First gay marriage, now cuckolds!

Gay marriage is now nationally accepted and recognized. I don't care what your thoughts on it are. That isn't the point of this thread and I hope an argument of if it is right or wrong stays out. I want to discuss a more important issue.

That issue???.....national public acceptance of the cuckold marriage lifestyle. Why should we have to be embarrassed or afraid to admit our lifestyle? When someone ask me if I am married why can't I say "Yes I am a married cuckold" and it be OK? When single guys who want a cuckold marriage go on dates, should they have to lie about their desires and start the relationship off on deception? When a woman wants to cuckold her husband should she be ashamed that she desires multiple sex partners?

Why does my wife have to hide her love of bareback sex with other men because she will be labeled a slut? I am her husband and I 100% approve of her ******** with other men. Why should someone else have the right to label her for doing something that we agree to in our marriage?

Why do I have to hide my love of seeing my wife get fucked by other men because I will be labeled less of a man or not manly enough? I drive a lifted 4x4 truck, watch football, ***** beer, do my own home and auto repairs, go hunting, lift weights, have tattoos and have a badass moustache...prove you are more manly than me. Just because I love my wife and enjoy seeing her sexually satisfied doesn't make me weak or less of a man. In fact, I would argue that a man that knows his wife is sexually unhappy and stops her from fucking other men is less of a man than me because he is selfish and more worried about what he wants than what she needs. A real man puts his wife's needs ahead of everything else, even himself.

For point of reference...

Homosexuals live an alternative liefstyle from what is the socially accepted norm
Cuckolds live an alternative liefstyle from what is the socially accepted norm

Homosexuals say they were born gay
I know of no cuckolds that chose to have cuckold desires, they just do

Homosexuals have a sexual preference that is different from the typical one man/one woman relationship
Cuckolds have a sexual preference that is different from the typical one man/one woman relationship

It is time we stand up for who we are.
40's MWC In Need Of Hung Bulls - Any Race
I love to be humilated over my little 3 inch dick.
I watch you bareback her then I clean up.

You make good points. I actually see society's views changing on many alternative lifestyles. People are gradually becoming more accepting. However, marriage itself (even gay marriage) implies an adoption of a monogamist philosophy. The acceptance of gay marriage by our society might prove to be more readily accepted than marriage which is non-monogamous. To many people (most people?) marriage and monogamy are synonymous.

Other factors come into play, too. Geography, religion, etc. If you live in the Bible Belt for instance, a couple practicing the Hotwife/cuck lifestyle risks scorn and alienation. In more progressive cities they might be more accepted.

Personally, we don't advertise our lifestyle. We keep it private. But on the other hand, a few friends suspect that we think outside the box, and have asked us about it. We mostly just give them a devilish grin and tell them that we prefer to make our own rules, and that things in our bedroom are never boring. Even though they don't know details, they seem to envy us!

cuckold - Pronunciation - kuk-uhld - noun 1) The husband of an unfaithful wife. 2) A husband whose wife has sex with others. NOTE - It does NOT say: Sexually confused, submissive, humiliated, sissified, crossdresser, cocksucker, or piss drinker

Agreed!

The simple answer is be who you are and don't be embarrassed. People will judge you or they won't. You can decide who you have relationships with and who you don't. As long as you aren't hurting anyone, you should be able to do whatever the fuck you want to do pretty much. Fuck the naysayers. Easier said than done I know but still the truth.

Who says you have to do or feel any of that? It seems to me that your questions should be poised to yourself. Why do YOU feel you can't admit the way you live? Why do YOU lie about it?

There will always be people who disapprove, who condemn, who get hostile. That remains true today for gay people too, regardless of marriage law. That gay relationships have relatively more acceptance then they used to is simply because people have become more familiar with them, reducing the amount of irrational fear. To get people that familiar, gays and lesbians had to be brave and "come out" In other words, increasing numbers of them did admit the way they lived; they did not lie about it. And yes, they paid a price in social condemnation - and worse. "National public acceptance" of gay marriage, to the extent it is so, wasn't something that happened to gay people, it was something they earned by behaving the opposite of what you describe and paying the price for it.

Cuckold relationships are more acceptable now, in my view, then they have been in the past. As with all social conventions, it depends on where you live and what kind of circles you travel in, but I think it is undeniable.

Do we want further acceptance? I'm not sure everyone does. Many of us get off on the transgressiveness of the kink. If we do, then more of us will need to be assertive, even agressive about sharing this part of ourselves with others. This means putting a higher priority on "coming out" then on our personal privacy or the comfort of friends, neighbors, and coworkers who would rather you not share. This was a hard decision that many gays and lesbians had to make. But then, they were not seeking "social acceptance" as a goal; acceptance was a byproduct of their demand for their basic human rights. They want the legal, civil, and economic rights that everyone else gets. If someone still wants to be a bigot in their heart and mind, that is their own problem. Also, gays and lesbians couldn't evade social censure without quite a bit of strenuous lying about who they were. Many cuckold fetishists can avoid such unpleasantness merely by omission. Don't volunteer information and don't bother to explain to people who have no right to know or ask. (For instance "Yes, I am a married cuckold," is a strangely TMI answer to "are you married" in just about every situation.)

Really, I don't think it is a very good parallel. That said, if cucks want greater social acceptance, the gay and lesbian rights movement offers some lessons. But it will require many of us to make meaningful personal sacrifices to smooth the way for those who come later.
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Great point. Whereas the gay & lesbian population had much to fight for and gain by coming out of the closet (marriage, insurance benefits, etc.), those in cuckold relationships have no need for that sort of fight. For the most part the cuckold lifestyle can lived quite adequately within the walls of one's bedroom. There's really nothing to gain by "going public" and having to deal with the inevitable friction that would result from taking on that battle... i.e., don't be embarrassed by the lifestyle, but there's no reason to advertise it either.
cuckold - Pronunciation - kuk-uhld - noun 1) The husband of an unfaithful wife. 2) A husband whose wife has sex with others. NOTE - It does NOT say: Sexually confused, submissive, humiliated, sissified, crossdresser, cocksucker, or piss drinker

I feel this would be nice, but i also think it is inappropriate to add our kink to their love since gay marriage is not a kink like cuckolding. Cuckolding is very loving and a great lifestyle, but gay couples are not lifestyle or a kink. They are just a couple. Its not even gay marriage. its just marriage. Don't give the right wingers excuses to condemn it as a kink is what i am thinking.

Although it would be nice.
Tanya and Kevin

Really how times change! When I first realized cuckolding even was part of the world was when I had a direct experience with an older gentleman who wanted me to fuck his wife. I honestly thought that I was totally alone in that world. Then I after a while thought if there was anyone else doing it must have been because the husband had married a much younger woman and could not satisfy her. I could never picture a young, virile guy (such as I was!) wanting his wife to fuck other guys. How wrong I was! When I first realized that I myself wanted to be cuckolded I thought at that time that I must have been some kind of rare freak and felt so alone! it was a very happy moment when I learned there were (quite possibly MANY) others who shared my desires to see a stranger fucking the woman I love. Even now I feel so lucky to have ended up with a wife who not only understands it, but also allows me this privilege It is really a great feeling and I am so glad that I finally have arrived at learning and understanding the very thing that makes my sex life a very, very happy one.

And growing! I haven't seen any real numbers, but a number of documentaries and lifestyle pieces have stated that the cuckold-Hotwife area is one of the fastest growing alternative lifestyles. So others are joining our ranks, which should help establish it further. I doubt it will go mainstream... but I'd settle for it being better understood and accepted.
cuckold - Pronunciation - kuk-uhld - noun 1) The husband of an unfaithful wife. 2) A husband whose wife has sex with others. NOTE - It does NOT say: Sexually confused, submissive, humiliated, sissified, crossdresser, cocksucker, or piss drinker

SheDatesHeWaits: Better understood is an understatement! Most mainstream conventional people still consider us some kind of perverts...other 'normal' guys have a tendency to think we cuckold husbands must be either gay or just totally depraved. Others think it is an absolute requirement that we must be suffering from ED or are equipped with a very tiny dick in order to either want or even allow this to happen. All of them are misconceptions I've had to endure, so as a willing cuckold I've had to pretty much stay 'in the closet'. We only have allowed what we consider 'strangers' to fuck my wife and we are always hoping they never meet our 'normal' friends, who would not understand and quite possibly not want to be our friends any more when they find out what we do. Sure wish it was more generally acceptable by those who do not want to practice it.

I think you missed my point. I was speaking about cuckolds in general, not me specifically. My wife and I are quite "out there" with our lifestyle. We don't wear "Cuck and Proud" t-shirts, but we don't hide it either. I was speaking moreso to the general state of cuckold relationships. Based on what I have read here, most cuck relationships are "in the closet" and most cuck-minded men have cuck desires but can't express it to their wife/gf.
40's MWC In Need Of Hung Bulls - Any Race
I love to be humilated over my little 3 inch dick.
I watch you bareback her then I clean up.

Early on homosexuality was considered a perverse kink or fetish that only confused men who weren't "real men" were into, much like cuckold men are viewed now.
40's MWC In Need Of Hung Bulls - Any Race
I love to be humilated over my little 3 inch dick.
I watch you bareback her then I clean up.

I agree. IMO that's a result of the FemDom crowd, who can be very prolific purveyors of their perspective. However, they're motivated more by submiss1ve male desires than they are the cuckold perspective.

There are always exceptions of course, but I believe most men get into it because they want to see their wife getting fucked... not because they have ED, a 2-inch dick or a desire to grovel in the corner wearing panties. I have no problem taking a passive role, if needed to create the dynamics for a more intense and satisfying coupling between my wife and another man. However, submiss1on is not a part of my personality. If anyone hands me a cock cage he better be prepared to eat it... LOL
cuckold - Pronunciation - kuk-uhld - noun 1) The husband of an unfaithful wife. 2) A husband whose wife has sex with others. NOTE - It does NOT say: Sexually confused, submissive, humiliated, sissified, crossdresser, cocksucker, or piss drinker

I am with you entirely there on the cock cage issue, SheDatesHeWaits! Such restrains would absolutely take all the fun out of being cuckolded. It would defeat the whole purpose! I love to watch her (and him) going at it sexually and at the same time either pleasure myself or let her pleasure me by her hand or her mouth. It takes all kinds to make the world go around, but the cock cage thing would be totally out of the question for me, and I am sure my wife would know better than to ever suggest it. She does, however love it when I worship her and show my appreciation of her womanhood by doing things such as sucking on her toes, but she would never ask me to restrict my ability to receive pleasure myself. There are I am sure multiple variations of being a cuckold and just exactly what it is that turns each of us on. We just have to find exactly what it is and go for it. The world is ours to enjoy.

Cuckolding is a sexual variation. A cock cage strips away the ability for sex. Without sex what's the point (?).

I read posts from guys who say that being caged for months makes them more attentive to their wife, but I don't see it. Without the promise of release I lose ALL motivation to please my wife. I become frustrated and sullen. It's the promise of an orgasm soon that motivates me to be attentive... not the promise that I may never have an orgasm again, which the cock-cage-crowd loves.

Now... my wife and I DO enjoy short term, mutual denial in the days prior to an upcoming date she has planned. Going without orgasms for a short time can really intensify the orgasms for us both on Date Night (hers with him, and then mine with her).

But wearing a cock cage for months (or years) is counterproductive. Your body literally forgets how to cum. Your sexual and reproductive functions atrophy. You effectively risk becoming a self-made eunuch. Plus, they've recently proven that there is significant health risks for men who don't have regular orgasms. So there's no appeal in cock cages for us.
cuckold - Pronunciation - kuk-uhld - noun 1) The husband of an unfaithful wife. 2) A husband whose wife has sex with others. NOTE - It does NOT say: Sexually confused, submissive, humiliated, sissified, crossdresser, cocksucker, or piss drinker