Is Cuckoldry An Instinct Thing?

science doesn't support this, but hay, if you believe...then it has to be true.

i would believe its more of an instinct thing. if thats your original question. mostlyu because i did not make a decision to to have my wife fuck other guys and then wait to see if i liked it. i gradually evolved to the point where i wanted my wife to fuck other guys because it sexually stimulated me and i wanted to fuck my wife even more. but it has continued to evolve where it is now in which i will suck the cock of a man that wants to fuck my wife wheteher my wife is present or not - but i still ahve great desire to watch m wife get fucked and kiss her lips and kiss her pussy after bull has come in her pussy. but i am not into the sissy boy version of cuckolding nor do i want to be physically ***d and i sure as hell do not want my wife to leave me.

I don't think it's just about producing viable offspring. I also think it's a social thing too. In societies where people rely on alpha males to protect them then for a beta male giving his wife to an alpha for his use and pleasure in return for that protection would seem reamisterable. In some circumstances this becomes a power and control situation where the alpha male demands or expects the beta male's compliance in the use of the female. It also follows that a woman with a weak husband would seek out an alpha male for protection whether her husband consents or not. And the alpha male might even choose to humiliate the husband while he's enjoying the wife. Even in our supposedly modern society, we find ourselves fitting into one of these scenarios even those who like to have their wives bred by other men.

My wife fucked a younger healthier male when I was ill and she feared I'd no longer be able to support her. That he had a big cock was a bonus for her that she made sure I understood. In my head I now see myself as a beta male and if another alpha male came on the scene and my wife was up for it I'd certainly let him have her and if he wanted to humiliate me in the process that would be good.

My lady fucked another guy, the nextdoor neighbour, when my man had a stroke.

I'm sure folks here have plenty more examples.

Interestingly, for me as a cuckold so they feel good to know there is something natural and instingtivt. That there is something that I have done without it because jah not man enough from the beginning that I int can do something about it, just accept that others will always fuck my wife. That it is right that I may be content to jerk off.

I'm wondering about this, as I am 6 inches and average thickness. My gf knows about my cuckold fantasies, but says that mine is fine as it is. I do bring her to orgasms with it as well, so no complaints there either. But was wondering if she ever would want bigger for her satisfaction.

baiout - it's hard to say. For some women, cock size isn't the draw. It could be just having the freedom to have an affair that might be the lure. There are plenty of cucks with big cocks... or so I hear. Some hotwifes have bulls that have smaller cocks than their husbands. It's a state of mind. If you have a submissive state of mind and she would prefer a more dominate alpha male in the sack, she may still be willing to cuck you. But there's so many factors, I wouldn't venture to say how likely or unlikely you are to have a cuckold relationship.

All this coming from a wannabe myself, so take it with a grain of salt. But from what I've read here, this is a pretty realistic answer to that type of question.

In contrast to your wife, mine has actually told me that my cock is unsatisfying and that she would need "at least" two more inches (I'm 5") for a good "deep" orgasm, and has cheated on me in the past with a bigger cock. Unfortunately, that was before I had any cuckold desires or even knew about the subject.

Hoping she'll do it again someday, but with my full consent.
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I have been receiving a lot of questions about research into cuckoldom. By casting a very wide net in the natural kingdom behavioral sciences are regularly documenting cuckold behaviors. It is speculative to connect such observations with human behaviors that might appear similar. Nevertheless, with so many examples to pull from, it is easy to say at least some things for certain:

#1 cuckold behaviors are common across many species

#2 cuckold behaviors in many species are part of successful reproductive strategies

To use a much maligned and clumsy word… cuckolding is “natural.” Here is a summation, or rather the gist, of a lot of observations regarding cuckolding in other species that might have an application with us:

Alpha males are males that are more successful at securing reliable food, shelter, etc. This can be as a result of physical superiority (strength, size, health, etc) or domineering social s*******s (confidence, aggression, leadership, etc.) The alpha male (read bull) seeks to impregnate as many females (read cuckoldress or hot wives) as possible to maximize his chances of evolutionary success. Alpha males compete for females by dominating social environments, highlighting sexual anatomy, and demonstrating physical prowess by ritualistic display or by defeating competing males. The alpha male is interested in an alliance with a submissive beta male (read cuckold) that can help provide for the needs of the females he controls and his progeny.

Due to the extensive and costly effort of bearing offspring and raising them, females have comparatively few matings, and must make every one count. Therefore, the female wants to mate with alpha males to improve the chances that her off spring will inherit demonstrated survival traits and to gain access, at least temporarily, to the alpha males resources and physical protection. Females attract successful alpha males by demonstrating sexual availability and by rejecting many other male candidates. The female is interested in an alliance with a beta male to provide the long-term support alpha males don't provide if they are out mating with numerous other females.

Being unable to compete directly with alpha males, beta males seek to associate themselves by alliance with more successful partners. Beta males maintain these alliances with subservient behavior (deferring to Alpha males' higher social status), sexualized service (facilitating access to females or adopting female behaviors, social and even sexual) and some degree of support for the reproductive strategy of alpha males and females (caring for young or females). By doing this the beta male hopes to someday inherit the alpha position, or opportunistically mate when females submit to alpha males (or when alpha males are not paying attention).
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to answer the question openly: yes i have a background in social and behavioral sciences, yes i have colleagues that would ridicule me for my curiosity about human cuckolding and extrapolating beyond non human research, and i can suck at teaching the sciences beyond my (applied research) niche field. but, i cant stop looking for understanding about my feelings and those of fellow cucks. i want to feel that i am normal--the whole small dicked, female worshiping, big cock curious, sad for my wife, porn addicted mess of me
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No correlation between cock size and pregnancy, or else, oriental population wouldn't be so big. However, big-cocked men may attract more women and get them more willing to be fucked. You know how fantasy-prone some women are ...

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Remember, too, that size is relative, so over there, the "bigger" men may still be responsible for a larger part of the population, both because of more opportunities and perhaps because of the aforementioned advantages cock size bring to the equation.

At least that's what us wannabes and cucks enjoy believing... whether it's "technically" true or not. We're fantasy-prone too! Probably even more so.
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I think size as everything to do with it. If i hadn't have been 4 inches my first wife would have never have left me. What's more i woudnt have become a cocksucker either

As a sissy cuckold I have always felt that penis size was one of the root problems and both my ex wifes stated this as a reamister they cuckolded me, I live with the offense of only having three and a half slim inches when erect and I am sure that lack of size was mixed in with the need to dress as a girl when young.
Both my ex wives when they cheated on me then cuckolded me went for confident well hung alpha males who dominated them sexually! the first time I got to watch my first wife with her lover was a life changing experience she literally went wild on his cock I have never seen a woman cum so much.
As cuckolding becomes more main stream in the next few years I bet you will see many a beta male and stunning wife being much more open with the relationship they have got.

Such an interesting topic. I am average, about 5.5 inches, and while not thick, not thin. Still my wife never orgasmed with me except when I licked her. She started cuckolding me 12 years ago, and while some were bigger than others, all were considerably bigger than me and - at least in her case -the bigger they were, the more she liked them. (The only exception was one very well hung but unimaginative guy). Her current boyfriend (they have been exclusive for over 7 years now) is 9 inches and very, very thick. Anyone who doesn't think 9 inches is big is CRAZY. After 7 years, every time she sees him (every weekend, every vacation, every holiday) is STILL like the first time. She can cum just from sucking his cock. She has told me very honestly that she would never willingly have sex with a guy who is smaller than 8 inches. Of course, that is moot anyway, since the two of them have been monogamous with each other for so long. She is not a big woman; 5'3, 125 lbs. But she is built for him. True, he pounds her cervix, but she likes that. She is a dominant woman, but he brings out her submissiveness.

Sub to him, Domme to me, she says she has the best of both worlds. Two tongues. One cock.I have not had sex with her, or with anyone, in over 8 years, if not longer. Is it 10 years? I am losing track. He has fucked her - I am not making this up - literally thousands of times. If he didn't live 3 hours away, and each didn't have the jobs they have, I wonder if we would still be married. She would slap me if she knew I said that, because she says that she would never consider divorcing me. (As long as I continue to obey her and as long as I remain chaste and controlled).

Honestly, I used to think the whole male chastity thing was exclusively male submissive fantasy. Believe me, some females believe in it just as deeply, and my wife is one of them.

My wife says it is instinct for her to desire larger cocks as well. She said feeling a cock head pushing her cervix makes her just crave to feel his cum shooting. She said with a small cock like mine it is almost like just beign fingered a little. She said she just loves how a big cock fills her up, opens her and makes her feel like she is being mated by a man. She said she gets none of those feelings from smaller cocks...meaning smaller that about 7 inches. I am 4.5 and do nothing for her sexually. She is very dom with me, I guess since I have such a small cock...but she becomes submissive to men with large cocks.
She still allows me to fuck her a few times a month. She often texts her guys or watches TV while I hump her. The only time she said she enjoys sex with me is after dates. I usually lick her but she said she loves making me stick my tiny dick in her when she has another mans cum still in her. Said it is just arousing to her that her pussy is still so slippery from his cum..makes her feel slutty to feel her husband in her with another mans cum in her as well. I think having a small cock just makes me sub to women and makes women dom over me

that is pretty hot, jewelsubhub! at least you get to have sex with your wife sometimes. i don't believe I will ever enter my wife again as long as i live, or anyone else. at this point, i don't view myself that way anyway. i would feel like a fish out of water.......it has been so long, i'd feel like a trespasser! i understand what you mean about her being dom with you and sub with him. the difference with my wife is night and day. the transformation she goes thru when he arrives is almost magical.

Wow, those posts are BOTH very hot, houseslvsissy and jewelssubhub! Huge hard on here!

You know, it's funny, when I first discovered cuckolding I had NO desire to be submissive. I thought all that was crazy talk and I'd "never" want anything like it.

Now that I have realized what a true submissive I am inside, even just doing dishes, or making the bed for her makes me hard, knowing I am serving my superior female in the manner she deserves.

And I'm still just a wannabe! Probably always will be, but it's incredibly hot for me to think my wife is the first and foremost in everything in my life. I used to take her for granted - now I worship at her feet, and that's as satisfying as cumming in her... actually, even more so since I know she gets more satisfaction from my chores than from sex with me.

I wonder, however, will this feeling fade over time? It's still quite new to me to be in total service to her. Does it get "old"? Will the thrill go away?
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cuckaliciousr...the feelng has never faded from me. Thrill has never gotten faded. My first wife really did not "CUCK" me, she left me for a guy with a larger cock. My current wife of 10 years actively cucks me. I have never been allowed to watch but had a few pics sent to my phone from her phone that a few guys have taken while fucking her. I was a cuck wannabe and little did I know what a cuckoldress she would become. I have to say the moment that really turned me totally cuck was the day she came home with another mans cum in her pussy. It also seems that is the moment she really started cucking me and enjoying it. First time another guy came in her was a black guy and not sure if it is black guy cum or what but she has become quite the slut since then. I would imagine that in the last 2 years she has had nmore black guys cum in her pussy than I have since we have been married

Do you think that's because you've actually been cuckolded officially?

I'm wondering if I remain a wannabe, and she never makes it "real", will my thrill of doing things for her (getting hardons while doing chores) fade over time, knowing it will never be anything more than a fantasy?

I suppose that would mean my service to her is conditional on things progressing, which I'm hoping it isn't in the long run, but time will tell, I suppose.
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I was a wannabe in my first marraige for 12 years. Got very horny when I felt like the bitch in the relationship. Never faded at all. Like I said she left me for a hung guy but never cucked me, just started fucking him, said I could not please her and filed for divorce. Story of my life witha 4.5 inch dick until I met my current wife.

Your arousal will not fade IMO

Thanks jewels! I appreciate the input! Hoping it holds true for me as well!
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I have discovered this fantastic thread very late! I hope people are still interested in adding comments.

I can wholeheartedly add that I agree, cuckolding is very much an instinct. Not just for the women, who crave a more powerful, superior male, but for the beta males, who know they are inferior sexually and thus feel fulfilled when their cherished female gets to have sex with a superior man. For me, I just feel SO GOOD, when I can admit that I am inferior as a male, sexually inferior, and that I actually PREFER a BETTER man to have sex with my woman. Even saying it, especially out loud, makes me happy and turns me on. I love the idea that my sperm is rejected, that my tiny and useless penis is relegated to a toy, not to be used for real sex, because it simply isn't adequate or meant for sex. I know that my place is to serve a superior woman, to help her get better sex partners, and to make her feel good. ALso, of course, to care for her offspring. To me, that is the natural role of a cuckold.

I think women DO like beta males, not as sex partners (they accept this nowadays because society demands it), but as life partners who support them. But for sex, they much prefer an Alpha male. They also know that an Alpha is likely to leave them as soon as he sees someone else, so they are happy to have a loyal beta male. That is my theory, at least!

I am so glad nature made me a cuckold. I could not be happy trying to please a woman sexually. Tried that for years and failed. One night with a big cocked guy and she was hooked. mmmmmmmmmm First time I was told to suck cock I was hooked too.

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I have the same situation! I found out after the fact that my lovely wife had several affairs over the years we've been married. But she has a few that she still denies. I want her to cuckold me being present. I want to see and experience it, maybe clean the guy and her up. But she sweares she wouldn't want to do it, don't want sex anymore. I'm at very frustrated. I've trie to make some arrangements with someone I've met. But she refuses. But I know she used to be always hot. Any advoce!

Some men just radiate strength and cause women to get wet just being around them.
A Lot of women as girls seem to dream of two men fighting over them. They probably would never admit it but they are turned on by this.

I had several discussions with my Late wife over this.
Truth she admitted she would hate having a man whip my ass and then take her, but the thought would make her sexually aroused, and she hated that feeling.

In nature the strongest bull gets the cows, and if the looser comes around later the cows reject him.
This analogy is very prevalent throughout the natural kingdom from fish to birds to reptiles to mammals.

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I really liked what you had to share. In fact of all those I have read so far, what you said related to me and how I feel probably more than anthing anyone on this site has said said. I didn't ask to feel this way, I wanted to marry a virgin. My lovely wife was very attractive, nice, good permisterality and liked to fuck as much as I did. I find out later in life that she liked fucking more, because she had several affairs over our marriage. I took her from a guy and married her. After being married him and her got back together and fucked for years. During that time she fucked a couple of other guys. Most of the ones I know of are good friends of mine. Now to live with a woman knowing she has been fucking several men over the years took a lot of getting used too. I think I rationalized it that she was getting fucked, and pleasure that I couldn't give her. Evidently it is? How could I stop her, other than divorce. I didn't want to do that, then I wouldn't have any of her. So thinking about it every day, all day, and night. It consumes your mind so much that to live with it or to acceptit, to make what is so painful, the most humilating thing that's ever happened to your manhood in your life has to become from painful to pleasure. And to get from pain to pleasure every man has to experience the same pain and the healing is the same for all us. But it is revealing who we really are. I just recently heard of cuckold! Many of us set on the bence when we grew up playing sports. Some were uneasy undressing in the gym, swimming pool or anytime around other boys when growing up. Maybe when it came to fighting. Felt inferior or uncomfortable around bigger or muscled up guys. I've came to this decision recently, that I'm a cuckold man. I meet the characteristics. Now I don't know if I'm bisexual or gay? I told my wife the other day that I realize what cuckold means, so I am living a cuckold life sinc e we've been married. She denies that. I asked her again, which I've been asking for several years to fuck another man with me present. She always refused and refuses to even today. She gets mad, denies she ever had another man, don't like sex, don't want sex, won't let me touch her sexually. Oral is all I can do, but I really like that, because I'm impotent. I did enjoy her giving me oral and talking dirty to me about her fucking another man. Now she won't do anything. I take her to lounges for takes and eat all the time. She like to do that. She dresses like a knockout. She is very hot for her age, tall, slim and give off lot's of class. Young men nearly step on their tounge to speak to her. She don't want to fuck anyone. I don't know what to do, I have lived cuckold all my married life, and now my lovely wife acts like she's a virgin and going to stay that way. I guess we are actually born cuckolds, and some of it has to do with us being inferior in some ways. I remember being the last two to be chosen to be on teams when playing games as a kid and things like that.I remember what it felt like when a girl friend run around on me and I found out. All those experiences have something to do to it.