What does being a cuckold mean to you?

We all know the various definitions for cuckold, and how each of us defines it can be a matter of some debate. Some insist you have to be married to your partner to meet the very literal definition of a cuckold, while others will insist that only a husband who is unaware of the infidelity should be considered a cuckold.

I'm not posing this question to start up a debate over semantics - I'm more curious about what being a cuckold means to you.

My own view of it will probably also be contentious among the "hot wife" crowd, but for me, being a cuckold is all about learning to accept humili@tion. And I don't mean necessarily the kind of humili@tion you want, that you script in your own head and then act out with your wife/partner.

For me, being a cuckold is learning to accept gracefully the unplanned humili@tions that over enough time will inevitably occur. You are out having dinner with your wife and a past or current lover of hers walks in and comes over to say hello. Twenty minutes later you notice him at a table with his friends, pointing towards you and laughing with them.

Many will say that there doesn't have to be humili@tion in cuckolding but I think there always is whether you acknowledge it or not. Because even if you don't find it humiliating, others will consider it so and amongst their circle of friends or even just amongst themselves, they are deriving amusement at your being a cuckold; they are laughing at your expense.

Learning to accept this is to me what being a cuckold is all about, because mastering that means you are a graceful cuckold inside the bedroom and out.

An old word out of fashion is the word "wittol" - meaning a contented cuckold, or an accepting cuckold. I think the challenge and the fun on the journey of cuckoldry is working at trying to move from a cuckold, merely a man with an unfaithful wife, to a wittol who accepts his humili@tions, whatever others determine those to be. And that I think is the key- humili@tion is not in your hands (if it is, it's scripted) - it's in the hands of the others who choose to find joy and laughter in your predicament.

To be able to consider oneself a wittol, I think, is crowning achievement for a true cuckold. A man, who despite continued humili@tions will no longer attempt to conceal his cuckold's horns.

What does cuckolding mean to you?
~sissy~

I basically agree with your premise, however I do not subscribe to the *********** aspect. For me there is room in a relationship for that. The thought and act of sharing your wife or lover can be for a myriad of reasons other that the degrading of the husband/boyfriend. Knowing she is receiving pleasure is tops, the satisfaction of knowing other men desire your wife is reassuring, the kinky aspect of doing something sexual that is not widely accepted by society is what does it for some. Then some just like for someone else to expend their energy on her foreplay before you come in as her main event. Personally my wife can fuck whoever whenever she wants and I'm good with it as long as they are discrete, she is honest with me about it, she doesn't neglect me or humiliate me in any way. That is not to say that she may make comments that other may feel ***********, like: How does my dirty little pussy taste, etc etc etc.

for me being a cuckold mean

that my wife receive a lot of pleasure from another man

and gives hem a lot of pleasure too

because I can not give all the pleasure my wife is capable to receive because of my tiny dick

and I end faster

I enjoy to make my wife look pretty every day

I am the husband of a wife who has been unfaithful with a younger man and yes there is *********** involved. There was the *********** of knowing that others, including family, knew about the affair before I did. Some were sorry for me but others were actively involved in encouraging and even facilitating the relationship. Particularly humiliating was to be told that the other guy had a really big cock, one that would make any woman happy, whereas mine is small (a mere 4.5" fully erect), so small that my wife can't feel it inside her. I was also forbidden to criticise him or her in anyway.