The character traits of a cuckold

This is something I posted in response to an item on another website:

"Looking back I think these traits - submissiveness, bisexuality, cerebral masochism, a desire for offense and voyeurism - were all latent in me and were brought out by my wife making me a cuckold. In terms of my relationship with her I've outlasted all the other men in her life. She no longer plays around (due primarily to health issues I believe) but while she did she never included me. She always went behind my back and consequently I got a full dose of cerebral masochism but have had to look elsewhere to express my desire to submit to men and to be humiliated (whoever invented the webcam did a great service to cuckolds like me). The voyeur in me, at least as to watching other men enjoy me wife, remains frustrated but we can't have all that we want can we?"

The original poster was a bull who maintained, based on his own experience that cuckolds generally exhibit certain character traits - they are submissive, bisexual, really get off on the pain and angst of being cuckolded (cerebral masochism) and they're voyeurs.

What do you think?

Sorry, the edit function didn't work quite as expected and generated two versions of the post. The other one is the better of the two.

second post removed

Thank you but a shame you removed the wrong one

Masters_1950

no problem

interesting and makes a lot of sense
joguy

...that description certainly applies to me...
...submission has nothing to do with cock size...

I don't know really...I do not fit into many of these descriptions...I have had lots of women up through the years...but only two of them have sparked any cuckold feelings in my...my ex-wife and my current wife...and I have absolutely no desire to submit to a man...in any physical ways...

For me, I think its more some kind of compersion...that I would like the woman close to me to have lots of sex...as she wants...within some limitations...including that he men that fucks her cannot reveal what's going on to friends/family...

And further...maybe because the "best" women I have had sex with...have been sluts...at least as I saw them...and that this has initiated some desire to be married to a slut..?

...and finally...the "cucky angst" is a big part of it...

I have often wondered why I am like this (as most cuckolds I guess)...never found an answer...but have accepted it...so for me: Submissive? No...Bi-Sexual? No...Pain? (emotional pain when it happens...yes)...physical pain...to a certain degree...voyeur? No...I like to hear about it after...know about it when it happens...but watching? No...

I guess that's me...so I don't fit into this description...

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A cuck to my GF - A bull to all other women

Most of the cuckolds I know have a slit permisterality, one in the work place aggresive and no holds barred , the other in their sexual life shy,reticent,unsure of them selves, very submissive..I think a lot are bisexual but not all..I think all have fear of rejection..When I married My husband I was shy and withdrawn,well not now..

my hubby

me

very well said Linda! At workplace iam quite manly agressive to get things done but sexually iam very submissive, love the offense beeing femmed by my wife. As a young adult i lacked confidence and attitude with girls, although i made later up for that part. But when sex jumped in with dates i couldnt manage it in a manly way of just giving the girl a good confident fuck. I guess that iam too much bottom to do it.
Sexually i prefer a dildo/cock in my ass and masturbating at same time. Thats how i feel best.
femmed hubby by wife who is interested in cuckolding (she likes the idea)

Master 1950

I do agree with you. The best times for me have been when the husband is submissive, bi, and dressed as a sissy. Although I have never tried to degrade anyone, perhaps the hubby felt that way. I see it more as me being an Alpha male bull who is in control and everyone else is taking my lead and pleasing me and the wife, who for the time we are all together is mine. It also I think it lowers the pecking order of the sub hubby in the eyes of the wife and establishes me as the Alpha, again in her eyes. I do however see how a hubby in that position and mind set could be an "in-charge" role in the work place as Linda38DD alludes to. We all compartmentalize of lives and that would make sense in a case like this.

Seeing other men behind your back sounds more like cheating to me...something that for some reamister appeals much less to me than cuckolding.

Thanks folks for your contributions to the discussion. I really appreciate it. Even after many years I still don't really know how I feel about being cuckolded, I still have an erotic response to the situation mixed with angst and offense.

norwegian. I guess there are many guys who are not into watching their wives having sex with others but who do enjoy hearing about her experiences later, that's a form of voyeurism isn't it? I can certainly appreciate that not all cucks are submissive, there's a world of difference between being supportive of or accepting of your wife's desire to have sex with other men and being submissive to those men.

Linda38DD in my vanilla life I most probably come across as dominant but that's only because I learnt to hold my own in the workplace but I've always been aware how fragile my outer shell is.

popeye1 my understanding has always been that a cuckold is a man with an unfaithful wife so her cheating is very much a part of it for some of us and just adds to the cuckold angst. Mind you, I've always been somewhat envious of those cucks who have some kind of agreement with their wives that enables them to participate in some way.

I guess even a bull's perspective on cucks is determined by the type of women he services and whether or not the husbands are there and how they behave towards him.

It depends on if he is a Bull, a Bull or a Bull...

One man who defines himself as a bull and that meet several couples might be one that are chasing them on the web sites or in clubs for swingers/cuckold couples...etc...

It is true that any cuckold set-up (if beyond a fantasy/wannabe phase) will need at least three people involved...the cuck, the wife and Mr. X...

Some may by definition say that Mr. X is the Bull...but in my view, a Bull is a man that in addition to having sexual relation to the wife, also have some "sexual relation" with the Cuck...not necessarily physical contact...

A Mr. X can also e.g. be a Friend of the wife (with benefits)...her lover...a stranger...whatever...and this Mr. X may also be a friend of the cuck (without him and the cuck discussing his sexual relation with the cuck's wife...knowing about the relation or net...)

My ex wife had several lovers...some knew she was married...some not...some knew me...most not...but I had never the pleasure (?) of discussing this with them...even though my wife told me everything...

I think that in a 'normal' cuckold relation...read: a wife fuck some one else than her hubby...Mr. X is not a bull...he is just a man fucking a woman that by coincident is married...


A cuck to my GF - A bull to all other women

Excellent observation! Hubbies are generally unwanted and unnecessary baggage connected with a good piece of ass.
..............PSEUDO PERSON...YMMV!

Linda, love the photo's