advice needed - post baby

Hi all,

I'm 30, my wife is 32. She's always been pretty conservative sexually but i have confessed to her previously my desire to be controlled and she has locked me in chastity from time to time and made me worship which is fantastic, but never full on and certainly not cucking.

We had a baby around 18 months ago and everything has stopped since then. And when I say everything i mean i have had sex four times in 18 months. Nothing kinky just sex. She is still breast feeding once a day and says that this contributes to a lower libido.

I'm just wondering if there are any other couples who have gone through this? Does it sound normal? Should i just ignore my chastity/submissive and possible cuck tendencies for a while and just keep it for jacking off or should i try and be more submissive by nature and help even more with chores, etc? Any advice most welcomed!

Yep, its normal for things to slow down when kids come along. But 4 times in 18 months is not quite normal, I would think.

For my wife, after the first kid, it was because of medical reamisteres we couldn't have sex for months, almost a year. My wife was in pain when we had sex. Talk to your wife about how she is feeling when having sex. It may be do to medical reamisters, she might be embarrassed to talk to you about it, or worried about hurting your feelings.

It is very normal after a birth and while she is nursing. The question for you is whether you want to use this normal and inevitable thing to advance your lifestyle kink or not. If you do, perhaps you should talk to her about it all. Tell her you know and support that she isn't "in the mood," and suggest perhaps something to advance things - like you wear chastity all the time and one a week she unlocks you, looks you in the eyes and tells you she isn't interested in sex with a loser like you. Then you go off and wank by yourself (maybe into a toilet or something) while telling yourself she deserves better.

This allows you to get off, furthers your kinky play, makes things easy on your wife, but also puts her in charge so that she can feel assured that you are not brooding or getting frustrated by the lack of sex. It is wins all around.
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To be honest I do not think it is common to go that long. She needs to see a doctor to help her out. My wife got even horniner when she was pregnant. At the time she was only fucking one black guy buthe fucked her up until a few weeks before she gave birth. Then about 3 weeks after the baby he was fucking her again...so I guess each woman is different

Well I actually raised it with her on Sat morning and said that it had occurred to me that I had been pestering her for sex when really i did want her to take control and that i had been selfish. We then both agreed that she would put me in chastity and control when i am allowed out and to orgasm.

It was a really good honest chat and worked out nicely. She made me go down on her afterwards and i was so surprised - her pussy was creamy and dripping wet from the conversation!

She said she was glad that i was able to raise it with her. i said even if she doesn't want sex all that regularly there are simple ways she can tease me, just by getting dressed in front of me and teasing me with what i can't have. She really appreciated that as she said that she had been trying not to flirt that much when she didn't want sex.

All in all shows the power of a trusting relationship. Thanks for all your support.

Wow, Sounds awesome secretaussie. Looks like things are looking up. Let us know how things go
tony

Don't worry, it will only last for 18 years.