Question....curiosity.....confusion

So I don't know if I am in the right place or what. What is it though if I want a gf that cheats on me? I don't know something just kinky about it, but I still want to have sex with her too. I mean you read on here and it's like these women want the guy to do everything and he can't even have sex thats not for me. Is it still the same thing though or what should I be looking for?

What you describe sounds more like a "hot-wife" than a cuckold situation.

The difference being that cuckold husbands are denied regular sex, while hot-wives have sex with other men as well as their husbands.

I believe this community accepts and appreciates both.

So, stick around if you want

That's a good question. There are so many variations of cuckold and hot wife fantasies, I don't think any two are quite the same. I think you've found your place though.

I don't think hot wife and cuckold are so well defined as in southern_cuckoos post, as I think everyone puts there own meaning to them. I think hot wifing as sex between equals, where they both happen to get off on the wife fucking other men, whereas cuckolding has some sort of dom/sub dynamic, such as the wife having control, some form of denial of the husband, offense, etc. That dynamic being very different for each couple.

Rdzmdza, by saying your gf is cheating, it is her who is doing these taboo things, rather than saying you want to share your gf or have her fuck someone, which is both of you being taboo. That shifting of the control of the act to te gf implies a cuckolding fantasy to me.

I'm not saying southern_cuck is wrong, just illustrating the point that there is sch wide variety that we can't even agree terminology! The good part is you will be sure to find some things in common with people in here.

Perhaps if you tell more about your fantasies you'll find out what you have in common with others...

Very strange comments

Cukolding is so much, and every couple define this in their way. Some men are 'wannabe's' which involve strong fantasies. It's good for them, even if they involve their gf/wifes in this or not.

To try to make definitions like the two comments above, is for me a strange angel to it all. If a wfe is fucking someone else, her man is a cuck per definition (if he knows about it: it's is also called a wittol....)

A hot wife definition is maybe less definable. In my book, a hot waife is a wife that make herself available to toher men than her husband.

For me, cuckolding has little to do with:

1) interracial sex (its is a variation of cuckolding)
2) denial of sex
3) extreme offense
4) hubby sucking cock or not (if he is bi - why not? - if he is not: why should he?)
5) hubby being dressed as a sissy, or being in anyway treated that way
6) hubby watching or not
7) friends and family being involved/informed
8) big bulls with large scale cocks
9) gangbanging of wife
10) creampies (and eating of such)
11) other extremes

All the above are fetishes that anyone may have and enjoy, but the cukolding part is only a tiny little detail in these fetished: namely that the wife is getting fucked by other men

I have a lot of experience with cuckolding together with my ex-wife...

For ME (as it may not be for others) the whole thing was to know that she was fucking other men, the waiting to get her home, the 'cucky angst' that was a aprt of it all, and the good feeling of getting her home, hold her and make love to her (maybe also while she told me details about her fucking...)

I am not saying that anyone is wrong, but what Rdzmzda is talking/dreaming about is defenatly cuckolding...and my friend: you should not let anyone tell you that you can not fuck your wife as a part of it...on the contrary...cuckolding is an additional spice to your sex life that should end up in a lot of fucking....you will feel like being back to your beginnings with your wife, and will crave her all the time....please enjoy.....

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A cuck to my GF - A bull to all other women

Thank you for stateing all that, I think sometimes people get carried away. Many kinks seem to be brought under the cuckold umbrella. I permisterally like that and cuckolding to me (when is happens) will include many of these. However at its simplest definition a cuckold is the huband of an unfaithfull wife.
I hope that those who fantasize about this don't get scared away by all the other extreme fetishes and kinks that some people incorperate into cuckolding.

Perhaps you misunderstood what I was trying to get across. I wasn't trying to define what a cuckold is, I was trying say that what is involved in a cuckold fetish varies so wildly that people often use the word completely differently. And I mean in this in the sense of a cuckold-fetish, not the archaic definition of a cuckold (i.e. the fetish name comes from the archaic word, but that doesn't mean the fetish must have the same definition).

What I like about cuckold place is the wide spectrum. I don't want my penis cut off, my wife to divorce me, or to have cuckold branded on my forehead, but I have no problem with people who have those kinks. Some fantasies can be realised (i.e. basic cuckolding, whatever that is) and some are best left to the imagination or role play. I guess the best analogy you could put is a **** fantasy. Many woman have **** fantasies, something that should never be realised, but role playing between consenting adults - why not. I think its the same with pretty much any extreme fantasy, as long as no one gets hurt...why not. On the other hand, there are plenty here with relatively vanilla cuckolding fetishes. And everything in between.

So to the original poster, I'd say you have a cuckold fetish, others would call it something else. Either way, define your fantasy in way you want it and include the elements that work for you. And while you are unlikely to find someone who's cuckold fantasy exactly matches yours, there will be for sure lots of similarly minded people.

EDIT: the **** is for the word for "The unlawful compelling of a permister to have sexual relations", apparently its filtered out here!

A lot of people don't know about a thing called 'the dictionary'.

If a wife has sex with a man other than the husband then he has been cuckolded. That is the definition. Some guys (like me) are turned on by this, but you don't have to like it to be a cuckold. It is defined simply by the act of of woman having sex outside marriage.

A lot of people on this site add bits to the definition, according to how it is for them - like the cuckolder being black, or hung - or that they themselves are denied sex, made to wear women's clothing or made to suck cock. LOTS of guys on here like to suck cock - but they are not gay, so don't you dare call them that.

So, RDZMDZA, technically you can't be a cuckold unless you are married. But what you desire is definitely in the spirit of cuckoldry - so welcome! Don't worry about all the freaky add ons, because they are just individual preferences.

And some people don't understand the transient evolutionary nature of language and that prevailing and popular usage of a word is every bit as important as it's dictionary definition, especially when a word is being seconded to a new sense.

A man is a cuckold when his wife fucks another, you are right. But we are not talking about that, we are talking about whether someone has a cuckold fetish.

Perhaps an example, the word voyeur comes from the French "to see", but through popular usage it came to describe the fetish of watching, which although obviously related is an evolution in it's usage. It's the same with the word cuckold, it is not in popular usage in it's old sense, more commonly (and for sure in this forum) it is used in the sense of a cuckold fetish which comes with it's own connotations.

I'm not usually a fan of wikipedia, but as a measure of popular opinion it has it's uses. Check out the cuckold article. The hyperlink is visible to registered members only! Whether people like it or not, the popular usage of cuckold as a fetish is spreading beyond it's original meaning. Feel free to play the role of the language police if you like, but it won't stop language evolving.

Apologies to the original poster for hijacking the thread!

rdzmzda

To summarize what others are saying, every one has a different idea of what cuckolding is. But does it really matter whether what you want is called cuckolding, hot-wifing, or swinging? It doesn't, but know that this is a place where you can learn more about different aspects of that lifestyle and learn that you are not alone or unusual in having those interests. Most importantly, you have to find a partner that shares your "style" of sharing and not get stuck on what "it" is called. tim

Simple answer...YES, you are in the right place. The "scholars" could potentially hurt your brain.

"You're in the wrong place. This place is mostly for people with issues with their own homosexuality and race."

LOL!!! it seems like most of the time. If this place didn't have kick ass links I don't think I would come here.

It matters...and it don't

The problem for us more 'moderate' cucks is that if you start to discuss this issue (on net, in permister) with someone that may be a potential Bull, the start of the conversation, not to mention the initial contact, gets all wrong

I have had PMs here on site asking me 'why the hell you still are here lurking...you have written many times that you are not into interracial...so why are you stil here'

And when approaching possible 'Bulls' the levels of expectaions are on so different level that it si scaring. I/we just want to have some fun on our level (maybe she would accept a night/some hours with a hansome polite guy in order to have som fun..and for me to have my cucky angst...while the guy starts talking about

1) sharing her with friends
2) gangbangs
3) using her as a total submisive slut
4) all other kinds of bull cuckolds brownie

It close to scarry...it's like they see her as a total pervert just becasue of our drams aboout some moderate sun

If we had a more convensional definition on this, then all such conversations would be easier.

If you as a Bull want to have a slave...say it (she may be married or not)...but it has little to do with cuckolding
If you as a Bull like to have a second man there for sucking your dick...say it (it may or may not be the hubby of the woman)....also little to do with cuckolding
If you as a Bull are into degrading a woman...say it (she may be married ot not)....but it has little to do with cuckolding
If you are a bunch of black gangsters that want to gangbang a woman...say it (she may be married or not)....but it has little to do with cuckolding

It would be much more fair to all parties if your add was something like this

To whom it would interesst
I am a big black man that are into all kind of perverse sex. I like to bind up women, I like to piss on them, I like to fuck them in their asses til they crack. I have a lot of friends who may join us for fro ourdoor humiliating gangbang. I like to blackmail my women, and will take pictures and forward to the women's families. If some white small guys want to jon, I love being sucked by men. I love the feeling of humiliating small white men by pissing in their ears and cuckolds brownieting in their faces. Anyone internessted: e-mail me at [email protected]

Instead of the alternatve (and looks like here accepted)...and with the same intentions
I am a big black man who loves cuckolding. E-mail me at [email protected]

point taken???

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A cuck to my GF - A bull to all other women

You are in the right place, rdzmdza.

Anyone who wants their wife/girlfriend to "cheat" on them is cuckold fetishist. You don't need to alloy it with other fetishes or kinks (like chastity/denial, etc.) in any way or take it to some dark extreme to qualify. (Though you can do either or both if you are inclined.)

The key word in you post that makes you a cuckold fetishist, rather related fetishes like "hot wife," or "swinger," etc. is that word "cheat." If you simply wanted an open, or even "half-open," relationship without any trespass (with a "free-love" or "I don't philosophically believe in monogamy," or "relationship is not about sex," etc.) than you might not be a cuckold fetishist. But that word "cheat," implies that you feel not just the transgressive nature (which a hot-wife fetishist might) but also the sting of the implied slight. If this sting - to be "cheated," not "open" or "free" - is part of what gets you hot, you are a cuckold fetishist.

Welcome and good luck!
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wow - that put me in my place!!