her a bath, shave her legs, put lotion or powders on her, put her comfy robe on her.
Let her know you are so much more comfortable having sex her way and only when she wants it, so is it OK with her if you no longer are going to ask her for sex, sex is best when focused on her needs, times when she wants it and when she initiates it.
You become more of a lesbian lover, use vibrators and your fingers and your tongue, if you can, wear panties while tucked while doing this, and an nightie if you can without upsetting her.
Buy her thoughtful gifts and give loving cards with well written loving words, how you adore her, and respect her, love her, her wisdom and guidance, her insights, how you love listening to her (learn not to interrupt her or control her buy you solving her problems, women like listeners) and like giving to her, all that makes her happy, even if that mean it's without you.
DO NOT PLAY WITH YOURSELF WHILE SHE'S AWAY FROM YOU, SHE NOW OWNS YOUR LESS THAN MALE PARTS!
Buy her a day spa gift certificate, nail salon, or a makeover, if allowed, go with her. Gift certificates for lingerie, makeup. Buy her items for her feminine hygiene, you shop for her, so she can pursue more leisure and fun activities.
Encourage girls night out at least twice a month, twice a week is better, help her get sexy lingerie, and encourage her to wear it when out with the girls, not ever for you. If she comes home and wants to share her evening, fine, if not, make sure you help her undress and get her ready for bed, like her permisteral maid. What are you wearing to bed? Are you in a nightie and panties, or a tee shirt and panties?
When you are wrong, even a little, apologize and tell her you hope she can make you do better next time. Make sure she has condoms in her bag, first make it a joke, for you and her, don't cat on it, but leave them with her.
Ask her the sex fantasies that turn her on the most, even if she's a little takes some night, and do your best to make them come true. If you watch porno DVD's, let her pick out what she likes, encourage her to get wild.
Permisterally, I like to kneel down before a woman, watch her when she pees, and wipe her. At 1st, most women freak a bit, but once done, most like it, demand it and push it to peeing on you or into you, it makes them feel powerful.
Make sure she notices from now on, you like her only pee sitting down, wiping like a woman when done. If she asks why, you let her know she's your hero, you like being like her, & mean with you say, always do this, NO MORE STANDING OR URINALS, unless you are her urinal!
Before you do anything, ask her if it's OK with her, anything from purchases, to gong someplace, later if it's OK for you to be excused to use the potty to tinkle (this shows presentation and girlishness on your part). Call your bathroom the little girls room.
Always give in to her, watch the TV shows she wants to see, see only the movies and chick flicks she wants to see, you fetch the popcorn and takes, go to events she prefers, visit her friends and family, never complain, go to the restaurants she likes when out or in, have her pick your dinner order while out, polish her shoes while she's out with friends without you, and write her a love poem, for her to find on a table or counter when you go out to run errands for her.
Your new job, you do the errands and shopping, let her know she's far too important and special for those menial takes, you love her so much.
Be very humble and submissive and obedient to her and get takes and snacks when her lady friends or couples she knows come over.
More ideas. If she thinks she's had her turn with cumming, and tries to do you, you can tell her there is no need for her to exhaust herself after she came so hard. Offer to put on for her a jerk-off show, where you jerk off in front of her, perhaps asking how she wants you to or in some way less macho. Maybe you are kneeling next to the bed, and catching it in your hand. Maybe you are hovering over the toilet. Maybe something else.
Hold your urine to the point where you are desperate to pee, then:
either wet your panties or if outside, squat like a girl.
She needs to start thinking of you as changed, saying, doing, acting, and submitting sweetly in ways in front of her, and her friends, which no real man macho guy would EVER do!
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MrsBlackBlowupDoll
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Most of this is good advice. Indeed, I followed such a program myself with various girlfriends and am now happily a sissy maid to my wife. So I hope you won't mind if I flag a few pitfalls and issues born out of my experiences.
-> The first hard truth we sissies need to face is that not all women are into being dominant or having a worshipful swish around. Slowly slipping into the role of subbie and manipulating the situation so it seems like the natural organic flow of the relationship is all well and good. But there is no guarantee that she will like it. There are a large number of women who will simply lose interest in being in a relationship with you at all the more you become this obliging doormat. Perhaps that is OK with you, since in the long run you don't want to be with a woman who doesn't want to keep you a sissy, but it is something you should be aware of.
-> Most women are not so self-absorbed that they will not notice what is happening. Speaking generally, women are pay MUCH more attention to the dynamics of their relationships - especially the sexual politics - then men do. They will fret about how things are developing and they will often try to counteract the drift of the relationship. For instance, they may insist on taking a share - even the lion's share - of the housework. If they have a strong instinctual idea of what gender roles should be, they will work hard to keep you on the manly straight and narrow, if only for your own good.
-> Most women will not feel comfortable selfishly exploiting you. This is especially true if you have not been very upfront with them about how much you enjoy submitting. But even if you have been upfront about it, they may still refrain because they don't like how they see themselves when they do it; or they worry about what others (real, internalized, divine, whatever) would think if they knew; or they want to protect you from yourself. Guilt is a powerful power and the fact that you are so accommodating and attentive may just fuel their guilt at not taking better care of you or being more devoted to you - not the frame of mind you wnat if you want her to cuckold you. Remember also that they are in the relationship because they care for you - and they may well see these tendencies as a weakness, a bad habit, a pathology, or some other negative thing that they need to be strong for you about. Which brings me to my next caution...
-> Generally women don't date or marry men they don't like. Indeed, they usually esteem and/or love those they marry. The problem is that the corollary to that most people usually do not enjoy exploiting, betraying and humiliating people they like. This is the basic issue of BDSM fetish, and if your wife or girlfriend is vanilla to start, she may find this a hard one to wrap her head around. More to the point, the coin will not drop so readily from such a subtle program of conditioning the relationship as it will from frank, upfront confessions and conversations. Even given the later, you may need to constantly reinpower the connection. She has to know - and believe - that you want and need this AND that it isn't bad for you and her in the long run. This can be a tough sell because we all know that part of the thrill is the risk - however small we've made it - that it will be bad for you and for your relationship in the long run.
-> She may not get it. Even if you have confessed your submissiveness to her and your sex life has become one of you wearing silk teddies while she pegs you with a strap-on, she may not connect the bedroom activity to your out-of-bedroom attentiveness. Some women simply do not draw the line. Others see it but push it away because it brings up all kinds of doubts and concerns.
-> Displacing her in her own perceived gender role assigned jobs may create a sense of inadequacy or insecurity in her. If she was brought up to believe that a good wife or good woman does the cooking and the laundry, then pushing her out of it may not be so welcome as you think. One woman's drudgery is the next woman's emotional comfort food.
The central thing you want is to create for your wife or girlfriend a sense of safety in exploring their dominance and your sissification. For many, a program such as that described of just slowly taking on the work and switching gender roles might do it. But be aware of the warning signs and address psychological discomfort on her part wherever it emerges. Don't be wedded to the details of your vision of what the sissy and wife relationship will look like. Be prepared to compromise in order to create the version that is good for both of you (but especially for her.) Go slow when she is not ready; be enthusiastic when she wants to go further - even if you have doubts or don't like the direction. Be encouraging and grateful each and every time she does something that dominates you. Avoid being critical of her performance of it or demanding of anything in particular. But you can and should be absolutely honest about what you like.
For instance, in my own life, my wife generally does the cooking and also does most of the laundry at this point. This is because she wants to; she enjoys those activities. I do all the things she doesn't enjoy - like washing up and ironing as well as house cleaning. In the beginning she was very resistant to the idea of a uniform. She has never been comfortable with bedroom costume and it just seemed like that to her. After over a year of my really being the maid - doing all the chores, having daily and weekly checklists, she surprised me by giving me a Christmas card telling me my gift was a uniform. She said that since I had proved to her that I was ready to live it and do the work - not just wank off, she was now comfortable with it. But the uniform was plain and workman like - not pervy or porno or even particularly sissy. I now own a number of different uniforms, each bought by her as she became more comfortable and committed to the lifestyle. (Since I wear them most of the time now, I need more than one anyway.)
Every woman is different. Find the way that works with yours. And good luck to you all!
Pantalone, Wittol, oblate, abnegator, fellator, pathic, irrumatiophile,fop, epicene, cotquean, skivvy, thrall, and pilgarlic.
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