Slowly cut off

My wife has been cucking me for about 10 years and in that time she has had about 10 lovers. A few one night stands, few that lasted between 1 and 3 years and one guy (David) who was her first and still fucks her about once a month.

Over the last 6 months she has slowly been having less and less sex with me. Now I have not fucked her in over 3 months and this weekend she told me just to masterbate - once by myself because I was pestering her for sex (I was very horny because she told me she saw David last week while I was at work, she knows this gets me really horny) and once as I lay beside her while she used a new vibrator that David bought her. Normally when I am all worked up over her cucking she will give me a hand job with my Fleshlight. She knows I love her jerking me off with my Fleshlight after she fucks David. She has seen David 3 times since she last fucked me and this weekend told me several times how much she loves his muscular arms and that he totally satisfies her (she used the word "satisfies" specifically a number of times) but she would not jerk me off.

I am now wondering if I will ever again be allowed to have sex with my beautiful sexy wife or get a hand job. Has anyone else ever had this type of thing happen to them? Can you share you experience? Does anyone have any advise on how to handle this situation. I really love having sex with my wife and getting jerked off by her (especially after she has been with David) and I don't want that to stop forever.

Thanks.

This is a real picture of my wife for comment and captions

Wife looks very hot know the feeling being so close to your wife body and she wont let you touch her let alone fuck her.

Actually, things are really going your way! In your "Happening right now" thread you expressed great desire, need and lust for a chastity device controlled by David. It has happened! David's monthly fucking plus the satisfaction of the vibrating pleasures provided by his gifted dildo has freed her from any real use for your cock! There is no real reas0n for her to spend time and effort jerking off your dick any more! Perhaps David can also give you a dildo the same size as his prick. Then you and your wife can share mutual masturbation, each with your very own "David's" cock!


Many cuckolds have this happen to them. You have been evicted from the cunt of your own wife and completely replaced by the proud cock (and dildo) of her lover! The best way to deal with this shocking reality is to accept your true cuckold status. Now is the time to level with your wife. Tell her how forever much you love having sex and getting hand jobs from her after she's satisfied by David (or his dildo)! Rather than asking David or your wife to place you in chastity, take charge and do it yourself. Explain to her your wish to experience the full bitterness and masochistic thrills of self imposed chastity! She and David are free to enjoy all sexual pleasures that you deny yourself, unburdened by any guilt for your sacrifice. Use a numbered plastic lock instead of a real lock. This allows both her and her lover, plus yourself, to fully understand the depth of your kink. The only pers0n able to do this properly is you! Whatcha waitin' for?


Bliss for many a cuckold!
..............PSEUDO PERSON...YMMV!

Just don't think Id ever let that happen. Along with eventually loosing the connection with your wife, how can complete denial ever be satisfying. I like the idea of an open marriage but this looks more like the beginning of the end of a marriage.

My wife only wants black cock, and my job is to lick his seed from her pussy.

Phate, do you give your wife oral after David has fucked her?? If not, I can see why she has cut you off.
Cuck who loves a creampie.

I doubt that very many cuckolds ever even consider events like this happening to them.......... Until it does! I mean......... Sh1t only complicates the lives of those other cuckolds because they are assholes. Right?


Odds are: Opening a marriage to other men is the beginning of the end for many a cuckold marriage!


Occasionally, a cuckold may realize his imprudent, yet fervent, cheating wife lusts and fantasies has caused him to dr1nk the dregs of bitterness he now suffers as a loser. Some cuckolds then embrace the exquisite masochistic thrills of complete sexual denial and chastity. It may seem strange to many folk.

Regardless, how many cuckolds on this site are totally enamored with their chastity, sexual denial and strive to become pussy free? There are too many advocates "enjoying" their wife imposed, cuckold celibacy to lightly dismiss their lifestyles!

It works well for the right people!
..............PSEUDO PERSON...YMMV!

Owlcuck - Thanks, yes she is hot and never has a problem convincing a guy to fuck her. Agree, it is so bittersweet being in total love/lust with a women who is your wife who won't let you enter her beautiful pussy.

I.A.S.P - Your comments are very helpful and insightful. I know I should tell her I want to go into chastity but I just don't know how to do this. I am very embarrassed to admit it to her - would she think i am too weird? Would she be shocked? Laugh? What if she said "No"? You are right about why she doesn't even need to jerk me off anymore - she has him and his dildo, why bother with me. I find this strangely exciting, i jerked off after reading your feedback just thinking "wow, i really am a total cuckold now", the thought got me so worked up I could do nothing except masterbate. I like being ejected from her cunt and it makes me horny to think it has really happened because of David. Thanks so much for your comments!!

Jamal244 - I can see why you might think that but that is not happening. My wife and I are more in love than ever because we are being completely truthful with each other. Truth is a pillar in a good marriage.

Cuckold4one - that sounds very nice (licking cream pies) but my wife does not like it that much. Generally she does not like oral from me (or her lovers) but I wish she would let me do this. I dream about licking the load of another man out of my wife, i would love it!!!

Another photo for you of my beautiful sexy wife. I know from personal experience that reading these posts is so much more interesting if there is a picture to visualize and fantasize about while reading.

Could just be a phase because she's really into sex with her lover right now. If you really are concerned about the long term direction of your sexual relationship you should tell her your concerns. If she doesn't want a sexual relationship with you any longer I suspect she wants to tell you as well. She doesn't want to play the avoidance game because it becomes a nuisance to a woman who has moved on so to speak.

phate19010

She is hot!

Let me think about your particular situation and see if I can provide any sound advice. I haven't jerked off since the 1980's and may possibly be able to hopefully help you develop a Plan that works to get you back on top. I saw the movie "Fast Times At Ridgemont High". That scene where the guy was jerking off while wearing a silly costume and a pretty girl walks in and gets grossed out when she sees him............... That is something I never have been able to unsee............ Apparently that "cured" my self fist fucking habit.

Later!
..............PSEUDO PERSON...YMMV!

phate19010
Phate, your wife is gorgeous. Does she make you clean her after she has been with David?

schultz
Shultz - I wish she would ask me to clean her but I am sad to report that she does not want me to lick afterwards. On a very good day I get a story and a nice hand job.

I_A_S_P
IASP - thanks. Yes she is truly hot and very beautiful. Never has any problem getting a man to fuck her. Yes I would like your advise - the whole cuckold, masturbation, chastity triplex is super erotic for me but does cause some dissonance in my head. Any input welcome.

geecrizz
Geecrizz - you might be right. The other night I was looking for sex and she told me to jerk off instead. She rolled over and gave me her back. So maybe I should just ask her if she only going to fuck other guys going forward. If she said she would not be fucking me anymore then I would be incredibly turned on. It would be even better if her boyfriend was dictating me being cut off.

phate19010: How about keeping her photo's up a little longer? Many times, there already gone by the time I get back on here.
Cuck who loves a creampie.

wha I can't see the photo?
Submissive Cuckold - lives for many years in a female-led marriage with a cuckold lifestyle.

This makes a great deal of sense. I would consider this possibility in my thinking.


Again, I suggest you consider this in your assessment!


It should! You are attempting to conflate your cuckold lust, your extremely excessive masturbation, and chastity desires into harmony! You are being treated like any other cuckold, so must learn to deal with the same issues every cuckold must resolve. You masturbate more than a 15 year old, so I can't think you are able to last long or satisfy a woman's sexual needs. You want your wife to burden herself with the task of controlling your uncontrollable masturbatory follies. You can't get there from here with that strategy.

First, let's start with jerking off. The entire responsibility for controlling your masturbation is yourself! You are 100% wrong and inconsiderate by expecting David and your wife to task themselves with your sexual problems. We'll see if any of that can sink into your skull before I get back to you with the very simple solution to fixing your chastity issues.

Later!
..............PSEUDO PERSON...YMMV!

IASP - wow, you are so right. I masturbate way too much but I can't stop myself when I think of my wife with David or any man cumming inside her. Thinking it, typing it, fantasizing about it gets me so rock hard that I just have to jerk off. I am a true and deep cuckold. I deserve to be treated this way. You are so right on all points. I am going to jerk off right now thinking about your words. Thanks.

If you lack the self control to stop jerking off yourself, then there's only one course left open to you, and that is enf0rced male chastity. Yes, I'm talking about you being fitted with a cock cage, and your wife gets to keep the key, and she decides if and when you are allowed out, other than for supervised hygiene reasons.

kennyboy82
Kenny boy - I would LOVE that. Wish I had the balls to tell her that is what I want. My greatest fantasy is that her boyfriend would put me in chastity and keep the key himself.

It sure looks you have an excellent handle on your problems! Now to come up with a workable Plan to fix it without fucking with the best parts of your "triplex"!


Again, it seems like you have determined the main snag in your "fantasy triplex"!

1) You are happy with your wife and truly love being her cuckold. No reas0n to fuck with something that doesn't need to be fixed!

2) You are fascinated with chastity and would love to find a functional, hassle-free way to introduce and incorporate its thrills into your marriage! This is also doable!

3) You ruin everything by excessive masturbation. I guess that this is the one major obstacle to full enjoyment of your "triplex!

Let's check out what I feel is your best path around this problem:


This is an excellent solution, except there is just one thing keeping this from working in your particular case!


You expect others to do all of the work! Instead, take your own pers0nal responsibility and prepare to present yourself as a "turnkey" cuckold for them! "How am I going to do that?" you might ask!


Losing this attitude is a great start! Capitalize on your current situation and turn all of this into a victory for yourself! Purchase a chastity device. Tell no one. Start wearing it. Nobody will even know you are wearing it because no pers0n even wants to see your dick. Enjoy the intense, thrilling, masochistic excitement that self imposed chastity provides to the man who is predisposed to this peculiar kink! Enjoy the feeling of self-control and accomplishment you gain from dominating the puerile masturbation habit that has had such a detrimental effect on your self esteem, pers0nal relationships, marriage and etc! It seems counterproductive but.........Think about it! Fuck David and your wife. You are the Man charting your own course! There is nothing better than that!

You can win this!
..............PSEUDO PERSON...YMMV!

Owlcuck, I cut my husband off from intercoarse 17 years ago, it wasn't a graduall thing, one day I just thought "WHY", he really was quite ineffective..I do allow him to eat me and I give him a occasional hand job..It use to bother him but years of training (thank god for his 6000 S) has got him to accept.

hubby

Linda, it would be an honor to worship your pussy and taste the load of a big cock.
Cuck who loves a creampie.

Oh dear, Billy just doesn't measure up, it's no surprise that you look elsewhere for your enjoyment.

phate19010

I always wanted denial, and now I've got it.

Back in 1992, my wife suddenly stopped having regular sex with me. It went from 5 or 6 times a week to about 5 times a year, overnight. Eventually, frequency slowly kept dropping until it was less than once a year, and then in February 2017, I had my last fuck, although I didn't know it at the time. It's now been 2 1/2 years with no penetration for me. I'm restricted to hand jobs once or twice a month and no masturbating ever. I'm allowed nothing else except doing oral on her whenever she decides she wants it.
Natural Born Cuckold
Pussy-Free For Life starting 02-26-2017, 2633 days as of 05-13-2024

For some cuckold couples the complete cut-off and denial of cucked hubby is a natural process. It is not always the case, but when it is, it really is best to be driven by the wife. If you put yourself in chastity, it does give it some flavor of looking to entertain yourself, as opposed to your wife being in the driver's seat. Cuckoldry and BDSM do not necessarily need to be coupled, but they can be, in a natural way.

My wife has not had any PIV ("penis in vagina") intercourse with me for 2 years at all and for the preceding ~5 years barely any (which she called "charity", out of feeling sorry for how horny I would get - usually letting me fuck her at special occasions like anniversaries, birthdays). It was her who insisted on putting my cock in a metal cage as well. All the time. I just follow orders, none of this is coming from me (in fact I had no idea about cuckoldry before I met her). She exclusively wants to fuck other guys, definitely not me, ever. She is black (I am white) and she feels she can only get truly satisfying sex with a black guy (she is a size Queen) and says she has zero carnal attraction toward me, whereas other men make her dripping wet (and some guys with really big size make her cum instantly upon insertion). She enjoys the part that she completely denies me for PIV sex and feels dominant from that sense of control. It gives her a strong sense of domination, in which I am restricted (in a major way), whereas she can do whatever she wants.

She used to record her adventures with her bulls on an audio device (like a tablet or phone, hidden from the bull), which I would then listen later and jerk off to (in our early years of cuckoldry). Also when she came home from her dates (or, if we were home and I was in hiding during sex, after the bull left) she would describe the details, which was driving me crazily horny. But over the years she moved away from that arrangement, because she increasingly felt that such arrangement was in great part for my entertainment. Of course she had plenty of fun herself, but she felt the fact I also had fun (from her sharing her pleasurable experiences), to her it has diluted her untainted pleasure. My getting pleasure out of her intimate time with her bull and getting orgasms being played to me for my fun's sake took something away for her, it was not pure and dominant. Instead, she wanted to make it 100% purely for her pleasure, which meant no sharing, no audio recording, no entertaining for me.

She now prefers to fuck whomever she wants (she has a bit of a cheating fetish), at her choosing, without telling me about it in advance or often even afterwards. I truly have no idea when and whom she fucks. She, again for her own entertainment, would want to sit on my face every once in a while, when she was fucked without condom, so she could feel dominant by letting me know she fucked some guy with no protection by sitting on my face and letting me taste whatever is still in there from the creampie, or just figure it out she cheated, which is of course hot and perverted and make me crazily turned on. Even it turns me on, for her this is still not for my entertainment - it is entirely up to her when and whom she wants to fuck and whether or not she wants to share any of that with and/or if she would let me enjoy eating her pussy when she comes home. She used to sit on my face almost daily (while keeping my cock in a cage and fully denying me PIV sex), but the face-sittings have gone done - and she has suggested that she envisions a future in which I get to eat pussy only after she was just fucked without a condom.

Every cuckold couple hopefully finds their groove, a specific and special variation of it that works best for them, and there is a range of variations and every couple needs to understand that there is no one way or one flavor that works for all. In our situation, my wife is dominant and she is irked by the variant of cuckoldry in which husbands brag that their wives are their "personal porn star", because she sees that variation as some form of "machismo" relationship in which the wife is "made" (by the husband) to "perform" for the sake of the show (for hubby). So my wife absolutely does not want any production of a "show" or anything to be driven by my wishes and wants, because that would ******* her inner sense of being in control, being dominant. And driving the whole thing entirely and only by HER wishes, wants, and pleasures is what she really wants. Since she finds PIV sex with me a turn-off and zero pleasure (for her) in it, she completely cut me off of that. And since she also finds no particular gain in sharing her escapades and how she gets off, as those lusty pleasures are for her own benefit, she stopped the sharing, although she maintains that if she decides (when she feels like it) to share something, she would reserve that option by her choice (and if I suspect she was fucked and I ask, it is less likely she would share, as opposed to on her own initiative, when she feels like it). When she would share, again, it is entirely meant for her pleasure (when she finds it pleasurable to "*******" me that way).

Our particular form of cuckoldry/BDSM is 100% choreographed and controlled by my wife - I have no say or influence in what and how she does. I of course find the whole thing incredibly perverted and hot, which makes me crazy about her, makes horny like hell at all times - so in that sense I am benefitting from it in some way, but no direct pleasures for me, especially not ones on my own terms.