Peter C
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I have been a member of this website for many years, but as I am now divorced I rarely visit anymore, but I'm glad I saw this post. I have read it right from the beginning and have thoroughly enjoyed it. I can't wait to see how it goes. I am now an ex-cuckold husband, although that wasn't why we split up. I loved my wife having sex with other men and have no regrets whatsoever about it.
I am impressed how quickly you have got your wife interested in this lifestyle. It took me at least 2 years of gentle persuasion, encouragement and bedroom role-play before my wife gave in to temptation. Her first extra-marital encounter was spoiled mainly by my insecurities at the time and it was another 9 years before she embarked on it again. This time - with us both older and wiser - was more successful and she went with 3 other men.
You have received a great deal of really good advice here. I can't really add to that - it's all absolutely spot-on. I well remember the "cuckold angst" I experienced, a mixture of extreme arousal, anxiety and jealousy. I particularly liked your statement regarding "reclaiming" your wife's pussy. I told my wife the same and told her other men might fuck her, but only we made love. She liked that.
I always found it very enjoyable if I caught a guy eyeing up my wife's legs in a short skirt and high heels or looking down her low-cut top. I felt pangs of jealousy, but it really turned me on that a guy liked what he saw and my wife knew that. She confessed to enjoying it too and her skirts got shorter still - she had great legs! - and she even bought Wonderbras to enhance her cleavage. I told her to take a man's glances as a compliment and of course, in time this led to her being chatted up and asked out. At first she fended off the advances - though she admitted after a dr1nk or two she was tempted - because she was married, but once I used a dildo on her and told her how much I enjoyed imagining it was another man fucking my wife, the seed was planted.
It intrigued me that the man in your situation is in your social circle of friends and a customer of yours. That would have put me off. One of our ground-rules was that my wife wouldn't sleap with anyone I knew. I didn't want to put a face to the name when I pictured them fucking, but eventually that went out the window, when she had sex with an ex-workmate of mine. I handled that a lot better than I expected. Our other rule was that she'd always use condoms, but he also persuaded her very easily to take it bareback. At least I got my first ever "creampie" that night and true "sloppy seconds".
In a way it's nice that he is showing you some kind of respect by not diving straight in so to speak. At least he sought reassurance from your wife that this is what she wants or asked about the state of your marriage before he sucked her tits and fingered her pussy. I never wanted my wife to tell the other guy that I knew or that she had my approval, but on most occasions she did tell them and some of her female friends. I liked the idea of the guy thinking he was getting one over on the poor unsuspecting husband. My wife's friends were never critical, never made fun of me because of it. In fact they seemed quite taken with my attitude and how considerate and understanding I was. I think they were quite jealous that their husbands weren't like me. One regularly cheated on her husband and said with me she wouldn't need to worry about getting caught!
How did your wife reassure him? I assume she told him not to worry, that you'd never know and she just fancies some fun. I've never bumped into my ex-colleague since he fucked my wife, but was worried how I'd handle seeing him in town, having to act normally even when he smirked knowingly at me and my wife. I never particularly liked him. I found him a bit smarmy, arrogant and he was inclined to criticise my work. I found out later that he'd actually asked my wife out at the time and 11 years later succeeded in bedding her - twice. I hope you are prepared for the first time you come face-to-face after. You will have to play it cool and act as normal - he'll be watching for any tell-tales signs that you're suspicious.
Good luck though and I eagerly await your next up-date. Peter C
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kennyboy82
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Peter C, what an excellent posting, full of personal experiences, and wise advice. Some of the things you said go right to the core of being a cuck. Pity you're now separated as it would be nice to hear of your continuing in the cuckold lifestyle - it never really leaves you once tasted.
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SheDatesHeWaits
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kennyboy82: it never really leaves you once tasted. That's one way to phrase it... cuckold - Pronunciation - kuk-uhld - noun 1) The husband of an unfaithful wife. 2) A husband whose wife has sex with others. NOTE - It does NOT say: Sexually confused, submissive, humiliated, sissified, crossdresser, cocksucker, or piss drinker
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liberalwoman
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I love Peter C''s post.
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bursting
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Me too!
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hero69
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Thanks Peter for your great post and Im glad you have read the whole thread and enjoyed it. Peter C: Her first extra-marital encounter was spoiled mainly by my insecurities at the time Im currently having massive changes in whether I want her to actually go through with it or not. I saw that she has been emailing the guy from the website a LOT, and caught a glimpse of the content which surprised me and (to be ******** honest) upset me. They have been saying that they cant believe how well they get on and its like they have known each other for ages. This kind of pissed me off as its too much like a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship rather than a fuck buddy. We had a big long chat and after hearing my thoughts she has agreed that she doesnt need to tell him lots of personal/mundane things about her day, that should be for me, her husband. She has agreed to keep it simple. Please tell me your thoughts folks, am I being paranoid and possessive for no reason, will it always be like this as its the nature of the lifestyle??? Confused but still proper turned on when me and her are talking about it. I think Running Man has blown his chance of fucking my wife. Shes getting really pissed off that hes so up and down about things. She replied to a fairly boring text from him with 'Id rather fuck your brains out in lots of different positions', they text a few more times that night. A cpl nights later she gets a very straight 'when are we next running?', no flirtyness, no reference to their earlier texts, not even 'when are we running fitty or sweety or hotty' NOTHING! This pissed her off so much that unless he texts her first shes not even going to mention them fucking again. His loss...
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hero69: ... am I being paranoid and possessive for no reason? Yes. hero69: ... will it always be like this as its the nature of the lifestyle??? No. Cuckold angst is worse when you first get into this lifestyle. There are many unknowns, and we naturally fear the unknown. Your wife would be having sex with someone else. You'll have no control. You won't know what they're doing. That's enough to drive you insane. But stir in FEAR, and it makes things even worse. It can spin everything into the intolerable zone. I've touched on the solution already. Don't give into the fear and jealousy. It's not so much about fighting it, as it is about focusing on everything wonderful about your wife and your marriage, and then TRUSTING in her. She's not going to run off to Tahiti with him. She's just enjoying the giddy feelings we all get when someone new pays attention. It's exhilarating to be desired. After years of marriage it's fun to flirt with someone again. The thought of sex with a different person is exciting. She's just enjoying the moment. I went through the EXACT same thing you're feeling. I once asked my wife to back off with a guy she was having a great time with. She immediately did what I asked. However, it cooled things off at the peak of one of the most enjoyable affairs she's ever had, and it never regained that intensity again. Now... looking back... I totally regret it. I was selfish and immature and let my insecurities cost her a lot of fun. I love her and I WANT her to have fun. I'm stronger now. That will never happen again. Over time you'll get stronger too. It won't always be like this. After a few dates, with her coming home to you every time, you'll learn to relax. As your fears evaporate you'll be able to enjoy the sexual side of it. As far as The Runner... that's a disappointment. Those "hot-and-cold" types are frustrating. Worse yet, his attitude could hurt your whole Hotwife effort if she begins to feel that he's not attracted to her. Reassure her a lot... let her know it's him, NOT her, etc. Don't let this discourage her. In the meantime she needs to press that guy for a resolution... i.e., paint or get off the ladder, buddy. There are plenty of other painters out there who will do the job. cuckold - Pronunciation - kuk-uhld - noun 1) The husband of an unfaithful wife. 2) A husband whose wife has sex with others. NOTE - It does NOT say: Sexually confused, submissive, humiliated, sissified, crossdresser, cocksucker, or piss drinker
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I agree with everything PCC said above. Only you know your wife and whether she is becoming emotionally involved with a guy. It is always best to keep these relationships physical and not let emotions enter into the picture. That being said I know a lot of women want to feel connected with a lover. Therefore they want to engage in chit chat about the mundane things in life and to get to know a little about the other persons background. Us guys see a hot body and our dick gets hard and we want to cum in them. I have been told that women require a little more to fully enjoy an orgasm with a new fellow.
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While I agree with PCC and i122, I sort of grimice a little bit. I guess it depends on how you define emotionally involved. I would hope your wife had some feeling, like cute and interesting guy, and not just throw a bag over a guys head so she doesn't even see or hear him. IMO, it is almost impossible for a wife to make you a cuckold with someone she has absoutely no feeling for. The defining point TO ME of the relationship they weill have is does it threaten your relationship. Nothing I have heard from you hero69 makes me feel it does.
To repeat something I said earlier, feelings just are. Please recognize them as feelings and trust your wife, who is communicating with you to keep your relationship strong and whole.
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Peter C
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SheDatesHeWaits: I went through the EXACT same thing you're feeling. I once asked my wife to back off with a guy she was having a great time with. She immediately did what I asked. However, it cooled things off at the peak of one of the most enjoyable affairs she's ever had, and it never regained that intensity again. Now... looking back... I totally regret it. I was selfish and immature and let my insecurities cost her a lot of fun. I love her and I WANT her to have fun. I'm stronger now. That will never happen again. Over time you'll get stronger too. It won't always be like this. After a few dates, with her coming home to you every time, you'll learn to relax. As your fears evaporate you'll be able to enjoy the sexual side of it. That quote sounds so much like me. After my wife had had sex with a young customer from the shop she worked in, the insecurities kicked in the very next day. He was much younger than either of us, confident and I worried that he was better in bed than me (she said he wasn't), had a bigger dick than me (she said he didn't) and that she might prefer sex with him and ultimately run off with him. We had agreed that if either of us weren't happy with the arrangement, then it stopped and although the night it happened I was so turned on hearing that he'd fucked her and enjoyed my wife suggesting she make him her regular "bit on the side", in the cold light of the following day, I felt so jealous and insecure that I asked her not to see him again. That made her feel bad and when he didn't rush to contact her anyway, my wife felt used and dirty. She thought maybe he'd seen her as an easy lay and her opening her legs after a couple of dr1nks had proved him right and he no doubt was off bragging to his mates. We had a few quiet, difficult days, but I re-assured her that I still love her just as much, more in fact, and no harm had been done. We'd wanted to try it. We had and it hadn't worked out, but it wasn't going to split us up, quite the opposite. He did get in touch with her again eventually and wanted sex, but she wasn't tempted. She was chatted up by at least other young lads, teenagers, not long after, so I think perhaps word had got round about him getting his leg over with the woman from the local shop and they thought they might get some older, married pussy too. We got over this though and as the months became years, I found myself regretting stopping my wife's extra-marital activities. I mentioned it in bed from time to time, but she said, "I'm not going down that road again." Later though, as we both got older and wiser, this became, "maybe, if the right guy came along, but I doubt it", followed eventually by, "are you sure you'd be alright with it?" We discussed it at length many times and the dildo I used on her often became me watching another man fuck my wife. I told her how much I regretted stopping her last time and how I wished I'd been stronger and ridden out the storm of emotions and insecurity and let her see that guy again and on a regular basis. She'd said he'd seemed inexperienced and I said she could have trained him up, be his teacher. She liked that. She agreed that I seemed stronger now and seemed to decide to dip her toe in the water so to speak. She had a seperate social life anyway due to my shift work and would often come home and tell me she'd been chatted up or asked out. It was like she was testing me to see if I could handle it better now and every time she went a little bit further to guage my reaction. Although it took over 9 years before she had full sex with another man again, I passed with flying colours because this time I wasn't insecure. Still immensely turned on by her being so "naughty" and anxious and jealous, but certainly stronger. It comes down to having that trust I guess. Our marriage was strong and her having other men definitely improved our own sex-life. So hero69, hang on in there. You'll regret it if you back out now, believe me. Peter C
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Peter C That sounds so familiar. I remember the first time I found out my wife was fucking some other guy. I insecurities were there in full *****. I was hurt that she was fucking someone behind my back and yes I was worried that she would find him more adequate than I. I would voice my concerns all the while sporting a boner. I realized I had nothing to fear once I found out more about the guy. He was no threat to me in any terms. In fact he was a benefit. While she was fucking him we had the best sex of our marriage. She would orgasm every time I fucked her and she was much free-er to be adventurous. We made movies and posted them on different web sites and cam fucked in different chat rooms etc etc. If changed things an not in a bad way at all.
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Peter C ... our stories seem quite parallel. For me, getting past the insecurities boiled down to one thing, which you touched on: Peter C: ... she might prefer sex with him and ultimately run off with him. Those are two very different things... sex vs. love. Just because she has great sex with someone doesn't mean she will run off with him. Like you, once I realized this, I was able to get control of my emotions and everything quickly fell into place. Hopefully hero69 can get there, too. cuckold - Pronunciation - kuk-uhld - noun 1) The husband of an unfaithful wife. 2) A husband whose wife has sex with others. NOTE - It does NOT say: Sexually confused, submissive, humiliated, sissified, crossdresser, cocksucker, or piss drinker
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Peter C, Another really excellent post. I agree totally with the point PCC is making, there is a world of difference between two people being in love and all that brings with it, and the same two people getting off on the wife enjoying possibly the best sex of her life, with another guy. That doesn't automatically mean that she will run off with him, that way you both get to have your cake and eat it. She gets good sex, you get excited by her fucking another guy, but you're still together. I hope hero69 can understand that.
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hero69
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FantMstr: The defining point TO ME of the relationship they weill have is does it threaten your relationship. Nothing I have heard from you hero69 makes me feel it does. Thanks mate, being absolute beginners and having you guys on board with your advice and experience is a massive help. I may have written something that rang huge alarm bells to you guys about if our relationship might not survive, but the fact that you have all been or are going through it you know what to look for is a great reassurance. So... onto the update. After me seeing all the emails and being a bit insecure about them and then telling her we had this little text exchange (I was at work all Saturday so we couldnt talk face to face) Me: Just shocked to read those few. I know you reassure me but its still hard to read things from MY wife about personal stuff. Does he need to know about [your friends] etc? I love you and trust you but its still hard xx Her: No he doesn't, I've held back on personal stuff on the one I sent this morn as he doesn't need to know I'm out with my mum etc. You know I'm YOUR hotwife and anyone else's fuck buddy!!! xx Her: I'm never leaving you, you're stuck with me. Like I said you're my Number 1 priority. xx Me: So just think about me when you are texting/mailing and ask yourself 'am I crossing a line?' what would [hubby] think if he read this? xx Her: It's hard to explain over text. I totally understand where you are coming from. And from here in I will try and do things differently. I'm embarrassed at some of the random things I have said which I know now (which you made me realise) I didn't need to tell him. I'm sorry if I hurt you, just bare with me, it's a steep learning curve and I'm trying. And I really do appreciate you learning and being patient with me!!! xx After receiving the last one it made me realise that things are HUGELY different for her too. Things are going to be different but we are in it together. After some chatting and some fooling around she told me that Internet Guy had suggested that they meet earlier than 28th to see if they get on in the flesh, she told me that it would just be to meet. They set it up for this Wednesday (tomorrow). I asked her what if she wanted to fuck him when she met him? I would be fine with it she wanted to. She mailed him asking exactly that, what if they wanted more privacy after they met. After a few more mails he has now booked a room for TOMORROW night just in case they want to go further. She is SOOO horny right now and unless he is completely different from the person she has been mailing then she is going to fuck him. Shes so excited yet nervous and just keeps smiling coyly when it gets brought up. I said that she is on a ban until she meets him, which she is loving, think its the denial. I keep talking dirty and sending her caps to keep her aroused. I was teasing her this morning and she text me this earlier - 'I really wanted you this morning. Imagine how good it'll be on wed!!! Xx' I think after we were both so frank and honest this weekend, Im now much more relaxed about their meet. Dont get me wrong I am still in massive turmoil but she has been amazing at reassuring me. Just found these texts from her Her: I'm always coming back to you. The only reason we can do this is because we are solid and our relationship is amazing. I understand your fears and I doubt they'll ever go away, you'll just learn to handle them the more we do it. I love that you give me free rein to do it. xx Me: Do you like the new adventurous you? You think you have changed? xx Her: Yes I like it, I feel a bit kinda liberated and open. It's hard to describe really. I love how it's changed our relationship and our sex life. It's also made me realise how amazing you are and how much you love me ️xx Onto Running Man... He has been a bit more forward with his texts and has been talking more about when they meet on Friday and what they are going to get up to. Looks like this is going to be a rollercoaster of a week, gone from 'normal' couple to her fucking 2 new guys plus me if all goes as he hopes!! We've called it 'The week of sex' Id love your thoughts on all this guys, your feedback is really appreciated.
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Great update.
Promising to read about you both talking and being more open about feelings and the newness of it all to the both of you. We are just the same, and have had very similar chats, and she feels like your Mrs does. Shes always coming back to me, we are the couple in it for the long haul, anyone else is just a fuck.
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hero69
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Thanks bursting
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hero, are you sure you didn't cut-and-paste those texts from my phone? LOL. Seriously... the text exchanges you're having with your wife are IDENTICAL to ones my wife and I have had in the past. That's why I keep trying to stress that you should embrace the trust in your wife as the solution to your insecurities. You're in good hands with that lady. She's trying hard to please you, while juggling her actions so as not to overly concern you. She's a winner.
Try and relax about the 'personal information' she exchanges with others. It doesn't mean she's falling for them, or that she's betraying your personal lives. Women are wired a lil different... they instinctively open up more. They bond through sharing of mundane, daily crap. It's just their way. I would encourage you to loosen up on that as soon as you can, for two reasons:
1) Most women don't really enjoy sex with strangers. They need to feel some emotional connection. Sharing that mundane, daily crap makes her feel like they're getting to know each other, so she'll be more comfortable and the sex will be more enjoyable (and that's the point, right?) 2) If you loosen up it will show her that you trust her. Being insecure is not an attractive male trait... LOL. Show her you have faith in her judgement, and that you have confidence in the relationship and don't feel a need to control every text, etc. Give her some wiggle room to feel her way through this.
I have zero faith in Running Man though. Until proven otherwise I think he's just running his mouth (perhaps she should tell him that). Internet guy sounds promising though! Just remember ... internet chemistry doesn't always equate to personal chemistry once you meet. So don't be disappointed if she decides not to "do him" on Date #1. cuckold - Pronunciation - kuk-uhld - noun 1) The husband of an unfaithful wife. 2) A husband whose wife has sex with others. NOTE - It does NOT say: Sexually confused, submissive, humiliated, sissified, crossdresser, cocksucker, or piss drinker
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SheDatesHeWaits: hero, are you sure you didn't cut-and-paste those texts from my phone? LOL. Seriously... the text exchanges you're having with your wife are IDENTICAL to ones my wife and I have had in the past. That's why I keep trying to stress that you should embrace the trust in your wife as the solution to your insecurities. You're in good hands with that lady. She's trying hard to please you, while juggling her actions so as not to overly concern you. She's a winner. Thats good to hear bud, cheers. bursting has said our situations are similar too. Just these last 2 days I have been much more relaxed and Ive suggested more emails today so they can build up and get more excited about tomorrow night. We have spoken about the chemistry, which is why they were meeting tomorrow night, she will fuck him if the chemistry is right but I have stressed that she should ONLY do it if she is comfortable and not to feel like she has to cos of the booked room etc. SheDatesHeWaits: I have zero faith in Running Man though. Im kind of with you about this too. The funny thing is he came into our shop on Saturday, I made sure to make eye contact with him but he was so sheepish he couldnt really do it back, it was a great feeling.
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hero69: he was so sheepish he couldnt really do it back, He's definitely not a Type A, dominant, Alpha male sort of guy then. My wife once got involved with someone in our social circle, and he didn't know that I was aware of their little encounters. But whenever we met he would look me straight in the eye and greet me with a firm handshake. He was a confident guy, which is a trait my wife finds highly attractive (as do most women). Every time I shook his hand though I couldn't help but laugh at the dynamics. He wasn't aware that I knew everything, so I'm thinking "You poor dumbass"... and yet he believed he was fucking my wife behind my back. So I'm sure he was thinking "You poor dumbass"... kinda funny, if you think about it. cuckold - Pronunciation - kuk-uhld - noun 1) The husband of an unfaithful wife. 2) A husband whose wife has sex with others. NOTE - It does NOT say: Sexually confused, submissive, humiliated, sissified, crossdresser, cocksucker, or piss drinker
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SheDatesHeWaits: He's definitely not a Type A, dominant, Alpha male sort of guy then. I agree - he has all the traits of a time waster, and a wannabee.
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Peter C
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hero69: Her: I'm always coming back to you. The only reason we can do this is because we are solid and our relationship is amazing. I understand your fears and I doubt they'll ever go away, you'll just learn to handle them the more we do it. I love that you give me free rein to do it. xx Me: Do you like the new adventurous you? You think you have changed? xx Her: Yes I like it, I feel a bit kinda liberated and open. It's hard to describe really. I love how it's changed our relationship and our sex life. It's also made me realise how amazing you are and how much you love me ️xx SheDatesHeWaits: I keep trying to stress that you should embrace the trust in your wife as the solution to your insecurities. You're in good hands with that lady. She's trying hard to please you, while juggling her actions so as not to overly concern you. She's a winner. Try and relax about the 'personal information' she exchanges with others. It doesn't mean she's falling for them, or that she's betraying your personal lives. Women are wired a lil different... they instinctively open up more. They bond through sharing of mundane, daily crap. It's just their way. I would encourage you to loosen up on that as soon as you can SheDatesHeWaits: If you loosen up it will show her that you trust her. Being insecure is not an attractive male trait... LOL. Show her you have faith in her judgement, and that you have confidence in the relationship and don't feel a need to control every text, etc. Give her some wiggle room to feel her way through this. It was good to read your latest update hero69 plus the comments and advice that followed. I wish I'd had this kind of back-up when my wife first cuckolded me back in 1999! PCC talks a lot of sense. Your wife and any potential lover will have something together that you won't be involved in. You are in the loop, but you can't expect as much control as you want. It sounds like you have a very strong marriage, so trust her to handle things her way and as PCC says, show her that you trust her completely. There will be things you don't like, minor trivial things, that will annoy you, but you have to let her have a free rein. After my wife's evening with that young guy in a nearby town, she texted me to meet her off the train. However, when I got to the station and waited for the train she said she'd be on, she appeared behind me, having caught the train before. The reason for this was that the guy had been a gentleman and insisted on catching the train with her to make sure she got home safely and my wife had had to think on her feet to delay me so the husband and the lover didn't bump into each other! So a little fib to me which annoyed me, but a necessary one because she knew I didn't want to be able to put a face to the name of the guy who'd just fucked my wife. I'm not sure about The Runner. It was good that you were able to act normal when you saw him the other day - well done! Whilst you looked him square in the eye, I bet your stomach was doing cartwheels. He was probably a bit sheepish cos he was thinking how he'd sucked your wife's tits and fingered her wet pussy. He may still be a possibility, especially if your wife's Internet Guy works out well. He may be dubious about crossing that line if he has to see you on a regular basis, but your wife could get the taste for extra-marital cock if the other guy fucks her well. I can see her growing in confidence and pursuing The Runner until she gets what she wants. I used to see a definite change in my wife when she'd been with another man. There was always a distinct spring in her step and a contented smile on her face and it was only the two of us that knew why! I hope all goes well with her meeting the guy today. Just let her take things as far as she feels comfortable with and at her pace. If nothing happens or the chemistry isn't there, tell her not to worry and reassure her that there will be plenty of other times. Good luck! Peter C
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Peter C: So a little fib to me which annoyed me Sometimes a little white lie is necessary, as it was in that situation. Or it might be part of a fun surprise your wife is planning for you, not unlike a lie that someone might tell you if they were planning a surprise birthday party. My wife and I constantly kick around the possibility of her telling me she's going out to run an errand, when in fact she's actually planning to go see someone for a quickie, then come home and surprise me. Yeah... it's a lil white lie... but with very good intentions. So we just see it as part of the game. Once you get past all insecurities those lil white lies can become part of the fun! cuckold - Pronunciation - kuk-uhld - noun 1) The husband of an unfaithful wife. 2) A husband whose wife has sex with others. NOTE - It does NOT say: Sexually confused, submissive, humiliated, sissified, crossdresser, cocksucker, or piss drinker
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Peter C: I used to see a definite change in my wife when she'd been with another man. Is that not the most AMAZING thing? My wife is exactly the same way, and it brings out a great point. After 10...15... 20 years of being a wife and mom, it's easy for a woman to stop feeling sexy (and sexual). Nothing changes that faster than the attention of another man! A wife's self esteem can literally explode overnight. She'll feel better about herself... more confident... happier... and like Peter said, "more bounce in her step". She feels wanted, desirable and sexy again. That's why Hotwifing/Cuckolding benefits women, and the overall marriage. All of her positive energy and renewed sexuality flows back into your relationship... and your bedroom. You leap out of the rut... sex becomes hot again... you become closer... and the entire marriage benefits. That bounce in her step will put the bounce back in your mattress! cuckold - Pronunciation - kuk-uhld - noun 1) The husband of an unfaithful wife. 2) A husband whose wife has sex with others. NOTE - It does NOT say: Sexually confused, submissive, humiliated, sissified, crossdresser, cocksucker, or piss drinker
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SheDatesHeWaits: After 10...15... 20 years of being a wife and mom, it's easy for a woman to stop feeling sexy (and sexual). Nothing changes that faster than the attention of another man! Absolutely! I've found from experience that many wives, once they hit 40 or so, find themselves in a 'stale' marriage, everything has become predictable and routine. They're vulnerable and usually flattered when a guy starts hitting on them, and very amenable to playing away. The thing that's standing out to me in all this is you will never get everything exactly as you want it, like most things in life, a compromise is called for. Don't push her too hard, show a lot of trust in her judgement and taste and support her. Talk between yourselves, it's important you are both on the same page, she won't know what you're thinking and feeling unless you tell her, the same goes for her talking to you, no secrets! Trust in the fact that she's looking for a sexual partner, she wants really good sex, often found in a new situation, but after she's fucked she's coming home to you, and you can fuck her, but I recommend you make love!
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FantMstr
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Other side of the coin ... As I was falling asleep last night, something obvious hit me. I do some of my best thinking when I am almost asleep. We have been considering only hero69's angst. While I don't see signs of this in what he writes about his wife, there is also the possibility that once she "does it" she will have her own angst issues. As in many things chasing the fantasy is hot and "rainbows and lollypops." Once it is an actuality, SOMETIMES the wife get hit with doubts. I do not want to overemphasis that here, but I do think that it needs to be on the table as hero69 may find he needs to reassure her doubts after. I will now push my soap box to the side so no one trips over it.
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SheDatesHeWaits
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#176 · Edited by: SheDatesHeWaits
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FantMstr: Once it is an actuality, SOMETIMES the wife get hit with doubts. Very true! My wife did. After her first time she had to go through a bit of intellectual reassessment. Like you said, fantasizing is one thing, but in the cold light of dawn it can look quite different. I've found that the more inhibited a woman is, and those with more traditional or religious upbringing, can be the more strongly affected. Women who are more contemporary and open-minded tend to struggle with it less. I get it, too. From the time they're toddlers women are besieged with society's expectations. They're practically brainwashed... taught to be princesses... that sex is for sluts... bad girls don't "do that"... they should save themselves for one man... that one day a prince on a white horse will sweep them off their feet and they'll live happily ever after. They'll get married and have young'uns and be chaste, virtuous, faithful wives... always happy with one man and never desiring another. So yeah... when she enters a lifestyle that involves intimacy with men other than her husband a woman has to do some soul searching. She will need to be strong and independent enough to choose a path that feels right for her, being aware that it's not in lockstep with societal expectations. Hubby's support is absolutely invaluable during those times. cuckold - Pronunciation - kuk-uhld - noun 1) The husband of an unfaithful wife. 2) A husband whose wife has sex with others. NOTE - It does NOT say: Sexually confused, submissive, humiliated, sissified, crossdresser, cocksucker, or piss drinker
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FantMstr
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And to add, sorry I should think before pressing the post button, sometimes (that is an understatement) the handsome hulk is a terrible cocksman. His performance (size is another but less important issue) is less than expectations.
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hero69
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Feel a bit sick guys, she's just left to go meet Internet Guy in a hotel bar!!!
Not had proper chance to read today's posts but will when I get k1ds in bed.
I know you've done it loads of times before but I need some reassuring comments ASAP... Pleeeaaase. Cheers
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FantMstr
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hero69 ... you will be find ... being the mean person that I am I would suggest that she not give any attention to or let you give any attention to your rock hard cock when she gets home
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FantMstr
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read above ... you will be FINE
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