how do i stop from freaking out!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

and please be gentle people - i feel like a freak as it is. i've been married for five years, and dated my wife for three years prior to that. when i met my wife, she was shy and very self conscious. she had very limitted experience. when we got to talking, i found out alot about her - basically, she had been the good girl straight through college and waived the high moral flag - but inside she wishes she could be the bad girl, hoking up because she could, sex on the first date, etc.

so when we were dating and i was trying to get in her pants - which wasn't easy - i would tell her these story like scenarios and basically walk her through a college party, or a night at the club, etc. We'd talk about what kind of guy would be checking her out, what would happen next, etc.

now, the goal was to turn her on. and it did. but the problem was - it ended up turning me on too after a while. i'd be coming up with these stories and thinking them through. and one day i did a google search and came accross the concept of "cuckold" as a fetish or whatever.

but then it kind of passed. and we got a house. got married. had a kid. but then she started going to this convention once a year for work. she works in insurance as an underwriter, and once a year they send the underwriters (a total of five women) to a convention. my wife is not the youngest nor the oldest. but, just like in college, she became the goody two shoes hen. she'd come back with scandalous stories - and don't get excited guys - they didn't always involve cheating. but a couple times they did! she actually works with a married woman in her 40s that routinely make out with somebody after getting takes - but never goes too far. one of the younger girls hooks up almost every year - but she isnt cheating on anyone per se. and another cheated once and felt guilty. besides that, most of the debauchery had more to do with overdoing takes, falling, saying something stupid, and/or making a fool of oneself via vomit.

at any rate, one day something fired off in my brain. and i was like, this is alot like college. so i started talking out the scenarios again, this time with the adventure zone being the cnvention, not college. and about a year and a half ago i broke it to her that the idea was hot to me. and i kept at it. and we played around with the idea of her having a "no rules" business trip.

well, we've fooled around alot at this point. we've done nights out when we pretend we're seperate and she pretends she's available just to see what she can catch - and what a confidence booster. even without taking off her ring, she's made out with a couple guys, and guys have tried to cop feels. then, she gets all hot, and we leave and go at it insane.

so we agreed that this years cnvention would be no rules. and she "confided" in one of her co-workers she was thinking of getting some this time. and she tld her alot of the regret and self consciousness stories i already know. and, as we expected, the other girl was 100% supportive - saying she'd be her wing-gal.

and, its been awesome. sex has been awesome. my wife has lost a little weight. we've got her clothes that make the most out of her tits. and cute panties - at her insistance!!!!!!!!!!! wow!

she is nervous, but very excited abut the trip. i think we estimate a 95% liklihood of sme type of making out - and a 45% likelihoof of going all the way (though, when she makes out with a dude, she gets super horny and usually takes it out on me very mister thereafter)

so that's where its at. except now its coming up real soon. real real soon. and i'm starting to freak a little. its stll hot. but, i'm starting to get a little batty. i mean, somebody else has to have gone through this phase. how did you keep yourself sane?

w0t_b0t,
Take a deep breath for a moment.

I have not yet been cucked but I will offer my take on this.

Take a step back and see the big picture. When the two you are 89 and sitting on the porch in your rocking chairs, you want to be able to look back on your life together as filled with love, satisfaction, and enjoyment. It is your duty as her husband to make sure that she has had a great life. Now there are many aspects to what that means. One aspect of that is a great sex life.

You (or her) dont want to go through life filled with regret. It sounds like this is something she needs. It will boost her self confidence and make her feel like to the beautiful woman that she is. As long as you are both on the same page and you are doing it together, this can be great adventure for you which could bring you closer together. Dont let jealousy work its way in. Talk about it at length. Give her your permission to do it. Talk about safety. Make sure you supply her with a large box of condoms for her trip (you better supply her with Magnums too, just in case).

Enjoy the feelings of being her cuckold. Enjoy the fact that she is getting great sex outside the marriage.
Remember that she only loves you. Your are her husband. And she loves you even more that you are giving her this freedom. YOU are the one she loves, even as he fucks her.

Good luck. When is all this going down? Please keep us updated. When she is out at this conference and youre feeling anxious, update this thread and we'll try to reassure you that everything is OK. This is a great gift you are giving her.

how cool! iwmwtcm speaks great truth, especially for not being cucked. I am, and i have enjoyed the lifestyle for a couple years, and all I can say to your topic is, you probably will freak out from time to time through this, but enjoy the intensity! She will love you for the freedom, and you will go nuts imagining things going on while she is gone, but she will likely come back, and even though she may physically be changed (stretched out a bit) for a while, she will be all the more in love with you for allowing her the experience and you will have the most intimate moments to share and share again.

Now, when she starts planning additional "business" trips to see her new beau, you gonna be ok with that? Maybe they'll let you come along to watch, or at least pick up the dinner tab...

I can understand where you're coming from. My GF and I toyed with the idea of her fucking someone when I wasn't there but I started to think that might be a bit much. Then, this last Sat, I did her with her ex and it was awesome because we all talked about it and decided I had the control and could stop it if I wanted. I think I'll get to a point where I want it to be beyond my control but not yet.

You guys took a pretty big step for your first time. Maybe it's not too late to tell her not to go and then you could start differently, in a situation where you are involved.

The key is to not let your "freaking out" cause your wife to have second thoughts. Try to keep your qualms to yourself and just enjoy the emotions. Keep assuring her that you love her and try to make the preperations aspect part of your foreplay. Have her try on various outfits and play with yourself without coming. Whatever you do, don't have sex with her or through masturbation for several days before the convention.

This first time will be tough at times, but the rewards are so much greater. Good luck!

That's some great advise from wifedateshubwaits! You must work through your emotions and your doubts and put on your best poker face...remember this starts out being about her but ultimately it will be about YOU and how much you will enjoy her having sex with another man.
Once you have mastered the jealousy issues and self doubts you will thoroughly enjoy the experience and will crave it to the point that seeing her with another man will become your life's ambition.

Good luck and enjoy the ride...I am 100% positive that you will!!

If you freak out chances are she will never do it again. Cucked 13 years here now and LOVE it.

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w0t_b0t , just keep communicating with her. Make sure she is totally devoted to you and you first then others last. She has to realize your openess to allow her this privilege and that she owns you honest and devotion at all times.
She must also let the other guy know that she is devoted to you always and she would not do anything behind your back. Honesty first, at all times!
If you trust her to go through then just hang in there, usually she'll respond right with you, and just treat her lover as a treat and nothing more.
The first time my wife cucked me her lover had an 11 1/2 inch cock, and he dominated her with it. She became his sex slave immediately, did everything he asked (I'm mean everything), but she was totally devoted to me.
After awhile I allowed her to visit him as they pleased, and they did for years. He was a cool guy and I really enjoyed how he handle my wife in bed (his enormous cock was awesome to see in action, he didn't hold back at all), and he literally fucked the cuckolds brownie out of her (he also made love to her, but when they fucked they fucked!).

So be cool, let it happen and enjoy it. Don't freak or she'll just forget the idea, or else do it behind your back, so be cool.

We are the lucky ones who's wives say ok, so enjoy it, it will be ok. If you want to talk more about being cucked write me [email protected]
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Any updates? Has your wife gone to her conference yet? Were to able to get your feelings under control?

How did the conference go? Hope you and her are ok.