Cuckold Research - the scientific truth.....or not.

The truth about Cuckolding
It is only within the last 40-50 years that the cuckold lifestyle has evolved. References to cuckolding appear in literature as early as the 13th century, usually in the form of male characters who fear that their ***** has been sired by another man during an act of infidelity. Today, however, cuckolding has become fetishised into a powerful sexual fantasy for some men, who get aroused by the idea of their romantic partner engaging in sexual activity with someone else. Women also share this fantasy, but less so than men. In fact, it is probably only within the last 10-15 years that it has become extremely popular. Research by neuroscientists Ogi Ogas and Sai Gaddam found that search terms related to cuckold, (such as "cuck", "hotwife", "wifewatching", etc.) is now the second most popular heterosexual porn category on Google, after search terms related to youth (such as "just legal", barely legal" "sc00lgirls" etc.). An interesting fact is that over the past 10 years, results reveal that searches related to swinging have dramatically decreased, while searches related to cuckolding have been on the rise, and have now overtaken swinging in porn searches. More research is definitely needed on why this is happening.

But what is the cause of this fantasy and lifestyle. I decided to try and find out if there is any scientific reasons for the way we behave. Trawling through the internet, it appears that very little scientific research has been done into this subject.

The main source of information comes from two American Doctors. Dr Justin Leymiller believes that cuckolding, or at least thinking about it, is more common than you might imagine. In his book, "Tell Me What You Want: The Science of Sexual Desire and How It Can Help Improve Your Sex Life," Lehmiller surveyed thousands of Americans and found that 58% of men and about a third of women had fantasised about cuckolding.

Overall, his research found that for the most part, cuckolding tends to be a positive fantasy and behaviour. It doesn't appear to be evidence of disturbance, of an unhealthy relationship, or of disregard for one's partner. But there's an important caveat, added Lehmiller. We found several personality factors that predict more positive experiences acting on cuckolding fantasies. For those who have a lot of relationship anxiety or abandonment issues, who lack intimacy and communication, and who aren't careful, detail-oriented planners, acting on a consensual non-monogamy fantasy could very well be a negative experience," he said. "In other words, not everyone who has a cuckolding fantasy should think about acting on it.
But why do we have these fantasies. To be continued........

So, why do we want to be cucks?
There are several theories and explanations when it comes to why you would like to see your partner being intimate with someone who isn't you. These are just a few ideas that have been put forward:

The pleasure could be linked to another person being better in bed or more physically attractive than you are. This can be linked to BDSM- specifically the masochism aspect of being humiliated
The eroticization of male anxiety about their partner cheating on them
Sperm competition. When a man knows that a woman is ******** with multiple men, including him, he actually sub-consciously can have biological changes. His sperm count can rise and his thrusts will be deeper and harder during sex to try and be the one to fertilize her
Men could actually gain psychological gratification from knowing that others want what he has - known as king bee syndrome
Mental anguish in people with heightened IQs can cause a form of psychological sadomasochism
There's an element of escapism, taking a break from the restrictions and predictability of daily life
The thrill of competition
********* experiences. This could be anything from ***** to accidentally catching your p@rents at it, and being told to "Get Out".

These and other theories have been put forward by several intellectuals, but with the lack of any detailed research, no-one can agree which of these are most likely to influence us. It may be that we are all different and that several of these factors will influence different individuals in different ways.

Origins - Inevitably, these urges can come from a place in the psyche which has been shaped by the past both positively and negatively. Most often they can be traced back to things such as early *****. But the source can be as subtle as having low self-esteem — maybe about insecurity of one's penis size — or some either positive or negative ********* experience that becomes
imprinted and subsequently eroticized, such as being left out of a parental relationship.

Genuine Cuckolds

As we all know, the term comes from the cuckoo bird who leaves its eggs in the nest of other birds. So, in that respect, a genuine cuckold, is a man who knowingly or unknowingly, brings up, as his own, the offspring of another male. But how common is it for a man to be in this situation?

A survey published in Trends in Ecology and Evolution sums up a number of recent studies that show the actual rate of cuckolds in the general population, based on genetic testing and ancestor research, is 1-2 percent. This challenges evolutionary psychologists who have suggested that human women "routinely 'shop around' for good genes by engaging in extra-pair copulation to obtain genetic benefits." This idea came in part from studying socially monogamous songbirds, which mate for life but have roughly 1 in 10 babies as a result of "extra pair" matings.
Scientists were so ********* to believe that human women were different from songbirds that some suggested the discrepancy between expected and actual rates of cuckoldry was a recent development caused by birth control. One study asserted that women who cheat may be getting pregnant less often than they would have historically. But that assumption turned out to be wrong as well. As the study authors write, human extra-pair paternity rates "have stayed near constant at around 1% across several human societies over the past several hundred years.


There may be other research out there abot cuckolding in general, but the above is what I have been able to find on the internet. Maybe some of you know of other information relating to our favourite fantasy/lifestyle.

Very interesting. Thanks. M

UK Yorky:

Very interesting research you did here. I never saw it put forth this way before and it got me to thinking of where I personally fit into the mix of cuckolds.

I see myself as enjoying some of each aspect of the different categories of being a cuck. I know it's always a turn on when my wife fucks black men and seeing how they drive her wild as they pump her full of cum. Taboo of sex.

I also love the loose slippery feeling of another man's sperm as I try to reclaim her pussy.
There's always the clean up duty of tasting another man's cum in her, and it's always a really big thrill when you find a surprise when you get home and she's see been unfaithful behind your back. Let's also throw in the excitement of being told to suck another mans cock before or after it's fucked your wife.

I also find that other men wanting her is a thrill, and the idea of another man trying to impregnate my wife is hot. All in all, it's just a hell of a lot of fun having a slut for a partner who is always hungry for more cock!

So..... what kind of cuckold am I?? Maybe more research is still needed there?
Cuck who loves a creampie.

LOL.....keep on researching

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Yes it is

cuckold4one
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To UK Yorky,

Many thanks for your extraordinarily helpful post. In particular, you noted those for whom cuckolding could be dangerous to the marriage, and even more particularly "For those who have a lot of relationship anxiety or abandonment issues ..."

Now, my wife had a grand time enjoying lots of different cocks when she was single. I've had the cuckolding fantasy, which she sometimes thinks is very fun and sexy, but more often not. I, on the other hand, had very little sexual experience prior to marriage. So I thought the main issue with trying it would be how *I* would handle it, not her, since as I said she had had lots of cock prior to me.

BUT, for a number of reasons, such as never knowing who her male parent was (sorry, stupid site bleeped the common word for male parent beginning with letter "f"), she has abandonment issues and relationship insecurity. Your post made me see in a flash that cuckolding must remain a fantasy of mine, and perhaps occasionally a shared fantasy role play, but that is it. And that realization has also finally made me content and happy to keep it a fantasy.

Again, many thanks.

For me it's as simple as being cheated on, finding out and while being traumatized to a certain degree also being extremely turned on imagining my partner fucking another man. I honestly don't believe had my wife not had an affair that blindsided me years ago, I never would have worked up the nerve to propose the idea to her. My thought process was how could she take it hard when she actually did fuck another guy while we were married. That made it approachable. Now she's a hotwife and I'm her cuckold husband and we both love it.

I'm not convinced that the "cuckolding lifestyle" has evolved only in the last 40-50 years. I think that, as with other sexual/relationship phenomena such as homosexuality and abortion, what has changed is our willingness to openly discuss it.
And of course, as there are more and more of us on the same constant-sized planet the "density" so to speak of many behaviors is increasing, even if the percentage of the population participating in them is constant.
Old Enough to know better...but I don't!

I'm not sure how you came up with this statistic: a number of recent studies that show the actual rate of cuckolds in the general population, based on genetic testing and ancestor research, is 1-2 percent

many widely published and cited studies have found that between 1/6 and one fourth of married women report having at least one affair during their marriage. that means A LOT of us are cuckold.
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cuckold4one
I Love all phases of being cucked,even being cucked by family,My Dad,brother,uncle,nephew,and now her at 60,being fucked by 20 year old who could make me great granddaddy by my own wife

Back to Elizabethan England via Shakespeare:

(from Love's Labors Lost)

When daisies pied and violets blue
And lady-smocks all silver-white
And cuckoo-buds of yellow hue
Do paint the meadows with delight,
The cuckoo then, on every tree,
Mocks married men; for thus sings he:
"Cuckoo;
Cuckoo, cuckoo!" O, word of fear,
Unpleasing to a married ear!

When shepherds pipe on oaten straws,
And merry larks are ploughmen's clocks,
When turtles tread, and rooks, and daws,
And maidens bleach their summer smocks,
The cuckoo then, on every tree,
Mocks married men; for thus sings he,
"Cuckoo;
Cuckoo, cuckoo!" O, word of fear,
Unpleasing to a married ear!

When icicles hang by the wall,
And Dick the shepherd blows his nail,
And Tom bears logs into the hall,
And milk comes frozen home in pail,
When ***** is nipp'd, and ways be foul,
Then nightly sings the staring-owl,
"Tu-who;
Tu-whit, tu-who!"—a merry note,
While greasy Joan doth keel the pot.

When all aloud the wind doth blow,
And coughing drowns the parson's saw,
And birds sit brooding in the snow,
And Marian's nose looks red and raw,
When roasted crabs hiss in the bowl,
Then nightly sings the staring owl,
"Tu-who;
Tu-whit, tu-who!"—a merry note,
While greasy Joan doth keel the pot.
creampie chef

Cuckoos are one of the few birds whose name comes from its call, and the Latin name too comes from this sound made by males on the lookout for a mate. It's a bird defined by its call.The now outdated English word cuckold is also derived from the call. A cuckold was a man whose wife had been unfaithful to him. The folklore associated with the bird relates to its extraordinary habit of laying its egg in the nest of another bird. The cuckoo chick hatches before those of the host bird, and immediately ejects all the other eggs from the nest so that it gets the undivided attention of its adopted parents. No wonder that the two-note call of the bird was a symbol of infidelity. A result of this predatory behaviour could be a man raising another's ***** as his own.
creampie chef

It could be an easy way for gay or bi husbands to play and fantasize that seems more acceptable to themselves and others.I suspect that most "cucks" on these sights watch a lot of GAY PORN. I do! And it's thrilling and satisfying. Thanks for you research. It's informative and interesting.
D

There is such a wide range of lifestyles that fit under the general term "cuckold" that it's hard to make generalizations about why men and couples go in that direction.

I'm not judgmental about what anyone is into, but I personally could never get into the extreme domination / humil iation stuff that seems to be the major thrill of Cuckoldry for many (even the majority?) of us on this website. I suspect that my avenue into it (not that I can really define it for you) was/is different than for those who are more overtly masochistic about being a Cuckold.
Old Enough to know better...but I don't!

My reading in the past has led me to understand that many married women, perhaps more than 50% will have sex with another man at some time during their marriage. Those that do so because they are participating in cuckolding lifestyle activities are in a minority. The main reasons being they fancy the guy, the guy hits on them and they are flattered, it makes them feel good, it makes them feel wanted or they have no choice. The latter perhaps accounts in part for the songbird phenomenon, a woman ****** to have sex or who was too inebriated to say no gets pregnant and passes the ***** off as her husbands.

I'd agree with you. With me working shifts - one week early, one week late - my wife developed a social life of her own. She liked male company and she enjoyed a dr1nk, so I felt it inevitable that at some point she'd be hit on by other men and be tempted. Fortunately this became a very arousing prospect and I decided that if it was going to happen I'd rather know about it than her have to do it behind my back.
Peter C