Marriage is ending, can I save it by becoming a cuckold?

Things have grown pretty bad. Barely talking and stuff. We've played with sex toys, dildoes, that kind of stuff, but then I lost my cool when a man who was interested in her made a salacious comment.

I'm afraid I'm losing her for good, but the thought that she's in her new apartment right now getting fucked by some guy makes me terribly horny.

Ugh. I hate myself.

Note: She knows I like the thought of other men being with her, but my inability to handle it on a primal level when I met them face to face set some cuckolds brownie off and now she is moving into her own space. I feel like it might be good, it will allow her to establish things on her own terms, like if I go and beg she will let me have her after other men have had her, but I don't know. I don't want to lose her. I wish we could just figure out how I can let her go get fucked and then her and I can have great sex afterwards. I don't think she's really into all that though, ultimately, so I'm looking for a woman who can take me by the balls and just give me what I want without threatening to leave me if I ever feel a little jealous and angry.

Teh simple answer is no. If you become a cuckold to stop you being divorced then it will not work out well.

I'd be a little less pessimistic, but only a little. You likely will get to be a Cuckold for a while, maybe you'll enjoy it, but chances are you'll still get divorced.

If you do not, then the chances are you'll have to be the most extreme kind of Cuckold; she'll have all the power, you'll be at her mercy.

Show up in a chastity device, offer her the keys if she'll keep you. See what she says...
Old Enough to know better...but I don't!

I don't think so. Cuckolding is like a volatile substance. Used carefully in the chemistry, it can do great things and strengthen relationships and lives, but added incorrectly to the wrong thing and it can be an accelerant or even cause a blow-up.

I think you need to have some really long, hard, honest conversations with your wife. And not just about cuckolding. Yes, you should be very candid with her about what you want, and also about how you feel when it happens (or did happen) and why you lost control, etc., because it is clearly such a key part of who you are. But you also need to talk about the rest of your life and what you want your marriage as a whole to be. This woman is moving out on you and not even speaking much; clearly this is not about the cuckolding - but about much deeper and bigger issues. You also need to listen carefully to what she says she needs and wants. Don't think of yourself as a relentless advocate, pushing to get back together. Listen and see if she really wants to at all. If she does, then hear what she wants her life to be and any marriage to you to be. You only work as a couple if you are close enough in what you want that you can tolerate the parts that are different.

My other advice is get professional help. It is the right - an empowering - thing to do. Two kinds you should look at:

1. Couples counseling would be very useful IF you can find a counselor who isn't a sex-negative, monogamy is the only way prude. (Not so easy.) It isn't that hey will necessarily support your cuckolding fetish. They will likely tell you both to cool it for a bit while you work on your deeper issues, which is good advice. They should also have an open mind to the idea that cuckolding just isn't going to work for you as a couple. But to do that, they also need to have an open mind that other way - ie: that cuckolding can work for some couples, and that is what may be hard to find in the very moralizing world of couples counselors.

2. Individual therapy for yourself regarding your issues with possession, betrayal, intimacy, measuring-up, etc. We all have them (else this would not be a hot fetish for us) and the experience you relate demonstrates that they are raw and urgent for you. More problematically, they are sabotaging your marriage (not to mention you enjoyment of the fetish) so you should try to get some guidance and insight into how you deal with this baggage. You'll need it if you want to save this marriage, and if if you can't save this marriage, you'll still need it to allow you to have a better relationship next time.

Good luck.
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