how many real members are there?

I just wondered, of the 91402 registered members, how many are actually actively involved in a real cuckold relationship or marriage?

I'm just trying to build up an idea of whether cuckolding or cuckoldry or whatever is as widespread as these kind of sites make it seem. It would be easy for someone interested in the subject to join a few sites and conclude that its becoming a more widespread and accepted practice, but how many of the cuckold sites share the same (few?) real members?

Really, 91000 or so out of everyone in the world with internet access isn't a huge percentage. Even if all 91000 were in the UK that would still only be 1.5% of the population.

No one I know has ever heard of the term "cuckold", and neither do they believe that some men allow and actively encourage their wives or partners to seek sex with other men.

So how many on this site are actually cuckolds or cuckoldresses?

How can any one of us answer that question? We only know for ourselves, really. I am an actual cuckold and I know of/am aquianted with others in the real world. Based on what I read on this website, I would say that many of the active/long timer members are for real. There are also a number of people who come and go who are wannabes and don't claim to be otherwise. No doubt there are also some folks on here for whom it is an outlet and who have never lived their fantasies to actual fucking but claim they do online. Such is the nature of online. It really seems an impossible thing to know (ie: how many of the 91,402.)
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It is very hard to say. On this website I'm sure that for many of the members and visitors Cuckoldry is just a fantasy. Yet, as a reality it does seem to be becoming more widespread and "higher-profile" than it used to be. Like the previous poster all I know for sure is my hotwife and I are real, I doubt we're the only ones.
Old Enough to know better...but I don't!

Well I m a real cuck. I have a short dick, my wife fucks hung guys. No clue how many really are real or not but who really cares. So many types of cucks. Some, like me, are not bi, have no desire to touch another guy. Some are very bi and some I would imagine are gay and use this as an outlet so they can say they are not gay but cucks. So many swinger couples out there, wife swapping etc...is this really much different?

I know I'm one, but the wife likes to keep everything secret, so I don't know very much.
Natural Born Cuckold
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just like hando here

Before i met my husband and he told me about it, i thought i was just a slut but since he likes it, i'm a slut and a cuckdress/hotwife?

there must be something in the water. ive been seeing graffiti on bathroom walls for over 50 years and yesterday was the first time i saw cuckold related graffiti. it said in 3-well spaced lines:

sarah is 36-22-36, wants to fuck 8" black cock, husband likes to watch

theres something in the water!

Out having takes this weekend and got to witness a good looking muscular black guy engaged in conversation across the bar with a classic cuckold or cuckold wanna-be couple. She was blonde, probably around 40 or 45, not fat or skinny, but did have some curves, long black summer dress and wedges. Classic sexy milf look. We were watching the ballgame, but I was keeping an eye on the progression. Not sure what they were discussing, but to the untrained eye, nothing seemed out of the ordinary. I could see more was in play. Eventually, you could see whe was getting a little hornier, as she started hugging up to her husband a bit more. Perhaps it was the attention, or the the takes, but I could tell she was getting aroused. I believe thie meeting was incidental, since things weren't too overt, and the husband was sitting in between the of them. Then, as the evening went on, the husband slid his stool back from the bar, giving her an opening to get in closer. She did, and he became more of an observer to the conversation at this point. I could tell what was going on in each of the guy's minds, but the milf didn't seem completely aware, or perhaps didn't realize that this younger stud would really want to fuck an older milf like her. Perhaps a lack of self-confidence, since she really couldn't compete in looks/body with some of the younger girls also in the bar. The irony, she didn't have to. Youth is really no match for a sexy, experienced attitude who understands that getting fucked is as much a reward for her as the guy. Anyways, you could see the intrigue in the husband's face, and he seemed to be trying to stoke the fire. Eventually they left, she gave him a good-bye hug, told him to drive safe, and they walked out. I'm sure the fantasy discussion continued as soon as she got home, I'm also guessing hubby didn't last too long, realizing the opportunities, and she had to finish herselves off with her vibrator with continuing thoughts on the encounter, enought to fuel the fire and the possibilities.

So, is this really going on? Yup... to some degree or another. anyways, here are my thoughts, lets see if anyone agrees with the guestimate on the breakdown of those 91,000 members

40% it's just a fantasy, and probably haven't brought this up with their wife
30% have had discussed the fantasy with their wife, and perhaps have done some roleplay, but going to the next step just isn't going to happen
25% have some time of open relationship, either dabbling in swinging, or have had actually had a limited number of threesomes, with the full cuckold relationship being a fantasy.
5% Are lucky enough to be married to good old fashioned cock-loving slut that has fucked numerous men, with and without their husbands/boyfriends present, and they are just loving every minute of it.

Again, this is my thoughts on the breakdown of the 91,000 members. I could be low on the 5%, but I believe there is a difference between the couple/wife that has on occassion fucked others, and the full blown 'my wife's a whore and loves it' category.

I think the internet has aided the spread quite a bit. Now most any woman or man can see most any kind of kink in the privacy of their own home. Previously it was only for those bold enough to rent a video, go to a book store or order in the mail. So we as a whole have increased our knowledge of the various aspects of sex.

Previously a woman whose man asked her to relax with another man would have to make her decision on what to do with limited knowledge. Some might seek out a close friend or relative for advice, some might go along or refuse without any more info than her husband gave her. Now most any woman can go online privately and research. They can see that other regular women are leading successful fulfilling lives all while cuckolding their husbands.

I think as the overall education of men and women increases, we will see a rise in the incidence of cuckolding. The more society acknowledges reality, the more prevalent cuckolding will become. If a man is bad in bed due to his inability to perform long enough to please his wife, or if he is just too small, he will acknowledge that while she may love him with all her heart, that he can not physically please her the way she needs to be pleased. An educated man that loves his wife will want to see that she is pleased physically and will look to find that pleasure for her. His involvement in the process means that he is now physically pleasing the woman he loves, albeit not directly.

A note on my use of the word cuckolding: I realize that being aware and in favor of your wife relaxing with other men is traditionally considered hotwifing. I prefer to use the word cuckolding in the more recent and broader sense. If this bothers you, then in my humble opinion, you worry about the wrong things
fender

naughtyjose, about 5% you say. I reckon that's probably a sensible estimate.

Taking the population of the USA (only as a guide), that would mean that the 4500 or so people actually involved in a cuckold relationship would make up just over a hundredth of one percent of the population. My point being, we browse sites like this and could easily conclude that cuckolding is a popular kink or fetish when in actual fact its only practised by a miniscule percentage of the population, although I do concede that there will be people who are in this lifestyle and don't post about it on the internet.

91000 members can't be wrong? Doesn't so good when you say 0.0015% of the population.

Don't misunderstand me. I'm not saying cuckolding or hotwifing is a bad thing, and neither am I saying the advice given on this and/or other cuckold sites is bad. I'm only saying that the viewpoint is only available from a tiny number of people.

Fender412002, your point about the internet kind of backs up my point. Is cuckolding as widespread as it seems or is the perception being exagerated because the information from a limited number of people is so accessible?

No offense, but I don't see anything "sensible" in that estimate. It seems to me to be quixotic to try to make an estimate given how notoriously difficult it is to get good data on sexual activities (even those without the social stigmas of fetish cuckolding.) Then there is the problem that fetish cuckolding is, as an activity, difficult to define in a measurable way. Consider the best available statistical research on the U.S. population that touches on the subject:

-> 11% of adults who have ever been married or cohabitated report having been "unfaithful" at least once.
-> 10-15% of all women ever married report having had sex outside of their marriage at least once.

You see that the numbers already bounce in these two separate rigorous studies. But let's take them. So what? Is any woman whoever had an outside relationship by definition a "cukoldress," or "hot wife" or whatever your preferred terminology? I wouldn't think so. How do you define what portion of that was fetish cuckolding vs. just old fashioned cheating or swinging?

-> 59% of U.S. females 30-44 have had more than one sexual partner, including 29% more than 5, and 9% more than 11.

Again, so what? The stat doesn't give us guidance as to how what portion of these involved multiple partners vs. serial monogamy. And how do you fit fetish cuckolding into that anyway? If a cuckoldress stops having sex with her husband (or even never does) how does that fit?

Let's look at BDSM stats (Fetish Cuckolding is considered a type of BDSM by sex and psych researchers, however much many on this website object to that.)

-> Between 5% and 10% of US couples engage in SM sex play at least occasionally.
-> Only 11% of women into BDSM prefer to be dominant based on an academic study of message boards.

But since we already know that many who engage in fetish cuckolding don't consider it BDSM, how does that help? Here's another good one:

-> 89% of married US women have fantasized about sex with someone other than their husbands.

But have they acted on it? Has he got off on their acting on it? Who knows?

My point is, that to ask things like who is a "real" cuckold, you would need to define that. Only married couples, or can you be cuckolded by someone you are dating? If it happens once and you are aroused but it leads to a scene and counseling, etc. and you don't do it anymore, do you count - or is it only those of us living it as lifestyle? What about the many (and here's a guess - the majority of cucks) whose wives did it a few times, and they hope they can get them to do it again, but there is often long dry spells? Antoher way to ask it: are you a cuck forever, or only when it is happening.

It seems to me the problem is that fetish cuckolding is a fetish, rather than an activity. People engage in it is various ways. Some leave it as fantasy and role play within a couple. Some might bring in a third on limited or special basis - perhaps only a few times their whole lives. Others have a basic understanding in the marriage that is acted on. to varying degrees at varying times through the marriage, but is not a constant actualized fact (but a potential.) Others have marriages in which the wife has long-term lovers, or dates frequently - what you might call life-stylers. Might - assuming that she does this as part of a cuckold relationship and not because they have an open or swinging relationship, etc. How do you measure all that at all? What is the threshold of "real?"

And even if you work up a definition that is based on measurable phenomenon: How do you get reliable statistics on it when it is a subject when the activity is generally private and those engaged very likely to lie (in either direction)?
Pantalone, Wittol, oblate, abnegator, fellator, pathic, irrumatiophile,fop, epicene, cotquean, skivvy, thrall, and pilgarlic.

Mcghee, my estimates were based on the 91000 users on this site. Im certain there are many more hotwifes / couples that are not CP users, as there are a ton of other lifestyle sights. Im pretty confident that the overall number is far less than 5%, but much higher than the percentages you state. Take a look at the number of users on those sites, and the number of couples showing an interest in adding a male to the equation.

I am a cuckold. My wife fucked a guy numerous times when she went on a two month vacation to Europe without me in 1971. As far as I know I've been the only one since then but I still consider myself a cuckold. It still turns me on and I wish she would make me a cuck anew. She is 62 but still looks great.
miles

MrsBlackBlowupDoll
You are right about sexual research and sexual analysis. It is still the hidden world that is beyond research because it is too central to our existence. I would think the number of actual cuckolds (willing and ***) in the world is about 500 million, but who knows for sure?!

When I was in high school a girl I had a crush on got into a very well known and talked about gang bang. But it was before i had even asked her out, let alone married her. Was I a cuckold even then? Well, kind of.

Real as they come here!

My experiences with women indicate that over 99% of cuckolds have no idea whatsoever that wifey is being soiled by another man's penis.

Women are far smarter than men are with their sexual indiscretions.

PS. (FWIW) Enjoying wearing panties or leather is a fetish. Enjoying another man wearing your wife around his dick is a kink.
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Wow, thats some crazy math. You must just mess with complete whores, and evil women. Thats not fun at all. Cuckolding with the man having the knowledge of it is what its all about!

You're right about knowing, but I'll take any kind of cucking I can get.
Natural Born Cuckold
Pussy-Free For Life starting 02-26-2017, 2633 days as of 05-13-2024

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Droopy and Miss

Ditto what Shankly said; however we don't chronicle all of our experiences on this forum (sorry).

Well, I'll throw my comment into the pot for what its worth. I am a REAL cuck, not a wannabe or pretender. My wife took a break from fucking other guys for a while but the possibility is there we may return to the lifestyle (hope so!) I don't know what are accurate statistics but I have known a few cuck couples so it can't be all that rare.

Yes, there are some bogus posters and role players here.... even guys pretending to be women.... I have no clue who.... but hey, I'm a legit cuck who posts here all the time so I gotta believe there are others like me here too.
Faggot Pussy

mixedcpl7982

No, I'm not speaking about "whores" and "evil women".

I am referring to respectable, dignified wives with hubbys that take them for granted. ANY man's wife is vulnerable for another male to exploit the weakness present in her; and EVERYONE'S marriage.

Sure, there is a "cuckold scene" with a number of couples that actively practice cuckoldry. A man with an attitude that a wife is a whore and evil if she trysts secretly but totally OK if she does the same thing with his knowledge? Such a man not only deludes himself, but demonstrates his complete lack of understanding about the nature of women in general.

You are correct about my math error. 99 and 44/100% percent of cuckolded husbands haven't the slightest clue that wifey is quietly being pleasured by another man! Wifey's trysts provide her the most pleasure and the least stress when an unsuspecting hubby is not in the picture.


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You are such an idiot. After seeing all of your post, that confirmed it for me even more, lol. You are not even worth my time in responding anymore.

mcghee

There's not a lot of traffic or activity on this site in spite of the large number of members. Presumably a lot of people join the site, browse around, and probably never (or rarely) come back.

My own permisteral experience suggests that the vast majority of cheating wives do so discreetly and often reluctantly. They're married to sexually indifferent or dysfunctional men, but want to remain married for various reamisters.

And then most wives who fool around with their husband's consent would be probably classified as swingers or hotwives. In other words, hubby watches but is not submissive and may join in if the moment is right. For me as a bull, I don't want him touching her, or even naked unless we give him permission to play with himself. (And when he strips, I might expect him to be wearing her bra and panties, lol).

So actual cuckolding wives with submissive husbands who truly get off on the jealousy and offense are probably relatively rare. I'm a reamisterably suitable bull for a middle aged couple and I've been seeking a couple to play with on and off for a year. In the process I've had passionate sex with a few secretly cheating wives that Ive met along the way but as yet have not hit the jackpot with the right couple.

Getting closer, though, perhaps. Talking with a few couples online now and am discussing a meetup with the wife alone of one of them eventually leading (hopefully) to hot sex with hubby present.

I can tell you as a fact there are a lot of guys who actively encourage their wives or partners to seek sex with other men, myself included. Its just not something you jump right out and say hey come fuck my wife. But a lot of people are very turned on by it on both sides. I love the idea of my wife really getting off with or without me and as much as possible. Others are not involved often at all, but it has definitely made our sex lives a whole lot of fun when it does. I'm not into the whole be a sissy type of crap, I just really enjoy my wife being sexual. Flirting, having guys take notice of her, flashing, fooling around with someone or fucking them are all huge turn ons for me. Very rare that she's game for it as I said, but when she is, watch out. And we do know other couples where the wife / girlfriend plays and both sides enjoy. There are also plenty of girls that bring in other girls for their men. Lots of people out their who like to just have fun.

Hope that answers your question.

A few weeks ago I created this poll to try to answer the exact same question. 348 people have looked at it to date and only 11 people have voted.

https://www.cuckoldplace.com/1_80516_1.html

Well, I thought I might as well add my thoughts on this matter. Like most previous posters, I believe the question cannot be answered for all the reamisters already discussed.

At the risk of getting a strong response from some people on here, I think that the vast majority of members on this site are wannabees or fantasists. I acknowledge that there are a few real couples on here, and I thank them for sharing their experiences with the rest of us. But I think that if somebody is really living the lifestyle, then most of them do not need to be constantly talking about it on the internet. Like everything in life, there are those who think about it, those who talk about it, and those who actually do it. For myself, I am a wannabee. It's not just fantasy, as I have seriously discussed it with my wife. Her reaction is always the same....NO.

Over the years I have chatted with lots of guys on the internet. Most of them are like me, in that they are turned on by the thought of their wife with another man. And most of them, either don't have the courage to discuss it with their wives, or if they have, then the wife always says no. Most women have a different perspective on love and relationships to us guys.

Therefore, I think that the desire to have your wife fucked by another man, is very common. But the actual number of couples who practice the lifestyle on a regular basis, is fairly limited. Also the word cuckold is in itself very limiting. On the swinger sites there are lots of couples advertising for another man, but very rarely do they use the cuck word. Hotwifing or wife sharing is more about two equal guys sharing the pleasure of one woman, rather than the Dom/Sub relationship associated with cuckolding.

well I can contribute my experience from swinger clubs. there I was struck fist by how natural the whole scene evolves but, second, by the extreme degree of lust (in most women anyway). So, although the number of people there are a small percentage, I subscribe to the theory that there are many out there but do not dare and many who do it in various forms...

I went and looked at your poll, but there isn't a clear-cut choice that fits my wife and I. She fucks around, won't admit it, and even though I've caught her at it, she still won't admit to anything. I gave her permission immediately after we first married to seek out larger cocks or whatever she wanted. She still never really owned up to anything or discussed it with me, even though she has been seeing men since we started dating 18 months before we got married. She likes to keep things secret, I think because she's afraid to have anything thrown in her face, even though I would never ever do that.
Natural Born Cuckold
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