Almost there... Not now, I now have a Hotwife

Looking back on our experiences, I can tell you that the times when I was unsure, but decided not to intervene, actually worked out very well. They proved to be good growth opportunities for me.

The few times that I was unsure, and did intervene, I now regret. Those actions hurt our progress.

Remember, once we put this in motion, we need to be prepared to let our wives direct the movie. There will be times when we're merely spectators. We have to learn to trust their judgement, settle in and enjoy whatever episode they choose.
cuckold - Pronunciation - kuk-uhld - noun 1) The husband of an unfaithful wife. 2) A husband whose wife has sex with others. NOTE - It does NOT say: Sexually confused, submissive, humiliated, sissified, crossdresser, cocksucker, or piss drinker

I have the greatest of respect for you PC because you've put into action what you've learned from experience actually works best for you. A lot of cucks could learn from your advice. It's very true, most cucks are along for the ride, once the whole thing is put into motion, so enjoy it, and above all else, trust your wife to do what's best. You can be sure that of she's enjoying it then the cuckold husband will be too. Hero69 is just discovering that.

kennyboy82 Thanks. Just trying to pass along a few tidbits to others... since many of my tidbits were learned the hard way. LOL
cuckold - Pronunciation - kuk-uhld - noun 1) The husband of an unfaithful wife. 2) A husband whose wife has sex with others. NOTE - It does NOT say: Sexually confused, submissive, humiliated, sissified, crossdresser, cocksucker, or piss drinker

Yeah, I know exactly what you mean. We've all been in the situation where you realise (often much too late) that you could have handled a given situation better. Mine was allowing her to fuck black almost uncontrolled, nowadays that's all she fucks.

Curse you hero69! I'm now addicted to Tumblr! I'm on there every day lately. I blame N.
Peter C

My heads all over the place right now. She had set up her 3rd meet with M for tonight but her slipped disk is playing up so she has cancelled.

As hot as it is for her to go and fuck him and all the other talk and teasing that goes with it, Im struggling with thinking about the long term! Will she still want to fuck him in 12 months or more? What if the novelty never wears off and she really likes this guy? What if she wants to see him socially more too?

Im sure this wouldnt happen and she has reassured me more than ever but its still at back of my mind! I like the fact that so far none of the 3 she has fucked have made her cum but Im sure one day M will and then what?? Of course I want her to have great pleasure but as she starts to enjoy it more and more I get a bit more insecure. To the point I have backed off a bit from wanting to know whats going on.

Im having a wobble folks, someone please give me the 'magic solution'!! (Iknow there aint one but I can hope!)

N knows about this thread now and read this post when she was with me. A wry little (slightly embarrassed) smile crossed her lips. I think she likes that other guys find her attractive which is helping massively with her self confidence. To the point where she is now wanting to put more risky and revealing pictures on her blog of herself.

Have to admit its a hot thought thinking that someone, somewhere could be wanking off over her pictures at any given time

You might want to post the thumbler address again, so people who have come to this thread lately, or have CRS like I do, can find it easily.

Here you go... The hyperlink is visible to registered members only!

hero69
I understand your concerns pertaining to her finding a partner who can make her cum regularly. If he is the only one fucking her besides you it would be easy for her to develop an emotional attachment to him, especially if the text & talk a lot when not having sex.

I have said many times that I have found the best person for a fuck buddy is another married person. It does not matter if it is the husband or wife, if one is going to have an affaire the best participant is another married person. They will know the restraint and restrictions that should be put in place because they will not want to jeopardize their own marriage.

Thanks i122 I really appreciate any and all feedback.

I was worried that I was being a bit soft about it all now we are further into the journey!! Its good to know others have and probably are going through what we are right now.

Thank you for posting the link.

hero69 It's like any other growth experience into the unknown. There will be times of uncertainty, but don't let those fears get in your way. As long as your marriage is solid, trust me... this lifestyle will only lead to fun for you both. I'm not saying there won't be times when you might get uneasy. But the beauty of having a good relationship is that you can talk openly and resolve issues.

"N" has done a wonderful job of balancing her "fun" with your needs. I can tell from things you've posted that she cares about your feelings. She gets it. She understands that the lifestyle is about enhancing your marriage.

Yes... eventually she will have orgasms with other men, once she finds that right guy and becomes very comfortable with being a Hotwife. When that happens she'll have an even more enjoyable time, and she'll want to share it with you. It will NOT detract from her experience with you, it will enhance it. After a really great sexual experience my wife walks in with a beaming smile, and looks forward to reliving every detail together with me. She also appreciates the fact that I give her the freedom to have so much fun.

"N" comes across to me as being very much the same. Push your fears aside, trust that lady and take on the future together.

As far as the novelty "wearing off", it's happened with virtually every guy for my wife. Like she said, she's only in it for the sex, and the excitement of having sex with someone new always fades eventually.
cuckold - Pronunciation - kuk-uhld - noun 1) The husband of an unfaithful wife. 2) A husband whose wife has sex with others. NOTE - It does NOT say: Sexually confused, submissive, humiliated, sissified, crossdresser, cocksucker, or piss drinker

hero69 - the only time I have experienced, or heard of a wife taking the relationship with the guy to more than sex, was when the husband failed to meet her needs for love, sharing, communication and just plain caring. You are doing all of that. So I don't think you have anything to worry about.

Thanks guys, you all speak such sense.

She had been feeling better as the day progressed today so text M to ask him if he was still free for a meet tonight. He text back saying he was so she started getting herself ready. She said she had been feeling excited about their meeting and was a bit gutted she had cancelled, so to know she was going again chirped her up.

Im feeling a bit more relaxed about it this time. I know I might keep contradicting myself, but I really hope she has fun. Im really looking forward to her getting home so she can go through with me whats shes been up to!

For completeness, another time the wife might enter into a romantic relationship with the other man, is when a
couple entered into a cuckolding to FIX their relationship.

hero69, you're just suffering the usual wobbles that a new cuck gets. Like we've all said many times before, you need to relax a little, step back and give her both room to move and show her a lot of trust as well as love. She's not out to replace you, she's out to get fucked. There's a big difference, it's not love she's looking for, it's good old fashioned satisfying sex. You both agreed to this at the outset, so let her go at her pace, and trust her. I believe in the long run she's better having a select number of Bulls regularly fucking her, and giving her exactly what she craves, than a single Bull, or dozens of them. That only gets her a reputation as an easy slut, and it's inevitable that it becomes public knowledge.
I'm glad you've now showed her this thread, and that she was secretly pleased about it. The more she know's guys are nursing hard-ons for her the more she'll be determined to go out and fuck her chosen studs. Like you said, it's a massive confidence booster.
I'm glad she's prepared to show more of herself too, revealing and risky pictures are always welcome! I'm waiting for the all important pics of her full of Bull cock!

Bump for updates
Win some...
Lose some...
Few are rained out

Any news on how her date with M went?

Yeah... I was wondering what happened. Last we heard hero had wobbled a bit, and she was getting ready for a date. I hope he didn't wobble too far off track... or that she didn't have a bad experience.
cuckold - Pronunciation - kuk-uhld - noun 1) The husband of an unfaithful wife. 2) A husband whose wife has sex with others. NOTE - It does NOT say: Sexually confused, submissive, humiliated, sissified, crossdresser, cocksucker, or piss drinker

Update...

I always seem to start my updates with 'Sorry guys, been busy' but guess what? Been really busy!!

I had my wobble a few weeks ago, to the point where I was making the situation a bit tense. N and I had a chat and I admitted that although I was being a bit standoffish I still wanted her to have her fun. It was suggested that she go see M a couple more times and see how things are then.

After our chat I have felt better and we are using the scenario in our dirty talk again (we had stopped).

She went to see M that night from my last post (12/5). She had lots of fun, and also came for the first time ever on someone elses cock other than mine. She was embarrassed when she told me she had cum, said she felt a bit more like she was doing something behind my back.

Sorry its a bit brief, will give more details when I get chance.

hero69 My wife said the same thing. They seem to have a belief that even if they get pleasure from someone else, they still have to reserve their orgasms for their husband. My wife got over that quickly when I reassured her that I WANTED her to have orgasms, and that she should have as many as she can, with me or without me.
cuckold - Pronunciation - kuk-uhld - noun 1) The husband of an unfaithful wife. 2) A husband whose wife has sex with others. NOTE - It does NOT say: Sexually confused, submissive, humiliated, sissified, crossdresser, cocksucker, or piss drinker

That's a fairly typical guilt trip reaction, she'll get over it, especially as her orgasms get more frequent and stronger, eventually she'll be hooked on them. She needs constant reassurance at first that she's doing the right thing, and that you don't just approve, you want, no, you crave, she has lots and lots of them, all while being her adulterous self!
She's making good progress, enjoy it.

brilliant thread and an amazing read glad youre both enjoying and having fun
May more fun come and hope you also get included in the fun 3some fun so you can see for youre own eyes get underneath in a 69 with wife as mr M slides in doggy style this would be my personal favourite up close veiwing

I'm echoing the reassuring aspect
The more you share how good you are with her getting pleasure the more comfortable with it she will be
Win some...
Lose some...
Few are rained out

Glad to see an update here at last hero69. Seen you and N pop up on Tumblr quite often, so I knew things were progressing okay. Nice that your wife is still getting some extra cock, the naughty girl!
Peter C

Hero69 tell us some more. It has been great reading about what you and your wife have been going through.

Hi folks

N and I have gotten into a bit of a pattern with this whole lifestyle at the mo. Shes not desperate (nor does she have the time) to have lots of different men on the go at the same time and as such sees M roughly every 3 weeks.

Its a little bit of a strange setup he has though as he uses his mates house, he goes out for a couple of hours and they get down to it. Last time (9th June) was a bit of a flop. They fucked but she didnt cum and she said it was rushed as his mate arrived home earlier than normal and sat outside waiting. They couldnt really carry on for ages!
When she got home she was in a mood which pissed me off cos it wasnt the reclaiming that we usually get up to. We did fuck but it was more of a 'we should really cos its what we are supposed to do' kind of thing.
We are still learning lots each time. I was/am more relaxed about things and am reassured that its just sex with others and so much more with me.

We have discussed their situation and it seems to be getting a bit stale as its the same thing for an hour or two, and not even somewhere they can try for 2 rounds! Shes gonna give him another chance but I think if he cant sort out using his house then I dont think there will be many more visits.

She is still on a couple of websites where guys keep messaging her and her interest has been piqued by a new guy who she quite likes the look of, so she is messaging him currently. Lets call him R. She has also been messaging a guy she met a while back (completely unrelated to this lifestyle) about going for a bike ride with him and I know they have been flirting. She has told me she doesnt want to do anything with him. Lets call him M2.

Those who follow our Tumblr will see that we are both quite active on there and its hot seeing whats turning her at that moment. Shes definitely much more adventurous and outwardly sexier as her confidence is much better knowing that others guys find her hot and want to fuck her.
We went to a business networking evening the night after she met M, she went in a long summer dress with NO knickers on. Have to say I was gobsmacked when she flashed her bare ass and pussy just before we got in the car, I couldnt get the vision out of my head and just knowing she was in a room full of strangers with no undies on was almost too much to handle.

Shes been a bit more open in what things she likes or might like to try in the future. She has told me she wants to try bareback with M and bring me home a cum filled pussy. She also wants to go to a swinging club with me and see whats goes on in them.

We were having sex a few days after her last meet with M and she was really getting into talking dirty. She said that she was going to fuck M2 on Monday after their bike ride and send me pictures because I wouldnt expect her fuck him after her ride, then she was going to go back over to M's on Tuesday and fuck him properly this time and cum all over his massive black cock. I was to get her to myself on Wednesday and then she told me she had set up a meet to fuck R on Thursday.
It was so hot listening to her tell me how much of a slut she wanted to be and how much she was going to love all the action. Needless to say neither of us lasted very long with all that being said, it was amazing sex, she is so hot.

I think this brings you all up to date.

Your comments are greatly received and appreciated.

I had forgotten to add this part. She has been talking about me watching her and M. Some of her most recent posts on Tumblr have been in reference to this. Shes really getting into the role of hotwife and has been telling me that Im only allowed to sit in the corner and watch with definitely no touching. Its a bit odd hearing my wife say things like this when, before christmas, we were just a 'normal' married couple.

It sure sounds like she is! Watching their transformation is amazing. It's a bit intimidating, knowing that they're gaining more control and becoming more comfortable with the new sexuality. But it's also sexy as hell!

Your wife is following in the footsteps my wife went through... becoming more verbal... telling us what they plan to do with other guys... going without panties... a lil private flashing... doing the internet thing, talking to guys, etc. They grow with each experience.

Try the swing clubs. It's a different environment. Each visit is different, because you get a different crowd. So just go with no expectations and a desire to do something fun together. We seldom play at the clubs, but have made some friends... and we always have fun no matter what.

Because there is no real relationship to support it, having "just sex" with other guys can get stale pretty quickly. Most guys aren't very creative. I know my wife can get bored with a guy unless he's a real stud she connects with. So N may put M out to pasture soon, and move on to the next one. It's normal...
cuckold - Pronunciation - kuk-uhld - noun 1) The husband of an unfaithful wife. 2) A husband whose wife has sex with others. NOTE - It does NOT say: Sexually confused, submissive, humiliated, sissified, crossdresser, cocksucker, or piss drinker