Cuckolding: The Erotic Friendzone

For those who know me , I have been intrigued by this lifestyle for years.
Always trying to explain it , research it , asking questions etc. and frankly I think I arrived to a general
profile of why cuckolds are who they are.

As we know the cuckold is a masochist, he takes pleasure of something that is supposed to be make a man be boil in anger, sad and in pain. There is a hypothesis that explains due to sperm wars(get the book), which I agree with but doesn't explain sissification, chastity, sexual denial at all.
As well from the way people write in here, several articles I read, some friends in the lifestyle and some research I did. The cuckold (or wannabe) is usually a highly educated, usually in the computer or IT field, or in other words a geek or a nerd!
And as any geek can tell you, during his youth he fell so many times into a friendzone. Being the girl's bestfriend, the guy that helps her with stuff/shopping/chores, the guy that hears her sexual escapades, the shoulder she cries on after a bad boy breaks her heart (alpha male) but at the same time being forever attracted to her and get nothing in return and instead being treated like a girlfriend.
As we know masochism is born out pains or fears, just like how gay men eroticise typically homophobic figures ( ymca gay version of the misterg is proof enough :P). And in this case, the pain is being very close but not getting anything.
So let me show you specific examples:

Friendzone Cuckold

1-Being the bestfriend 1-Being the bestfriend of his wife. extremely close talk about everything.

2-helps with stuff/chores/shopping 2-helps buy stuff for her dates, bath her, chores while she is dating.

3-hearing her sexual escapades 3-hearing what she did with her lover, or watching (instead of imagining)

4-Being like a girlfriend 4-Sissification

5-getting kisses,hugs, cuddles 5-kisses,cuddles, less sex (frequency and type) then the alpha

6-getting no sex but always horny 6-chastity, teasing denial etc.


And a lot more little things.
So in my opinion cuckolding is just the erotic form of the friendzone.


What do think? comment

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Like you, I am also someone very interested in the explanation of the cuckold theme, so thank you for sharing your thoughts.


Your theory is interesting, but not in box with my case. In my youth I was rather shy and, therefore, never felt in friendzone (I did not have female friends, but up to 21). Other cases of friends were similar (geeks without female friends). So, maybe your cuckold friendzone theory may be applied to a type of cuckold, but not all. I don't know.


Very interesting statement. Maybe people who use computers have greater access to information and, therefore, it's easier to recognize their cuckold condition (while many other people also have this condition, but has no way of recognizing it and is limited to social conventions).

I'm just trying to contribute ideas
It's obvious that English is not my native language. Sorry for any inconvenience. My blog (spanish): http://keratafilia.blogspot.com

the more ideas the better
I am just trying to understand it .

i am trying to understand it too. i am obsessed with having my wife fuck other guys. but in younger days i was a sort of "bull" and i fucked a lot of married women. also i was jealous of my wife and did not want her to dare even think about fucking other guys til one day i saw a video of a port star who closely resemred my wife. i gradually grew to love the idea of watching my wife fuck other guys. i am now addicted to cuckold porn, literature, forum talk, anything - i eat it up just like i would eat the come of some other guy out of my wifes pussy.,

I am also trying to understand this, but I do not find myself in your conclusions. Not at all

First:
I think you are right that cucks are more often highly educated. But the thing about IT indusrty and geeks...no way...has nothing to do with this. Highly educated people are more often more open minded, and care less about 'common rules and what others think'. This is the reamister for this...

I am a cuck to my wife (and was for my ex-wife)...but that dosent make me a sissy. On contrary, I am the strong part of our relation, but just have this strong urge for her to find others to fuck too. A big turn on for me. Sissy? No way

And I have been with hundreds of girls/women over the years. Actually, I am fucking more girls now than what I have ever done. And I am more than 50 years old now. Charming as hell, and have never a problem to bed women, even younger ones (last woman I fucked some weeks ago was 23...and I do not pay for sex...purely sexual attraction/sexual friendship)

I am well educated, successful (own business), cuckolds brownie full of money, handsome, charming, strong (physically and mentally), macho, average built, and european.

So where do you put me into your so "well researched" theory???

Your theory seems to me to be built on all sorts of stereotypical opinions on what cuckolding is. Maybe you should search a little on "non-profitable" steamline sites/books??
A cuck to my GF - A bull to all other women

Well I am in IT so I can't argue with that point!

I would also testify that during my youth I was definitely caught in the perpetual "friend zone" with the girls to whom I was attracted (if they hadn't dismissed me entirely, which was usual). Even my fellow studious/nerdy girls would openly state that they preferred the traditional big, handsome jock/stud given the choice. That usually placed pressure on me to fill the role of the supportive, understanding "surrogate girlfriend", all while secretly wishing their eyes would be magically opened one day and they would see me as an acceptable boyfriend. I think having me there to cater to their needs on their terms helped the girls feel loved, but also safe that I would never cross that line with them, or presume to think they would want anything other than a totally platonic buddy.

"I wish I could find someone just like you," was a statement uttered by the pretty girls I worshipped and adored (but carefully kept this a secret so not to bother them or risk being rejected as their little pet). Why they didn't just date me was something I did not understand until later learning about natural behavior, attraction, and the requirement to not be an omega male pushover doormat like I was.

For me cuckolding is certainly a way to re-live those horny, desperate times when I was so needy and full of love, but easily neutered and kept at bay by the supposedly weaker sex!

This explanation is deep. Describes me to a tee pretty much.

About the controversy over the relationship between the cuckold trend and IT training, I think that certainly seems that a high percentage of people who like cuckold theme is related to IT. However, I don't think that both variables themselves are connected, but this apparent correlation is derived from a third variable: Internet.

Internet is a catalyst for sexual freedoms. Because people in the IT field tend to be more "exposed" to the Internet than people in other areas, IT people tend to be more "free" sexually. Obviously, we're not talking about a law, but trend. It's clear that many people who are not IT can be as or more "free" than others, whether they use the Internet or not. It's just that the use of Internet promotes sexual freedom.

I understand this is an old thread, but these issues do not expire.
It's obvious that English is not my native language. Sorry for any inconvenience. My blog (spanish): http://keratafilia.blogspot.com

I think it is a complicated issue at best. I also don't think one could say there is any one profession that is comprised of cuckolds. I am somewhat robust in manner and actually play bull to other husbands. I also love it when my wife dates others. I think part of the intrigue is knowing that you have something others want. I mean how disappointed would you be if you offered your wife to someone and they declined?

Another facet is the pleasure your wife is receiving. Who among us doesn't want a happy wife. I know for us when she is getting laid by others her demeanor is so much better. She fucks me more offer and with more passion. Her orgasms are easier to find and she is more adventurous sexually. I think it is a combination or the attention the other guy(s) is bestowing upon her making her feel sexy and desirable. This is something all women crave but as they age it becomes a more pronounced need.

Thirdly for me it's also about the intrigue. I love knowing she is out and probably fucking someone. Sitting at home wondering if she is naked or just having ************ with him. The mental image of her naked body upon his. The sight of his dick stretching her little married pussy. The visual of her splayed open pussy leaking him cum. Removing her cum stained panties when returns to me. Yes it is a mental mind fuck that only the perverted kinky bastards like us understand and enjoy.

It's an intellectual kink, for sure. One really needs to have attained a certain level of maturity and experience to truly enjoy all of its subtleties and possibilities... and for maximum "mind fuck" it's important that the wife be equally into it and engaged. Just going out and fucking another guy is great. But if she learns how to use teases, taunts and twists to enhance the experience, then the mind fuck can hit incredible levels.
cuckold - Pronunciation - kuk-uhld - noun 1) The husband of an unfaithful wife. 2) A husband whose wife has sex with others. NOTE - It does NOT say: Sexually confused, submissive, humiliated, sissified, crossdresser, cocksucker, or piss drinker

this is awesome. i want to see more friendzone threads

I am very much in the "friend zone" with my wife, and it works very well for me. I've come to be more of a roommate and best friend than a lover. We are very happily married, but not sexually active. Her sex life is with other men, and mine is with my own right hand. Works for us, although I know it wouldn't for most people.

I agree that this is a pattern from my youth. Although I'm not in IT (I can't tell one end of a computer from the other, honestly!), I was definitely "that guy" in high school. I had lots of female friends that I was desperately hot for, but who saw me as just the sweet guy they could talk to, never as a potential boyfriend.