MrsBlackBlowupDoll:
(It may sound counterintuitive, but my enthusiasm with real gay partners is increased by the fact that I don't get off, only they do. A quirk of some sort?)
No, no, no my friend ... this is by no means a quirk.
I have the very same feelings that you describe. It's an overwhelming thrill and honor for me to please a Man sexually for the sole purpose of His orgasm and satisfaction. I derive ALL of my pleasure and satisfaction from His orgasm. When I make love to a Man's Penis, I don't think about myself at all. I don't achieve an erection even when my chastity cage is removed. At most, I infrequently experience just a little bit of pre-cum.
I'm no psychiatrist so I don't claim to understand it, but sex to me now is exclusively about Men and their pleasure. It has got to have something to do with me not considering myself to me a man. I am a male, but I never refer to myself as a man. I consider myself to be a wimp and a sissy so maybe psychologically there is a need to be submissive to and to honor Real Men. There is no doubt in my mind that I have turned completely gay and that I am now a card carrying homosexual. Heck, I remember 10-15 years ago if I was in an adult book store, I would have to wait until the 'coast was clear' before I would sneak a peek at a gay magazine or quickly go into a gay movie booth. Hell, today I ONLY go directly to the gay magazine and DVD sections and I leave the door to the gay movie booth open for all the Men to see me. I am TOTALLY PROUD of my homosexuality and I really and truly want the Real Men to see me for who I really have become. So far I have admitted my homosexuality to two of my closest long time male friends and to my spouse's ex-husband. Over the next several years I look forward to completely coming out to our friends, family, and co-workers.
Back to pleasing Men and denying myself pleasure. My spouse and I have been married for over 27 years. I am proud to say (and so is she and her ex) that I have not had penetrative sex with her for over 20 years. Back in the day, I considered myself to be heterosexual or at least bi. I can somewhat recall that my primary motivation for 'making love' to my spouse was to ultimately have an orgasm. I did what I needed to do for her to make her happy to get on with my agenda of cuming. I'm no expert (hahaha) on this subject, but I don't sense that Real Men treat love making with a woman in the same way that I did. When I watch my spouse's ex really make love, His goal always seems to be my spouse's total pleasure. This seems to be what excites Him and what brings Him pleasure. I see myself doing the very same thing when I'm with a Man. My total focus is on His pleasure and enjoyment. When I'm having sex with a Man, it is completely different from what I remember about sex with my spouse. With a Man, I no longer have an agenda that includes an orgasm for me. It is all about His satisfaction and sexual release. My reward is His pleasure and ultimately a mouthful of His tasty cum.
Today, sex to me is all about Men and Cock. I think about it, dream about it, fantasize about it, act upon it, and LOVE it.
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