How long did it take you to get your wife to agree to another cock?

I've been trying for almost 15 years (slowly at first) with big black dildos and role play to get her excited about trying BBC (or any other type of extra marital sex), but it's hard to know if she will cross the line anytime soon. She is still incredibly HOT and sexy now...but nobody is getting younger. Wondering now if I should find a bull as a "friend" and try to set up a hang out or have a few adult beverages situation to loosen her up to a real world opportunity to make it happen. Thoughts?

From me first bringing the subject up it was 4 years before my wife did it the first time

Well to be honest, the last 5 years has been much more concentrated in day to day joking about her getting it/ wanting it in day to day. In the bedroom she only cums when we role play that she is actually doing it, is there anything in particular that convinced her or got her over the edge?

bigaldog50
Not looking to piss anybody off.
But I believe if a Man is a Hell of Fuck constantly from the get,You can get them there easily.We started very young and I know that did it.I was known as the guy that Fuckedem All ( know how stories grow) But She was my Favorite Fuck and I wanted to share,just went from there and things evolve.

My wife knew from when we started dating just before college that it had happened before we met. My college roomie was a huge black football player and it didn't take long,lol

From my initial suggestion that I'd be okay about it if she had sex with someone else to her actually doing it was over 2 years. Her first reaction was "Yeah, as if!", but slowly but surely she realised that I was actually serious. We sometimes talk about possible scenarios in bed, usually after she had a dr1nk or two, but the introduction of a realistic looking sex toy (bought for her as a joke as a present by neighbours returning from holiday) into our foreplay definitely pushed things along.

Using it on my wife in bed really aroused me as I told her how good it was watching "another man's cock" going in and out of her and how naughty she was doing it with "him" right there in front of her husband. This turned her on as she came stronger and noisier than usual, murmuring, "Yeah, and you love it!"

Ground rules were agreed. Despite the fact that she'd been sterilised we felt it a good idea that she use condoms that I would buy for her and that she wouldn't go with anyone I knew so I couldn't put a face to the name. Later I readily accepted both rules going by the board as an ex-workmate of mine, after years of trying, succeeded at last in getting my wife into bed and pumping a copious amount of cum into her. Her pussy, her rules I suppose.

The first extra-marital coupling I was fully aware of was with a customer at the shop she worked in. He was only 23 but asked my wife out for a dr1nk, unperturbed by the knowledge that she was just about to turn 35 and married with 4 kids. This came as a bit of a surprise as we'd fully expected one of her delivery lorry drivers who'd also been chatting her up to be first, but this young lad beat him to that married pussy.
Peter C

For us, it was five or six years, but there was a long break, about two years, where one night we were talking about it and she said "let's stop this until the kids are away from home." She meant to stop until they were away for college.
I was actually very enthused by her saying that because I translated it to be "yes it's possible, but I don't want to do it until the kids are gone"
Lol. The first night we were driving back home from taking the youngest to school, we stopped in a hotel and as we fucked, I brought it up again. Interestingly, she laughed and said "I was wondering how this would take you."
Even then, it took over a year before she was clearly and honestly saying, yes.

I want to make another comment. Whether it's a friend or a stranger, at home or away, those are things that you should be trying to talk about when you do the role-play. It's different for every woman. My wife insisted that it be with a stranger, that it be away from home, That it be something she could do by meeting a guy like at a bar, having a night with him, and never see him again. So I think it's important that you discuss such details if you can, so that when or if the opportunity arises, you can plan it and do it the right way for her

This is the second marriage for both of us. She wouldn't even consider listening to anything about it till we were empty nesters. Then the playing got naughtier, the role playing, the toys, the porn and finally she agreed to it . She agreed to do one time to shut me up. It had to be put of town and she wasn't very thrilled about trying bbc. But I won her over and we went out of town and found d one on line she thought she'd like to meet and try. He was probably the best one of the her choices, he took his time and at first was very gentle, by the end of the night she was taking everything he had to offer except anal. She was hooked we meet him several times after that first night until he moved away, by then she was hooked. I'd say about three yrs before she finally agreed and there's no looking back. She's a full time bbc slut getting it at least 3 times a week now

Gunner35

A special thanks to everyone contributing, I know every wife is different as well as every situation. lynnblack I don't think you pissed anyone off and thank you for your candidness, I'm just frustrated on how to get over the hump and to get into the hump. I know getting the "right" bull for the first time is important, just trying to figure out how to get her comfortable enough to try. I would think the excitement we've started should get her there, but there is something blocking her inhibitions from following through. She knows I want to and it turns both of us on...but there is some block to get through.

Peter C
I could not agree more!!!

Using it on my wife in bed really aroused me as I told her how good it was watching "another man's cock" going in and out of her and how naughty she was doing it with "him" right there in front of her husband. This turned her on as she came stronger and noisier than usual, murmuring, "Yeah, and you love it!"

I get the same reaction doing the same thing, I know she wants it and gets her going but I wonder if that's enough to meet her needs...

bigaldog50
Thanks bigaldog50!
Wishing Yall Lots Of Fun

lynnblack
We can only hope right?!

bigaldog50
Actually,We have a perfect Marriage,Relationship,We Were 100% Made for Each Other.
Not rubbing it in.Just have to state it.
But Yes We Hope Yall can have even a little bit of the Fun We have had.
Best of Fuck Luck To Ya

bigaldog50


Maybe my wife was more of a slut before I met her than your wife was and my tentative suggestions that she might enjoy a different cock from time to time gave her the opportunity to go back to some of her old ways. Even then it took over 2 years before she was sure I'd definitely be okay with it. The fact that she let that young guy fuck her 3 times on a first date perhaps speak volumes about her needs!
Peter C

My particular kink is to fuck another man's wife. I especially enjoy it when the woman makes it verbally clear that she is fucking me, and not her husband. It really turns me on to think about her vagina as a "married pussy".

So, with that kink said, let me say that I do NOT like being referred to as a Bull. I am not a robot sex machine or a stupid ani mal. I am her boyfriend. And, for the moment that we share, I love her and she loves me back.

So, when I say that I want to fuck your wife, what I am really saying is that I want to make love with her.

Just FYI for you guys trying to figure out how to get your wife to fuck another man. Let her fall in love and the sex will follow.

All JMHO

lynnblack
We are exactly the same in our marriage, that's what maybe her hang up...I think she is afraid it could mess up what we have and the fun won't be worth the risk.

Peter C
We met when we were 20, as I understand it she wasn't a horny girl but would allow guys to fuck her to keep them around. We have had some really great sex sessions but when she turned 40 her sexual hunger came alive and for the first time had orgasms! Now that young guy that plunged his cock in your wife 3 times in one sitting is sooooo HOT!

Married_Dom
Married pussy IS THE BEST! I love when she moans "cum in my married pussy"

I do not want to get preachy, but please do not make it happen by getting her *****. Seducing a ***** woman is as satisfying as win a chess game against a dead goldfish. If she enjoys a glass of wine or two with dinner, fine, or a cocktail after dinner, nice. But, do not get smashed then turn her over to a stranger

sudsycat
I agree with you totally, just enough to relax for her to feel free to explore without pressure to do anything but give her the ability to feel comfortable to the idea that's it's okay if she finds herself to attracted to another man. I fully want her to enjoy a possible sexual experience that's not with her husband and that I am fine with it.

skellyf
That is great information and will keep it along with all the other tips everyone has greatfully shared.

it really all about mind-games. you may not know her background (which is really the core of her mind) so you need to get 'around' it.



first, the impt question is whether she is able to fantasise. this is never an easy question to answer as it involves many factors. most impt of which is whether she IS ABLE to at the very least, fantasise with you about being a hotwife. THIS IS KEY.

if she has not, then it is a harder hill to climb.

1. there are some things that you must first learn - patience and persistence. these are your tools to help you achieve this.

2. never push her. you must be very very patient in getting your fantasy to be a reality. always let her think she is in control of it. this means that if she does not want to talk or fantasise anymore, stop. respect her wishes. start again another time. but be persistent. she will give in eventually.

this is a slow and steady process and your Mrs MUST always have the feeling that she is in control. ALWAYS! This reassures her that should she want to stop, IT WILL BE STOPPED. only then will she trust you.

3. AGAIN REMEMBER that the focus here is your wife. not you and what you desire her to do for you (please understand this as they will learn the truth).

this was one of the methods i used on my wife......





my mrs loves to suck cock. she really loves it as she can go for an hour or more just sucking on one. and you will only enjoy having your cock sucked IF the person sucking enjoys what she is doing. i should know this as im her hubby. she loves to swallow too. and not the porn you watch type where they spit it out! she love to taste it and swallow (i suppose this was the thing that turned me bi too as i loved watching her do it so much that i too got hooked).

so during my convincing her to join a swing party, i bought a vibrator and when she was sucking my cock, i used the vibrator on her. now when she sucks she is in heaven and then applying the vibe on her pussy was the ultimate for her. i used that moment to fantasise that it was a mutual friends. an american guy that we knew (she is partial to orang putih). this method me a great deal in convincing her that another cock or cocks would be great in our sex life. so i did this time and time again. this was the persistent part. as long as she likes sex, half the battle is won.

about 4th month - the reluctance soon gave way. and she began to allow me to talk to her about a third person.

about 8th month - then i began to ask her things. and she answered!!

with this i knew i was doing the right things.

10th month - while having sex SHE asked for the vibrator.

after a year of some hard work she finally agreed to join in a swing party. and the rest is history. this was the patience part.

she enjoyed herself at the party. and it was enjoyable to watch her too.

so keep plugging at it. always remember that the focus is on her. not you.

we began with swinging, then moved gradually (as my cuckold side began to emerge) to threesomes and finally cuckolding. this is something i really enjoy. i especially watching the action up close (like in fucklicking) as it is so intoxicating.

as i noted, patience, persistence, and non-pushy.


secondly, compliment her dressing, her beauty, her sexiness. and do it truthfully. women can tell if you are bull-shitting or theres something behind the compliments.

send her flowers, chocolates at her workplace. let her feel proud in front of her friends, family.

this is an entire package of things you need to do. men are different. we only want 1 thing. with women it takes many things. and your heart.

i did all these things to convince, cajole and encourage my wife. it took me more than a year before she agreed to join me in a swing party. happiest moment of my life.





rushing into cuckolding
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sharing your wife is already a big step. getting her to cuckold you is even greater. so consider taking this one step at a time.

my advice to you is to leave out the cuckolding part of it for now. That will come later. Currently you are only focused on your needs which is for her to cuckold you.

So leave that part out for now. instead, focus on HER PLEASURES. make sure she reaches new heights, better climaxes and mind-blowing pleasures. Get her more involved in the sex. Introduce a dildo, if you have not already. Then show her 3some porn - mmf, orgies, gbs where there are more men than women. This will engage her curiosity about having more than one cock.

but always keep these in mind - persistence, patience, non-pushy.

this is all a plan.....as once she starts experiencing all these new things, your sex life will change and then you slowly bring cuckolding into place. so your time will come my friend.

that will be the ultimate. her the tools. and then fuck her with it, while watching a nice cuckold porn movie. find out who she likes to fuck her. colleague, neighbour, friend etc. then introduce the vibrator as the person. in her pussy or mouth while your cock does the free hole. your wish to be cuckolded will come (cum??) true.

because one day when you see a large hard cock plunging in and out of your wifes pussy, and juices spurting everywhere, the wonderful squishing sounds the aroma wafting into your nose as you watch this up close then you know your time has come. and it is just fucking erotic. we had so many wonderful moments too with my wife.

i hope this helps.

dan

nightbirds_2
Thanks Dan for that informative insight. I have been non pushy and fallowed the basic steps, and she is able to fantasize about it and that's when she gets the horniest. We have some of the best sex after joking about her doing it and during role play, she has told me that she likes the idea of two men concentrating on her and pleasuring her as the center of attention. She even wears the QOS clothing I bought her and anklets almost constantly. I think her mind is there but cautious of making it "real".

bigaldog50
Sounding Better all the time.I think if and when You Really want it,It Can Happen.Good Luck nd Good Fucking

lynnblack
Thank you so much! gotta get the timing and right bull down for the start of an amazing experience I have been dreaming of.

Seriously, what thick black guy wouldn't want to fuck and empty their balls inside her??? Married pussy is THE BEST!!!

Built for BBC, seriously...who wouldn't do anything to fuck and eat her?

bigaldog,

Of course, your wife is cute, you need to realize that she might not be ready. Also, you may not. The relationship will never be the same.

Your wife may just be posing for you. A wife that loves her husband will do that and I think she talks to you that way with pillow talk but will not want to follow thru.

Just be nice, yes at my old age "been there, done that"

bigaldog50

cautious is the way to go no??? rather than jump in with both feet?? you job is to guide her, gently into the lifestyle. so take her cues. let her take baby steps into this. she, above all, needs to be safe, feel safe.

always keep in mind here that the focus here is not on you and your needs. but her.

cuckold_2
That is good insight, you maybe correct. In the same breath I know there are lots of wives that either love it or wished their husband would be interested in her getting so much pleasure and he still worships her.

nightbirds_2
It's not that I don't want us to be cautious and careful, definitely NOT to rush into anything.I'm just caught in the thought that if too much time moves by that we could miss out on the possibility of this kind of pleasure.

bigaldog50
I'm not there,but I believe She is ready if You are.What You stated earlier about right timing,and right guy is true and being the first time,You have a lot of angst.
It has been Great for us for fifty Years.
Good Luck,Hope You get to be CuckBro