Almost there... Not now, I now have a Hotwife

Absolutely right. What she does with other guys is a purely physical thing, she's out to get supreme satisfaction, she fucks them. With you it's (hopefully) a more tender, fulfilling relationship, both of you enjoying her fucking other men while you show her how much you love her. Your loving her extends to wanting her to be perpetually satisfied, that can only come about by her being regularly fucked by superior men than you. You both know that.

Sorry to ask, but Im not familiar with your situation. Were you in the lifestyle for a while but now you're not?

She has been texting him a lot today and it looks like next Friday night will be the night when it all begins...

He has been a bit more forward with his texts which she has been enjoying as she doesnt now feel like she is chasing him so much.

Its been very difficult to talk in work today so cant wait til we get home and can discuss it properly.

Keep you posted.

Bit of an update...

You might remember from this time last week, Monday is her usual run night with this guy, it was cold and raining and he just sent her home to warm up. Then there were texts about him warming her up etc.

They have been texting this morning, see the attached pics...


As you can see he is now asking about how serious she is to which she has handled it really well. So she is definitely going round tonight whether its cold and rainy or not. They will either run then 'see what happens' or just 'see what happens' as he now knows she isnt just teasing him.

So many twists and turns!!! Feel sick and jealous and EVERYTHING you guys have said but have had a hardon all day.

Wouldnt let me post .png files so will try again...

Nothing showing, but pleased there is progress.

Will try again. When I click on the attachment they do show!!

Anyways, just spoken to my wife. What a fucking surprise, he now has to work late so cant make tonight!!! All these texts and flirting and as soon as it comes to crunch time hes busy!!! How difficult can it really be???

bursting Ive not forgotten about your PM just not had much time to reply properly.

Maybe 3rd time lucky with these pics!!

Stick with it!

You will find let downs more often than anything else, but you'll get there.

Seeing the texts has me horny, just like reading my Mrs messages with her guys. Brilliantly arousing aren't they?

It turns me on massively reading their texts.

I did mention today though, bit like your circumstance bursting iirc, about the amount of texts. I wanted her to know that I would rather her not text him constantly and build more of a relationship other than the fuck buddy status that we want. She completely understood where I was coming from and said she would respect my wishes.

Just like us, youre right.

It's like herding cats, my friend! I can't tell you how many cancellations we've dealt with over the years, due to single guys getting cold feet. However, we try to look at the bright side. My wife prefers dominant, confident men. Any guy who turns into a pussy when it's game time isn't the right guy for her anyway.
cuckold - Pronunciation - kuk-uhld - noun 1) The husband of an unfaithful wife. 2) A husband whose wife has sex with others. NOTE - It does NOT say: Sexually confused, submissive, humiliated, sissified, crossdresser, cocksucker, or piss drinker

I was once the same way. But in time I overcame that concern, and I suspect you will too. Right now you're dealing with this new angst. It's easy to be uncomfortable in the early stages. As the two of you gain more experience you'll begin to relax and trust your wife's judgement.

The best Hotwife/lover relationships are longer term. In order to pull that off they really need more of a connection than just fuck-buddies... almost a light friendship. I no longer have any problem with my wife texting guys on a daily basis. It keeps the sparks flying and builds sexual tension.

By all means though, tell your wife any time you feel uneasy just the way you did. It's great that she understood and respected your concern. You guys are doing great.
cuckold - Pronunciation - kuk-uhld - noun 1) The husband of an unfaithful wife. 2) A husband whose wife has sex with others. NOTE - It does NOT say: Sexually confused, submissive, humiliated, sissified, crossdresser, cocksucker, or piss drinker

One more comment: you are about to grow, as a man and a person.

Jealousy originates from a sense of possession. It's the fear of losing something that belongs to you. One day you will have an epiphany, my friend. You will realize that your wife doesn't belong to you. She's free to leave any time she wants. She always has been, and she always will be.

She CHOOSES to be your wife. She's your wife because she loves you and she WANTS to be with you. You don't own her. You never did.

That might not make sense yet, but one day it will... and when it does then jealousy will never rear its head again. That will be a great day in your life!

cuckold - Pronunciation - kuk-uhld - noun 1) The husband of an unfaithful wife. 2) A husband whose wife has sex with others. NOTE - It does NOT say: Sexually confused, submissive, humiliated, sissified, crossdresser, cocksucker, or piss drinker

You're like the cuckolds Dalai Lama.

Whenever one of us on here has a little wobble you find the right words to reassure us

Cheers bud. Ive said a few times but none of you have to comment but you take the time to help out and I massively appreciate it. Its definitely helped how I handle things between me and my wife and helped me not have a meltdown.

hero69,

https://www.cuckoldplace.com/36_60320_1.html


Here is a link to my old thread. My story starts with me being a wanna-be, to a cuckold, and back to the wanna-be. I describe my situation as a hotwife with a splash of cuckold.

What PalmCoast says makes a lot of sense. You don't own her, she chooses to be with you. Where you have to find the courage is to give her the freedom and trust to go and fuck some guy or guys, knowing that she'll be coming back home (with a very full pussy hopefully!) to you for you to enjoy the fruits of her infidelity. If she really loves you she'll recognise how important you view her fucking other guys, and she'll do it to please both you, and her. Let's not forget that she needs to get as much out of this as you are, or else she won't want to spread those thighs again.
Stick in there, you are making progress, even though there are many disappointments along the way.

So, we left here yesterday with him not being able to make last night (Monday) saying he had to work late. He also text asking how he could make it up to her.

We were talking this morning and she was sure he would back out of Friday too so I suggested being a bit more in charge til he really believed she was going to go through with it. Ive attached the messages.

Fuck, this looks like its getting real. Ive never had my emotions so up and down in such a short space of time. My hands are shaking as I type this as these texts are going on right now...

Brilliant!

Please keep posting the texts, they are excellent progress.

The emotions are a real rollercoaster, and can be a struggle at times, ride them as best you can.

This is a tough call. He's obviously interested, but seems unsure for some reason. You have two basic ways to play it. One, she comes on strong and takes charge of making it happen. The risk is that some guys can be intimidated by aggressive women and he may actually retreat.

The other option is that she tells him something like "I don't think you know what you want", and then cuts back on the texting. If he sees the opportunity slipping away it may put him back into "chase" mode, which most guys are wired for anyway. He might hit the gas and come on strong.

It's a tough call. Your wife will probably just have to read him the best she can, then pick one direction or the other and play it out. There are no guarantees.
cuckold - Pronunciation - kuk-uhld - noun 1) The husband of an unfaithful wife. 2) A husband whose wife has sex with others. NOTE - It does NOT say: Sexually confused, submissive, humiliated, sissified, crossdresser, cocksucker, or piss drinker

Think all doubt is out of the window now...

hero69 Your wife should text him something like "Okay. Let's do it and don't you back out on me again!". Then she needs to strike while the iron is hot, and get with him before he gets cold feet again. Sooner the better...
cuckold - Pronunciation - kuk-uhld - noun 1) The husband of an unfaithful wife. 2) A husband whose wife has sex with others. NOTE - It does NOT say: Sexually confused, submissive, humiliated, sissified, crossdresser, cocksucker, or piss drinker

Dont know what else has been text yet but all this is planned for Friday so I have a few days of not eating coming up!!! Feel sick and not horny yet but Im sure that will change when I get home and talk to her face to face...

hero69 Friday... ugh! That's three long days for another delay to come up. Hopefully it doesn't. And yes... it's three long days for you to stew in your own juices. LOL.

I know it's tense. Conflicting emotions at times, and a raging hard-on at other times. But try to relax. The first time is the toughest. It's just sex, nothing more. Encourage her to have a great time, then open your hand and let the butterfly go. Trust in her. She'll be back. When she gets home you will love her more than you ever imagined possible, and she's gonna relish the attention and adoration you'll be lavishing on her.

Reclaiming your wife afterward is indescribably delicious. You'll both be on Cloud Nine all Friday night, and if you have plans for Saturday you might want to change them. You're probably gonna be busy in bed most of that day, too.

cuckold - Pronunciation - kuk-uhld - noun 1) The husband of an unfaithful wife. 2) A husband whose wife has sex with others. NOTE - It does NOT say: Sexually confused, submissive, humiliated, sissified, crossdresser, cocksucker, or piss drinker

I hope you can update us all on Friday as to how things have gone. I'll be waiting, that's for sure!

hero69, you are so close to the fulfilment of all you've worked for now. I bet you're constantly hard with the anticipation, as well as a bag of nerves! Just be prepared to be filled with the biggest mix of extreme angst and sexual excitement you've ever known, and then add your offering to her already well used cunt when she gets home, before you go down on her. It'll be the best sex you've ever had!

Ditto what kennyboy said

My head is fucked up right now...

Im horny and hard when Im with her. I look at her and can see her hands or mouth with another guys cock in there. But when shes not with me Im not really turned on and am worried, nervous, jealous and loads of other emotions I didnt even know were in me!!

Im sure its just 'first night nerves'....

That's all it is. Keep your emotions in check for one more day and you'll cross over into another world. You two are in for a great weekend. I'm excited for ya!
cuckold - Pronunciation - kuk-uhld - noun 1) The husband of an unfaithful wife. 2) A husband whose wife has sex with others. NOTE - It does NOT say: Sexually confused, submissive, humiliated, sissified, crossdresser, cocksucker, or piss drinker

Best of luck! Holding your nerve is so, so hard!

Absolutely classical cuckold angst symptoms. You have to be doing everything right or else you wouldn't be enjoying such deep emotions!
I want to hear good things from you, as the rest of us are.