Sex with women other than your wife

Another guy chatting to me about one of my wife's past affairs asked if I had fucked anyone other than my wife to which I answered no. I was then asked if I had ever wanted to fuck anyone other that my wife and I had to think about that. Yes, I've fantasised about having sex with other women, but in real life I've either failed to recognise opportunities or have avoided them. And on further reflection, I realise I wouldn't even have had sex with my wife if she hadn't seduced me. It's not that I don't enjoy sex, I really do, and I like it often but I've never pursued another woman for that purpose.

Are there other cuckolds who are the same way? Does this mean that when it comes to sex I'm a beta male or just a faithful husband regardless of my wife's infidelities?

Do you mean before you met your wife?

I did fuck other women before marriage, (before I met my wife) although not as many as I wanted to. Truthfully I am kind of conflicted about this now. I regret it in some ways, but it was certainly for the best. Like you, however, I was notoriously oblivious to signals, dumbfounded about what to do when I did see them, and too timid and risk-averse to act on them almost always.

I think that this is not uncommon among cuckold fetishists. If you think about it, the fetish is about eroticizing deep, even traumatic, fears of rejection by potential female partners (and/or the attendant offense and status loss.) It makes sense then that people with such strong fears would often not have extensive or successful experience as this would tend to quench the fear and reduce the need to fetishize it.

That is not to say it is an absolute. I'm sure there are some cuckold fetishists with different pathways. But it seems reamisterable to conclude that your profile is fairly typical (if a bit extreme - no sex partners at all?) of a cuckold. ( A beta male if you prefer.) Honestly, I envy you a bit. I often wish that my wife had been my first, or even that she kept me a virgin - although I rationally know that my experiences were probably for the best as they brought me to where I am.

Thanks for sharing your very interesting story!
Pantalone, Wittol, oblate, abnegator, fellator, pathic, irrumatiophile,fop, epicene, cotquean, skivvy, thrall, and pilgarlic.

I don't regret only having sex with my wife even when I look back and recognise some of the opportunities I've allowed to pass me by and I've no intention of changing the situation. My wife is secretive about her affairs so I don't get much from the situation except the angst and fuel for my fantasies.