About Me: Chastity, Cuckolding & Marriage. I'll Tell If You Tell

MY CHASTITY DEVICE – JAILBIRD FROM MATURE METAL

I wear a Jailbird surgical grade, stainless steel, custom made chastity device. My particular size is 1.75” in length, 1.25” in width. For comparimister, the CB 6000-S is 2.5” in length and 1.5” in width. As tiny as this cage is, my wife is now considering ordering me a smaller version of the same device: 1.5” or 1.25” in length and 1.0” in width. Her reamistering is simple. There is (sometimes) still room inside of my cage for my cock to expand, slightly. Her goal for me is no erections whatsoever. Not even the beginnings of one. She figures that will limit my ability to have any sort of an orgasm no matter what I try and she is suspicious that I just may be able to have one when locked in the JB.

I have been locked up in many chastity devices over the past 11 years, including a few very expensive ones. This one seems to be the one she likes the best. The reamisters are simple:

1. It is very small
2. Despite the caveats of the manufacturer, it can be worn with a PA ring attached.
3. It can be cleaned without being removed

That last one is most important to Janet. She hates removing it, and besides, she has given the keys to her boyfriend, Mike. He lives 160 miles away. She gave him the keys on June 20, 2011. Yes, no BS, she did. I had been given a “free day” on June 19. Prior to that, I was locked from the day we received the JB, which was in early April. I have been allowed an orgasm 3 times this year.

I realize this sounds like a subbie fiction story, but it is true, and it is my reality, and in my own crazy way, I love it. Of course I hate it sometimes. But I asked for it, many years ago. And boy she’s been giving it to me for a long time, harder and harder.

Anyway, 140 days is a long time, even for me. And there is no end in sight.

I will tell you more about my marriage, my wife, my life. But first, I thought I would tell you how I relate to this room in this forum in terms of chastity.

I wanted to see if there was any interest before going any further. I wonder how many others are truly chastised, what you wear, how long, etc. My marriage is extremely unusual, to say the least, but unusual becomes the norm over time.

How about you? I'll say more, perhaps, after you.

I for one would love to hear more... a pic or two would also be great! I've used several brands of CBs, and I'm thinking of getting yours next. I'm wearing their sizing rings right now to get the perfect fit. I've never liked any other CB enough to wear 24/7, so I'm hoping this one will do it. Right now we only use the CBs rarely for a night or so, although we've done some periods of longer use in the past. She has yet to cuck me but we've done swinging in the past, so I think it's a real possibility.

I too would like to hear more. While your situation does sound like fantasy, I can definitely see how it could be reality for some people. My girlfriend and I got into sharing her and chastity before we married. I only have the CB2000 but it has been worn a lot. In fact, I wore it more than 3 months prior to getting married, was wearing it at the cerimony when she became my wife, and after about 5 weeks of "honeymoon time", was locked for another 102 days. It was recently removed due to a death in the family which has hit me hard as well as a break up with her "2nd husband". I can definitely see us in a situation like yours if/when she finds another lover. If you wanna chat, I'm on Yahoo... send me an email and I'll send you my ID.

I am excited to hear more about your situation, too. We have progressed from swinging, to hot-wifing to cuckold and now moving on to sissy cuckold. I have a CB-2000 but work prevents full-time wear and the longest time I have had in it was 40 days leading up to my 40th birthday. Thanks for sharing your experiences.

I don't like doing self pics. But tell you what, I won't confirm or deny if this is me. This is the Jailbird.

Again, my wife likes this device because it is versatile, light, more comfortable for me than any other I’ve worn, and secure. I will never wear a plastic device again, except to travel. A caveat: Any chastity device is uncomfortable at times. Even the most comfortable one can be excruciatingly uncomfortable every now and then. But for me, this has been the best, by far. It is undetectable under clothing, unless you are wearing a speedo, or panties. Even then, it is so much smaller than any plastic device. It does not suffer from the tortuous weight of some of the more expensive metal devices either. And it’s built to last.
As for erections, it does prevent them. It is my permisteral favorite, or the 7 devices I have worn so far, which is a good thing, because I have never worn one this many consecutive days.
As for her lover holding the keys, I would like to think this is just a tease, and that she has one somewhere in case of emergency. But I know her pretty well, and she probably did give him the keys. After all these years, she knows any emergency will likely not include my dick, and if I have to suffer embarrassment in front of a medical professional, well, that’s life.
I asked for it, after all.
She hates my attitude when I am not chaste, and the longer I am locked, the better our relationship goes. Talk about positive reinpowerment! I sometimes wonder what the dynamic would be if she didn’t have a boyfriend. But she does, and has for a long time. So I try not to think about it too often. It is amazing how normal our lives are, at least to us.
And how freaking abnormal our lives are, Thank God.
We are a very loving couple who will never be broken apart, I am secure enough to say that. But we are certainly not traditional. Again, Thank God.

I have been chaste, in the sense that I have not had sexual intercourse for many years. With my wife, or any one else.
In recent weeks I have been trying to self enpower a no-coming form of chasity.
I have gone an amazing 10 days. I didn't think I had that kind of will power.
I am currently working on making 12, maybe 14 days.

I am still jerking off in the sense that I look at porn all the time, more than before. And I gently and carefully rub myself. I control myself by stopping all rubbing when I get 100%, then start again when I am soft. I think I might be training myself to stay soft, or semi erect most of the time since erections lead to disappointment.

Sounds sick, but true.

Thanks Houseslvsissie. I am interested in hearing more of your life in chastity. How do you approach your wife and how and what was the conversation? I would like to talk my wife into locking me up but afraid of her response. Please share.

I was afraid of my wife's response 11 years ago. But we were, at the time, closer than we'd ever been and really reopening up to each other. I just told her I'd always had this deep fantasy, didn't know why, and would she consider participating. She said yes.Oh, I could write more about it, but that was it in a nutshell. I don't think I could ask someone who didn't love me, and whom I was not secure with. But it was a period of the beginnings of great experimentation with us. It led to us trying "swinging" and then cuckolding. It all happened fast, while our minds were still open. I think that;s partly the key. I knew her well enough to know when to ask. To beg, actually, when it came to "swinging" - the cuckolding, well, that simply evolved from the swinging. But the chastity - the powere exchange - came first. She loved it then and continues to, and she showed herself to be more than just open minded, eventually.

But it's not like you just go to your spouse with some detailed, fully formed fantasy and expect her to jump on your Fantasy Boat. That ain't the way it works, At least not for me. It was a process, but a surprisingly (relatively) quick one. I was being cuckolded about a year after our first swinging event, and the chastity part started several months before any of it.

I won't lie to you though: The men we met had a lot to do with it to. She isn't easily influenced. We experimented and played of several years, took time off - from everything but the chastity. She truly likes that.

Then about 6 years ago, she met the one who brought all this to another level. That's when the true cuckolding began.

sudsycat
I don't know how long I could maintain interest in chastity if someone wasn't holding the key, demanding it. For me, it is not about the hardware, it's about the software. The software is the mind. The hardware is the device. I too look at naughty images, and create them! I drive myself crazy. Meanwhile, my wife gets the real thing regularly. Eventually, I back off, sensory overload. I go back and forth, fantasy/reality.real/digital. Real is always better, but in a situation like this, so different. Real isn't available 24/7 (other than chastity).

Houseslvsissy
In my relationship, I often feel I was still in control even though I want her to be in control. Do you feel your wife is truly in control? What specific events occured to "prove" to you that she was indeed in control?

LOL! Where do I start with this one? When she announces to you that she's taking a week (or 2 weeks) vacation to Europe or the Smokies with her boyfriend, and YOU aren't invited or consulted, I'd say she's in control. When chastity becomes HER requirement instead if YOUR fantasy, she's in control. When she takes control of ALL the money and you are completely dependent on her moods and her rules financially, she is in control. When things move from mutual collaberation to her direction, she's in control. I could go on and on.

I was flip in the last comment. The real answer is this: She will be in control when you honestly surrender it and she honestly receives it.

Sissy, I sense a hint of regret in your words as you describe the evolution you have taken with her? Am I right?

Yes, drac, bittersweet, but mostly sweet....

I understand. My wife and I are swingers and I know when she's with a man better than I that my reaction is very different than when I'm the better man. I imagine it is of similar quality to what you feel. Different I kow, just of similar quality.

Houseslvsissy,

I am very interested in the Mature Metal device and by the way I love your posts. What has been your experience with being able to pull out of the device?

I'm currently in a CB-6000s and when very flaccid I can pull out.

Thanks,
Lockedsub