first time?

Just got off the phone with my wife, shes away for a girls weekend. She knows id love her to be unfaithful as its something ive slowly introduced into the bedroom over the last few years (dirty talk) but shes always said she doubted she could actually do it, which has been fine for me as long as the dirty talk continued whilst we were fucking. however, shes just rang from her girls weekend away (obviously im saying she can do anything as long as she tells me about it) but she went very quiet. ive asked if shes done anything to which she said no and i beleive her but she was dancing with a guy and she has arranged to meet him tonight.
problem is it has made me both horny and incredibly jealous at the same time.
a massive part of me is wanting her to get her married pussy filled so she can tell me all about it, but the other part is thinking i should stop her.
i think if she meets him they will definitely fuck.
also this is very true not like alot of made up stuff. just thought id share it as it was partly this site that got me thinking about her in that way.

Its called cuckold angst! Its quite normal so dont worry on that score. What you have to know though, is how strong your relationship is before you set off down this path.

If you have not talked this through seriously, and you enter this lifestyle in a casual manner, then it can spell danger and potentially end your relationship. If however you have both set the rules and understand the potential pitfalls and feel you are both able to handle the undoubted stresses (of which you are experiencing one of the first right now) as well as the joys, then this maybe is for you.

Its not all like you read on these sites, it can be wonderful or it can be a disaster or any shade in-between. Just make sure you all understand the risks first.

Good luck

pops

thanks, i have thought alot about it and we do love each other immensley.
i know it would def only be a sex thing for her and no real emotions so i dont know why im feeling apprehensive.
in the past i have been unfaithful but she doesnt know this, so i know it can just be sex without any emotional commitment.
still feel both turned on and apprehensive though.
cheers

I totally agree with popeye1.

I will just add my feeling that unless you call her and clearly tell her no ... what you need to do is hold on and hopefully enjoy the ride.

cheers for that FantMstr
im definiteley conflicting but then i think how will i feel if im just inside her and she tells me about it, i know its gonna make me cum pretty quickly so im letting her do what comes naturally. if she does great if she doesny then thats fine also.
id never make her do it for me, it has to be fun for her and her choice.

Like pops said, you're showing the first classic signs of 'cuckold angst' You're being torn apart by such a mixture of strong emotions, jealousy, hatred perhaps, the most incredible horny feeling ever, and you're full of doubt. This is quite normal, especially in the very beginning of developing a cuckold led marriage. The important thing is, as pops said, to ensure you have a good, sound basis for your marriage, otherwise you could well suffer from a marriage breakdown etc.
The other thing I would advise you to do is to separate 'love' and good old fashioned sex. They're quite different. If she fucks this guy, it will be just sex, highly enjoyable and perhaps addictive, but it's still just sex. Emotions are best kept out of cuckold marriages or it could become messy.
Let us know how things progress, we'd all like to know.

cheers kennyboy.
i agree it should just be pure sex. as i said, i have been with others as a bull really as the husbands set it up and enjoyed it, however it never maade me feel less love for my wife.
ill let you know what happens.
cheers

You will be fine, just don't make her feel guilty, cheap or like she committed a sin. Also don't pressure her with the tiny details. Let her tell you in her own way at her own time.

Also you keep saying that you have had sex outside the relationship and it has not effected your relationship with your wife, but keep in mind that for a woman, having sex with another man can be a very different thing.

The psychology of a woman is so very different and very much more emotionally driven than a mans is. Don't assume that because you responded in a particular way that your wife will do the same. This is one of those areas where huge mistakes can result in a sad and unhappy endings if not very carefully understood.

again good luck

pops

Thanks popeye, i did take that into account but im also thinking as shes away its not likeley she will form a relationship, not impossible but not likeley.
spoke to her about an hour ago and she never mentioned anything so i didnt ask. one of the girls had her bag stolen so that took up most of the conversation, plus i could hear one of the girls in the background, so she may not want to tell me.
she will be ringing later so i will try and keep you informed.
thanks for all the advice.

Keep us posted

artlu, you're getting worthwhile advice from a number of established people on this site, so try and heed it. None of us is saying there's a magic formula for success, every situation is different and particular to the people involved, but the principles involved cover most situations. Whatever else, don't pressurise her, let her take her time both with any physical action and with telling you the detail of what went on. Do gently encourage her though, and good luck and success to you both.

im appreciative of the advice and it all sounds alot like how i would play it anyway but its good to have it confirmed.
she is home tomorrow and we have spoke on the phone, ive tried to be subtle with what ive said.
i am getting the feeling something has happened but not full sex (could be wrong).
problem is, i am away with work on friday so ill try to keep you updated, if i dont get the chance then it will be next week sometime.
i think ill be fine with the sex side but i need to know theres no emotional connection too.
cheers guys.

Nothing more to add really and you have been given such incredibly good advise by people who honestly care.

Yes there are some good guys on here

There is such a lot of talk about fantasy and virtual. It's actually quite good to read about someone's true feelings and real life worries and concerns. Sorry, I don't mean that in a bad way.

If you and your wife really do love and care for each other, then all I would suggest is what has been said earlier. Enjoy the fact your wife will have the enjoyment and pleasure of purely physical sex. There is a world that separates love sex from just physical.

I'm in a relationship myself and have been for over a year now. With a lovely younger lady who has a big sex drive. We spoke about things as early as we could and agreed it would be best for her to have lovers.
She enjoys it very much and our partnership is getting stronger and stronger as time goes by.

Trust. That's the word.
stevensmiles

stevensmiles - I can only endorse everything you've said. There's a world of difference between lovers fucking and the emotional side of 'making love' with your partner. As you say, Trust is the word.

Hi guys,
well ive asked in a softly softly way and she has said she did nothing but was tempted.
i do beleive her as ive said i wouldnt hold it against her but she insists she didnt do anything. she has done a bit fantasy talk about her time away but she did have a few details mixed up on different occasions as to what she had already said. this also makes me beleive she didnt do anything as i had to correct her on what she had said she done.
shes also said its my fantasy not really hers so i guess ill just have to accept the dirty talk, but i appreciate even that is alot more than some guys get.
if she ever does go all the way or if i suspect it, then i will post on here to let everyone know.
totally appreciate the advice guys.
and if i get some photos of her, ill try and share them too.
cheers