Last night I was cut off indefinitely

The following is 100% true.

My wife and I have been together more than 20 years. In recent years, particularly since we had our young 6 years ago, her interest in sex with me has declined markedly and this has become a source of tension in an otherwise very happy marriage. I find my wife very attractive and if it were up to me, we would make love 2 or three times a week. I love her very much and try hard not to pressure her for sex when I know she is not keen. Occasionally she will give me a quick handjob out of pity for me and we actually get to make love about once a month.

Last night I was feeling especially horny, having gone two weeks without cumming. When we went to bed I stroked and cuddled my wife but she rolled away from me making it clear that she wasn't interested. This led to a big row and my wife getting really upset and crying uncontrollably. She complained that she always feels like I want sex with her every time I touch her and that this makes her feel tense and destroys any desire that she might otherwise have. As a result, she never actually gets to the stage where she might want sex with me and the problem just perpetuates.

Like I say, she was really upset and could not see a way out of this vicious circle. I love my wife and could not bear to see her unhappy, so I suggested this deal:

I promised her that from now on I would NEVER expect to have sex with her. Thus if I was cuddling her she would know that it was just a cuddle not my trying to cajole her into making love. This should remove the whole tension between us, and over time, perhaps her interest would revive. In return for this restraint on my part, she would be happy to give me a quick handjob, on request, say once a week.

My wife thought that this was a very good idea. She kissed me and we sealed the deal by her giving me a handjob there and then. Her favourite position for this is a kind of 69, with her on top, my head between her thighs. As I lay on my back I could smell her lovely pussy, now denied to me indefinitely. With her s*******ed hands she made me cum in under two minutes. After cleaning up, we fell arelax happily holding hands.

So that is it. I may have solved the only source of rows in my marriage, but as a result, I may never feel pussy around my cock again.

I will post again over the coming weeks to let you know how it turns out.

Once you put it all upon her, one of 2 things may happen,
1 is she will never want sex with you again as
2, she may find someone else to pleasure her whom she doesn't have these issues with.
My ex is now a lesbian, she had similar issues as she came out of the closet.
I am not saying this is the only option, but some of this does sound familiar. There were lots of other things that came up, like feminizing me and my behavior, to make me more comfortable for her to be around, and her getting angry when i acted masculine, or stod and peed, for example.

My wife confessed to me a decade ago that she didn't enjoy penetration with me - something to do with the shape of my penis. I let her decide after that and penetration dropped to a one or twice a year event (for me; we were already cuckolding.) About seven or eight years ago she cut me off for good. Since then her mouth has also gone off limits for my cock and I've even signed papers swearing to never again penetrate the orifices of another permister with my little cock.

She does enjoy penetration and giving blow-jobs with her lovers, and she allows me to pleasure her sometimes. She has also allowed me to be penetrated and generally used by others (in chastity, I am not allowed to come while having sex with people) but any possibility of me "topping" is forbidden (even with my blow-up doll husband - I only receive, never penetrate.)

I wish I could tell you that the memory fades and the desire to sink yourself into the warm folds (or to feel her lips wrapped around you) goes away - but so far it doesn't one bit.

For me, I get a deeper thrill from the denial, the degradation, the offense of it all - a thrill that gets greater as each year goes by. (Sometimes she teases me about the day years from now when I can no longer get it up and how I'll look back on decades of wasted potential and feel the full burden of my loss!)

I hope you can get some kind of similar consolation.

Good luck.
Pantalone, Wittol, oblate, abnegator, fellator, pathic, irrumatiophile,fop, epicene, cotquean, skivvy, thrall, and pilgarlic.

Well that was a surprise! The night before last I was woken up with the feeling of my wife's fingers trailing across my body. She then started stroking my cock. I opened my eyes to find she had dressed up in sexy underwear. What followed was frantic love making with my wife demanding my hard cock deep inside her. We both came strongly.

I can only imagine that now that I have promised never to ask her for sex she has relaxed and rediscovered her libido. Long may it last. She is in total control of our sex life now and maybe that is what both of us need.

An update. Unfortunately there has been no repeat of the incident above. So no pussy for me for three weeks and counting.

Ten days ago, I was feeling horny and my wife was about to go away for the weekend, so I asked for my 'mercy handjob'. This was duly granted in my wife's favourite position (see post above). Once again the smell and sight of her pussy just out of reach and her practiced hands brought me off really quickly. A fantastic orgasm - but oh so quick.

In the last few days my wife has had a really sore shoulder and cannot use her right arm at all, She has an appointment next week with a doctor. This has resulted in my doing all of the housework and cooking (we usually share). It also means that even a handjob is out of the question. Yes she could probably do it left-handed, but it would be insensitive to ask while she is in pain.

One final twist. Her sore shoulder makes it difficult for her to relax. To avoid my waking her up when she does manage to get in a comfortable position she has asked me to relax in the spare room.

So no pussy, no handjob, no relaxing in the same bed and no idea how long this state will last. And I feel so horny!!

<sigh>

I share your pain. My wife no longer wants sex from me, although she will on rare occasions (twice this year so far) have mercy on me and allow penetration, all the while telling me to hurry up. She generally has a bored look while I am making love to her. She does, however, have a boyfriend that she sees regularly. I saw the two of them together once and he is huge, at least 10, perhaps 12 inches! No wonder she looks bored with me now. They have been seeing each other for a few years now and since then I have been moved out of the bedroom completely.

One thing I have found that takes the edge off for me is a device called a "fleshlight". If you have never experienced one, it is well worth it. It feels very close to the real thing, not a perfect substitute, but the closest thing I can have regularly.

My wife & I have discussed the idea of her boyfriend moving in with us. While I cringe at the thought, I would at least get to hear her enjoying sex from time to time and maybe even get to watch. My wife loves the idea of me cleaning her up afterward, which I have done often, but not recently. I have also performed orally for a previous lover of hers and actually enjoyed it! Once, and I have fond memories, she took me with a strap-on while I sucked her lover. It was awesome! But, I also was allowed to penetrate her afterword as well. Now, if we were to repeat the situation, I am not so sure...but I would do it to at least have some kind of sex with her.

Her pleasure is the most important to me.

Further news...

So here we are in the middle of August. My wife still has a sore shoulder and she is also experiencing discomfort in her back and one knee. I've had no sexual contact with her at all since my pity handjob a month ago. I so crave her body - her pussy, her gorgeous large breasts. I would give anything even for a french kiss! I am trying to resist asking her for a handjob as I know she is in discimfort. but I do miss the touch of her body and I feel perpetually horny.

And now it's September. Sadly no repetition of my wife initiating lovemaking like she did on 1st July. She has given me two lovely handjobs since then, but no pussy for me. There is another thing about my wife and handjobs. If she is giving me a handjob it is because she doesn't want sex, and that means she doesn't want stimulation of any kind, so I cannot lick or suck her nipples and I can't even have a French kiss. So not only has her pussy been off-limits for 2 months, but her breasts and mouth are too.

As I mentioned I am perpetually horny and hence I spend a fair amount of time on sites like this getting myself worked-up! My wife doesn't mind if I masturbate, but I now I have a tricky dilemma...I never know if tonight will be the night that my wife wants sex, so I don't want to risk having an orgasm through masturbation and taking the edge off sex with my wife - if I've waited 2 or 3 months for it, I want to be fresh for it. So I end up wanking but not cumming!

There is only one day per month when I can pretty much guarantee that my wife won't want sex - that is on the first day of her period. She usually feels grim. On that day I allow myself to cum.

So that is my life at the moment. Perpetually randy; trying very hard to please my wife in every way; never asking for sex; cumming through my own hand once a month; cumming by my wife's hands maybe once a month and in a state of longing and hope for the day she might let me sample the delights of her lips, her breasts and her pussy.

One nagging thought occurs to me. I've always assumed that my wife's only interest in this arrangement was to stop me pestering her for sex when she didn't want it. But it occurred to me as I wrote this that she may be getting some sort of satisfaction for the denial and control she is exercising over me. She now has a very attentive husband who she knows is constantly craving the body she has denied him.

What do you think - might she be reveling in the situation am I just imagining things?