Engergy to marriage from cuckolding.

Can someone explain why my marriage with my wife gets a huge boost of energy and love when my wife is actively cuckolding me. We have been doing this for about 8 years now, and when she has a steady boyfriend for fun, its like our marriage is on crack. We are very close, she is very happy, our kids even notice it. We are playful with each other, we hold hands, almost every aspect of our lives is better. Please..someone explain this.

Shared secrets, shared intimacies, shared sexual experiences, shared lives usually bring bring people closer together. When your wife cuckolds you this way, she is playing a kinky game that she clearly finds exhilarating. She wants to share her joie de vivre with the man she loves and has made a life with; her partner without whom this game and great time would never be possible. By engaging in this socially frowned-upon kink, the two of you become partners in crime, co-conspirators against the powers of social probity that would limit your freedom. Who doesn't get a rush from beating the system? From getting one-up on those people, institutions, conventions more powerful than you? Of pulling the wool over the eyes of the judgmental?

Social rules can be fuzzy, but the underlying tendencies are clear: Women aren't supposed to be sexual. Marriage is supposed to be a life sexual sentence. Good citizens don't have anything to hide. Etc., etc.

This stolen freedom of hers is empowering. It fills her with happiness. She wants to share that with you. She is also grateful to you for helping her get this. It shows you love her. All of this fills her even more deeply with love for you. As the proverb says: Happy wife, happy life.

You are a lucky and good man. I wish the best of luck to you and your family.
Pantalone, Wittol, oblate, abnegator, fellator, pathic, irrumatiophile,fop, epicene, cotquean, skivvy, thrall, and pilgarlic.

Thank you...and yes, I think thats it. When she got home from her date the other night...last thursday, it was like she was walking on air. The stud is ok hung..not that big of a deal, but it has nothing to do with that for her. Yes, she does like big cocks, but she gets so excited to go on these dates...what panties she is going to wear, all that. Now that she has more than one stud, she has to shave every morning, and she has to be ready to play pretty much everyday because she gets text messages from someone almost everyday now. For the most part, she only plays about every other week, but she really enjoys the attention from these young studs. I really do think though the energy is from the two of us being on the same page on this.

A shrewd observation in my opinion. Kudos.

In my observation, most cuckolds overestimate how much things like penis size and the sex itself matters to their wives. Obviously it varies from woman to woman and I'm not suggesting they don't value it, but my belief is that most cuckolding wives get bigger charges from other aspects of the arrangement. The attention of other men that make them feel valuable and sexy. The freedom to do as they want which makes them feel powerful. The trust and vulnerability of the husband which makes them feel loved. (What is the old cliche about setting what you love free?) The taboo of it that makes them feel alive and vital. The simple feeling of being a winner in life.

My own wife has at times had "dry spells" when she couldn't even be bothered to look for a lover that lasted well over a year. It didn't matter. Having sex (which she loves) was not as fortifying to her as the fact that she could do so without loss, fear, or repercussions. Women like my wife value marriage and the sense of stability, shelter, and commitment it gives. That they can have it without having to pay societies dictated price of lifelong monogamy can be like winning the lottery. (If they really believe it. Many cuckold relationships crash because the wife can never really believe that it isn't a trap or a trick or that there won't someday be a reckoning by the husband, society, God, whoever. Like anyone confronted with something that seems to good to be true, they keep looking for the catch or waiting for the other shoe.)

Obviously I don't know you or your wife, but from what you say I suspect that you can continue to reap the benefits of her joy for both of you as long as you stay supportive, loving, and selfless about all this. It's possible (even likely) that over time the novelty will wear off and thus her rush from it some. But the deepening of her love, appreciation, and commitment to you cannot be undone and will remain capital you can count on in the years ahead.
Pantalone, Wittol, oblate, abnegator, fellator, pathic, irrumatiophile,fop, epicene, cotquean, skivvy, thrall, and pilgarlic.

Are your kids informed about your cuckold life style?

We have been doing this for about 6 years, so I think we are into this for some time to come. Yes, she does go through times when she is not really excited about meeting guys, so we just take some time off, but for the most part, that only lasts about a month. It does seem that after each break, she gets into it even harder, with more dom/sub ideas and requested actions. As I have read many times, the life is always in a transition from thing to another, ideas, and expressions of the cuckold lifestyle ever changing. Now she is into going to a nude beach to pick up on guys and other cuckold couples.

Cuckoldinsocal and Mrs BlackBlow up doll

Wanted to thank you for this thread.
Even though I am a wannabe. The thing you talk about We are very close, she is very happy, our kids even notice it. We are playful with each other, we hold hands, almost every aspect of our lives is better
Those are the thing I wan t for my marriage. I want my wife to be all that she can be!
Also , wish i could find the thread, a wife makes a comment about first thinking her hubby was selfish for wanting her to date. His thrills. But after awhile she :gets it: and understand how un-selfish her husband is being but encouraging her to date. !
You two are great hope to read and learn more! I want to bring those things to our marrage.
Thanks
Meijer