many questions so few answers

i have been interested in cuckoldry for quite a while i am with a wonderful woman who knows about my fantasies, that said we have played with the idea allot and had fun with it but no further while intrigued by it she has not taken it any further i think the usual subjects at play here societies expectations of a woman's role , the taboo of a woman taking on another lover , would she lose me ,she would be classed as a slut ,it would tear us apart,it would give me an excuse to ***** with other women all poppycock all that crap drummed in from ********* to all of us and also the unending bbc sissy crap that also completely turns her and me off every hot wife has to be blacked or the SO humiliated ahhhh no wonder so many fail the very stuff that you turn to for help and advice is full of this stuff great if your into that fantasy stuff but when your starting out and try and look into the subject your bombarded with all this bbc, gang bang, slut, whore ,***** her ***** him stuff no wonder she backs off rapidly .i love respect and cherish my girl i want her to have fun, safe sex, orgasms, feel safe and loved yes i think she could get an adequate sex life from me but i think she is missing out on some things and new experiences which i want her to have she does not want to lose me i dont want to lose her although there are no certainties in life that we are all sure of but cumon give us a break just need advice and some pointers to some real stuff and advice for developing a loving cuckold relationship we are a couple and anyone with her is invited by us and are only there on both of our mutual say so and she will always have the final say on how things are to go my point being it is hard enough to have that first conversation without her going on line and finding all the masochistic misogynistic bull **** on allot of sites does anyone have any real advice or pointers or even real advice forums videos on the subject that are not full of the stereotypical usual crap that seems to turn so many women away from the idea your help will be very much appreciated