Almost there... Not now, I now have a Hotwife

Yes kenny I've listened to everything people have said and taken their advice.

PalmCoast thanks so much for your last post, our progress has gone so much better and faster than I ever imagined. I can't believe where we are now from only 6 weeks ago.

As mentioned earlier she asked about seeing someone on Saturday night, turns out she has text the guy from the earlier bunch of texts. She messaged him on Tuesday to see if he was available. He unfortunately is busy Sat but could 'do' Friday!!! I can't fucking believe she is trying to organise her first meeting so quickly. I don't think anything will happen this weekend but the fact she's so openly trying to arrange a meet means she's very keen to get going in this lifestyle.

We are now always talking about things and I'm constantly hard, we went shopping last night so she could get some new sexy clothes for her night out and we were both really turned on about the situation.

So can't wait for Saturday night now. I'll keep you all posted with any progress.

hero69 She's definitely into it 100%, with no nudging needed from you. That's great. At this point just keep stoking the fire... throw out those hot little hints, and let her know that you're every bit as excited as she is. Show a lot of affection. Let her know that you feel closer as a couple. You want every aspect to be upbeat, fun and a positive effect on your relationship (FYI - she'll be watching for any negative reactions from you).

You might want to think about refraining from any sex going forward. Tease... talk... rub... but no penetration, and no orgasms for either of you. It's a lot of fun, and you never know what might work out this weekend (think and plan for the best). IF a meeting does materialize, and she hasn't had an orgasm recently, she'll be much more receptive to his advances and she will also have better orgasms if sex should happen. The better her first experience is, the more likely she'll want to do it again. So you want fireworks for her if things should end up in bed. Refraining from sex until then will help achieve that.
cuckold - Pronunciation - kuk-uhld - noun 1) The husband of an unfaithful wife. 2) A husband whose wife has sex with others. NOTE - It does NOT say: Sexually confused, submissive, humiliated, sissified, crossdresser, cocksucker, or piss drinker

hero69
If she does set up a meet tonight you had better prepare yourself. Whether she goes all the way or not won't really matter because you will know she is with him and why. I'm sure you will be vacillating from wanting to jerk off to wanting to throw up from fear of your future. Don't do either and don't ***** either. You will want to be completely hard and sober for her return. Sometimes when my wife returns I will take her in my arms, kiss her and slide my hand over her mound. I can tell right away how far she went and gage how far she wants to go with me.

You have to remember all encounters are different. She may only flirt and come home horny as hell. She may come home discussed and feeling like a dirty cheap whore and if so you will need to reassure her that it's all just adult sex games and you respect and love her. She may decide to go all the way with the guy who may be a pump&squirt 3 minute man. If so she may be ready to rock your world with some sloppy seconds or he may be a fucking machine who pounds her pussy into orgasmic bliss leaving it totally satisfied and to sore for more. These things you will likely experience this weekend. Good luck and happy endings.

Good advice i122 - hope you're paying heed to all this hero69 because it's all relevant to your situation. I'm expecting to hear good things from you after the weekend!

Excellent advice!

I'm taking notes too

Thanks for all your advice guys, its really appreciated.

She goes running with this guy and since she said she cant do Friday and he cant do Saturday the flirty texts have dropped off and back to arranging running. I suggested that she message him to see if he fancied a run tonight and maybe see how things go. She jumped at the chance and text him straight away. My entire body didnt have a clue what to do!! Heart beating in mouth, cock rock hard, hands shaking. I think I am feeling the stages of Angst!!

Turns out he cant see her tonight but what it does show is how keen she is to get things moving.

Keep you all posted.

Just encourage her to keep trying. Since she runs with him they'll have plenty of chances to flirt, talk and when they're ready they'll work out the details. Be patient. At some point their schedules will align. This is very probably going to happen, so brace yourself.
cuckold - Pronunciation - kuk-uhld - noun 1) The husband of an unfaithful wife. 2) A husband whose wife has sex with others. NOTE - It does NOT say: Sexually confused, submissive, humiliated, sissified, crossdresser, cocksucker, or piss drinker

So, more was going on last night.

She was texting him through the evening. He is very good at dodging questions by asking questions back so she was struggling to get him to tell her exactly what he wanted to do to her but she persevered and he eventually got into it. I got her to text me some of the exchange so here it is:

Me to her: Anything new going on? Xxx

Her to me: Quite a few texts. I asked him if he'd kiss me ️xx His reply was
i would love to kiss you we would both be breathless cxx

I havent got some texts but I read them - she asked him where would he kiss her and his reply was 'all over, especially below the waist'

Her to him: When are you going to kiss me? I do like being kissed just below my waist. Shame your busy tomorrow night I've just had a wax😱 xx

Him to her: wax or no wax you turn me on you are gorgeous looking and you have a great arse would love to tie you up and have my way with you xx

Me to her: Tie you up? I think you'd like that too? Xx

Her to me: That's what I said ️xx

There were a few other texts then he text her 'wish you were here'

Her to him: Where are you? You had the option of going for a run but you ditched me AGAIN!!!😉 ️xx

To which he replied something like 'just in bed, still wish you were here'

She then text him something about him not being free Saturday night but he didnt reply, we assume he fell asleep.

As you can see from above I didnt have all the texts so am trying to remember the exact conversation but think its pretty accurate.

Then me and her had a text convo -

Me: Do you feel sexy cos he's saying what I keep telling you about how beautiful you are? Xx

Her: No. You make me feel sexy telling me. xx

Me: You are the ULTIMATE wife. Everything about you is amazing. I hope you remember that's how I feel when he's got his big fat cock deep inside you and you are coming all over it xxx

Her: You are the ULTIMATE husband, that's the only way I could do anything because I know you have my back and are my rock. When his cock is in me I'll be thinking of you playing with yourself thinking about me 😚😍 ️xx


She was in the kitchen while she was texting him while I was in the lounge watching TV. I kept going in and we chatted about it my cock was hard all the time which turned her on knowing it turned me on. I said something like 'looks like its gonna happen then' to which she replied a straight 'Yes it is'.

Massive turmoil but as you guys have so helpfully said, I am not the only one to feel it and you are helping hugely with what I should expect to feel too so I can only say HUGE thanks for all the experienced feedback. I will be falling back on it very soon I think!!

I have told her about anklets on her right leg and that she should wear one tonight (Saturday). What do you guys think?

Sorry to say this PalmCoast but I couldnt refrain from sex with her last night, she was so horny, as was I, after all the texting that we couldnt keep our hands off each other. It was mind blowing.

Almost forgot to mention, I have my own retail business and this guy is a customer of ours. He is due to come in store today.

He thinks he is starting an affair with my wife and has no idea that I know everything that has gone on recently.

I know that business is not the same as pleasure but it will be difficult to look him in the eye.

Any comments or advice on this?

Cheers

Good luck!
Win some...
Lose some...
Few are rained out

Some pretty sage advice on this thread indeed.

It's been a long and winding road for me initially since I discovered this kink and then for Allie and I both. We have travelled both slowly and quickly and at times we stood still. We both are now agreed it is way better living the lifestyle than in a vanilla relationship. I hope it continues to be an erotic, exciting, humiliating, gut wrenching, horny and perverse adventure. It can be very difficult to deal with the mixture of painful emotion and eroticism at times particularly in the early days as you transition out of that vanilla mindset. I'm sure palm coast described it to a tee more metaphorically but it is SO true.

We are emotionally closer as a couple thanks to living in a cuckold relationship but I have largely given up being a man in doing so. It's like a **** in the exhilaration it can provide to all involved. Good luck living this lifestyle which can be emotional torment at times but focus on how fucking hot it is, and it is REALLY fucking hot.

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What do you mean by this?

I know there are many different levels of this lifestyle, I dont like the sound of the *********** side of it however that may come as we get started on this journey.

Thanks for your input, its much appreciated.

The starred out word is Hum1liat1on

No the ***************** thing came later after we were 'broken in' and I encouraged her initially to humiliate me. I got to the point where I began to enjoy letting my masculinity slip through my fingers like sand, it is freeing in many ways. She gets off on it too more as things progress. There are days when I don't feel this way and mourn a little about what I've lost but such is the nature of being a cuck. On balance it is way better but things will never be 'normal' married to a hotwife just accept that's the road you walk and don't fight it. It's not about specifics per se maybe except sex, it's more about a change in power dynamic in our relationship.
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* = f£mD0m hum1l1@ti0n
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hero69, what you're experiencing right now is normal for the start of a full on cuckold relationship. The angst and the emotional turmoil are beyond description, it both hurts unbelievably and is the biggest turn on you've ever know, having a semi permanent hard-on in the early stages is to be expected! Don't push her too hard, just keep feeding her little hints and encouragement, she needs to be reassured you are ok with this. Not just ok, but so turned on by it. Other than using your tongue on her you shouldn't be touching her at all during the build up to her first extra marital fucking, she needs to be desperate for cock, so she almost throws herself at her new found stud. Keep in touch, and good luck!

Guys do that until they're 100% certain they're on the same page. He doesn't want to risk blowing it by giving your wife a sexual response that might be too far ahead of where things stand.


Many wives are reluctant at first to admit to their husband that another man makes them feel sexy. They're worried it will hurt our feelings. But trust me, it's making your wife feel like a teenager again, and she's thrilled by his texts. My wife went through the same thing at first, until she finally admitted that she loves the feeling it gives her when a new guy lavishes her with compliments and attention.


You may want to try and give her privacy when she's texting. I KNOW it can be tough to stay away, but giving her privacy while she's texting will let her focus on the discussion without distraction. She'll feel free to be a little more risque if you're not looking over her shoulder (that's a tip from my wife!). You can always read the texts later. Your wife shares the texts with you, just as mine does if I ask.


Wearing an anklet would be a big statement from her. It means she's serious about becoming a Hotwife and doesn't mind a small symbol in public as proof. 99% of people have no idea what the anklet symbolizes anyway, but YOU TWO know and that's more important. Plus it will give her an extra tingle to wear it when she's out "on the hunt", making her feel that much sexier and confident.


Keep that up, my friend. Show her that it's strengthening your relationship. Once she sees how it brings you closer together, and she can enjoy the newness and excitement of other men at the same time, she won't want to stop.


That was only if you thought she might hook up with him this weekend. Once it became obvious that it wouldn't happen, you should have sex with her... and talk it up big time with tons of pillow talk and fantasizing. That sex can be just as hot as if she HAD fucked him.


My wife once had a tryst over several months with a guy who was in our social circle. Basically he was a pussy hound, with no scruples. LOL. But my wife insisted that I not treat him any differently, because she knew he was watching me closely for any change in my behavior. If I had started acting different she felt like he would have seen that as a red flag, and stopped seeing her.

I tell you this because you may want to try and do the same. If he senses any change in you he may throw on the brakes, especially since they haven't started seeing each other yet (it's easier to walk away from pussy you're not getting yet LOL). Here's how I handled it: The guy was fucking my wife, thinking he was pulling one over on me. BUT I was actually the one pulling one over on him, because he was a clueless pawn being played by my wife, and enhancing our marriage without even knowing it. I knew the truth, he didn't. So I actually felt like I was the one in control, which made it easy to look him in the eye. Does that make sense...?


Then don't include that element. Many couples don't. The closest we come is my wife admitting that she enjoys a bigger cock. But we don't do any of the FemDom cross dressing, wimp, sissy stuff. I'm 6', 230#. If some guy calls me a wimp he's gonna be leaving our bedroom headfirst through the window.
cuckold - Pronunciation - kuk-uhld - noun 1) The husband of an unfaithful wife. 2) A husband whose wife has sex with others. NOTE - It does NOT say: Sexually confused, submissive, humiliated, sissified, crossdresser, cocksucker, or piss drinker

Thanks guys, these posts are really helping get my head around things.

Nothing happened this weekend, she got too dr*nk on Saturday when she was out with her pals. She did text him late on but he didnt reply. She knew he was already busy but thought she'd chance it anyway. On Sunday morning we were chatting and she said that she was going to play it a bit cooler to try not to look too needy and it seemed to work as he text her a few times before she replied. They have arranged to go for a run tonight!! One of the things she text him on Friday was that she had thought about him pulling her down a dark alley and kissing her, so shes been nervous about whether he will do it tonight. She said she wasnt sure whether she could go through with it tonight, I have reassured her that things dont only have to happen at the weekend when there is a bit of dutch courage inside and if it feels right then just go ahead. I have suggested that she tells him shes going to her m0thers after the run so she has as much time as she needs. They are running from his house so she is going to text me if he invites her inside!!

Im really nervous as is she and we have both had those nervous smiles all day. She even thought about what she could have for lunch so she doesnt smell of garlic etc. Think tonight might be the night...

On another note from Sat night, she looked smoking hot when she went out, she was wearing a short leather skirt and I told her she'd get loads of attention. The DJ in one of the pubs said over the speakers that she was gorgeous as she was leaving the place. I asked her if she had heard him say that about anyone else, she replied 'no'. I reminded her that she is beautiful and I knew other guys would look at her that way too. She also said she saw a black guy out and she found herself looking at him in a totally different way than she ever would have before!!

Things are definitely moving forward...

Ive sent her these captions today which she really likes, she says they are helping her...

I think cock size is the only thing I would like her to say to me.

Im glad that the lifestyle doesnt automatically turn you into a sissy wimp!!

Hero69. I'm glad everything is going the right direction for you both. If you think you are feeling cuckold angst now, wait until you know she is with another man! It is mind-blowing and a complete roller coaster, you may not even enjoy it the first time as it is so intense, but once you have experienced it, you will grow to love it more and more. Enjoy the journey and don't be in too much of a rush.
For what it's worth my favourite part is helping my wife get ready for her dates. That is truly amazing

That's perfect reinforcement! My wife was at a bar the other night, and a guy slipped his cell number to the bartender, and told her to pass it along to my wife. Things like that can do wonders for a budding Hotwife's confidence.
cuckold - Pronunciation - kuk-uhld - noun 1) The husband of an unfaithful wife. 2) A husband whose wife has sex with others. NOTE - It does NOT say: Sexually confused, submissive, humiliated, sissified, crossdresser, cocksucker, or piss drinker

If all goes as she/we think it will, I'll be feeling that in about 2 hours

Ooh! Hold on tight! Enjoy it and please keep us posted and give us the details. Just keep reminding yourself that this is to make her happy. Your happiness and needs are now forever secondary to her desires.
It's brilliant to be a cuckold

I'll be checking back here throughout the night, hoping for promising updates.

Me too Bursting! Are you helping her get ready? Will you be watching or waiting at home? I'm very excited on your behalf

She's with him now. It's all arranged as an innocent run but they both know something could happen.

She text me when she got there saying she felt sick...

If it just ends up a run, so be it, but it could definitely end up being more. I'm nervous, but not massively, think it's maybe disbelief at this very mo. Things will defo change if she texts saying he's invited her inside after!!

Sounds very similar to our recent experience.

What sounds similar? How you felt or the whole situation?

Both really. Flirting with her fitness instructor friend, both wanting something to happen, trying to arrange it, butterflies and nerves all round, angst on my part.