GF Planning Birthday Surprise for Me - Advice Needed

We've never done anything like this before but my new girlfriend seems excited by the idea of either fucking someone in front of me or going on a date with someone and telling me about it while we fuck afterwards. She's into it in theory but has seemed ambivalent about actually going through with it.

BUT it's my birthday next week and she told me she's planning something special for me. I'm pretty sure it has to do with her contacting someone we found on CL (someone she is REALLY turned on by, because he has a ripped body and huge cock).

This is incredibly exciting for me but I need some advice from those who've been there before, because I also feel a bit of fear and jealousy. I've heard that's natural for first-timers but wanted to know what to expect and what it's like when you actually go through with it. Also need advice on how to pass the time because I'm going crazy with anticipation, especially because I don't know exactly what she's planning and how it will go down. I feel like I'm going to EXPLODE before then. I just HAVE to know what she's planning, but she won't tell me. God, it's gonna drive me nuts

So any advice on how to cope and what feelings to expect when it happens (and after) would be much appreciated. Thanks!

Watching your wife or GF with another can be one of the hottest thing to see. Just make sure you two have talked it over and each know each others boundries. Communication is key you have to be able to be open with your feelings. We didnt move to doing solo play till we had met and felt comfy with the SM. Once we were used to solo then she has moved on to finding strangers when she travels. Now that is hot to get text and pix messages while your wife is away for busy getting LAID.

I agree with hwcpl that you need to be careful. Better with you, all together, and then take a step back and let him take her, if you feel comfortable. It is very important that you agree with her to stop if you or she don't want to continue AND that you do not come before he does (looking at her being pleasured when you are deflated may not be so good).
Other that that, you should go orbital!!!
Please tell us how it went...
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Great advice everyone, thanks.

I'm going crazy and it's still a week away! How the hell am I supposed to wait that long for this to happan? Man, it's total *** - wondering exactly what she has planned and how it will go down. And I know that's part of the thrill but it's not my favorite part...not by a long shot. I guess I'll go buy a new digital camera and wait. (I'll try to get permission to post pictures here but I don't know if she'll agree.)

Sounds exciting, keep us posted!

She's bought you a nice new pair of Elmo socks

God, knowing my luck you're probably right.

I was definitely a little nervous, but definitely more excited than anything the first time my wife did someone other than me. However, my wife never did someone in front of me, though I wish she had. I would love to see that. I never had a problem with mixed feelings or anything like that. But my wife had a couple of issues. She thought maybe I just wanted her to fuck other guys because I didn't find her attractive anymore or so that I'd have an excuse to go get laid myself. She also was very worried about doing something that would cause problems for us. If anything I thought it made our sex better. I'd doll her up before she left and I'd be waiting at the door when she came home and would take her right there.

Its good that she's found someone she's really turned on by. My wifes messed around with 2 guys and fucked one of them. The guy she fucked she complained was too small and the other guy was just average in every way.

I can't imagine how YOU feel! I'm pretty anxious to find out just from reading about it.

Okay, it's going down tonight. I know part of her plan: We're going to a dark, out-of-the-way yet popular bar but at separate times. She’s going to sit at the bar and I’m going to sit at a table 30 ft away or so. I’m going to watch guys hit on her and watch her flirt. This thought has been driving us both crazy for the past week. I’m not sure how far she’s going to take it but I can’t wait to see. I also have a hunch she secretly contacted the young stud we found on CL to meet her there. If that’s true, I’m gonna shoot a load in my pants because I know how huge his cock is and how attracted she is to him. We have talked about her going home with someone and calling me and leaving her phone open so I can hear everything that’s happening while she gets fucked. I would rather be there for our first time but I think this scenario makes it more likely she, and he, will actually take it all the way, so that’s why I agreed to it. Plus it turns me on totally.

Anyhow, I’ll be back tonight to let you all know how it went. At the very least it will be totally hot to see her all slutted up in the bar, leaving herself open to single me. Even more so because I haven’t jacked off for days waiting for this. Something about seeing her there but not being able to go up to her and touch her seems really fucking hot to me. When I do get a hold of her later tonight I am gonna fuck her silly, no matter what happens.

Wish me luck and check back later!

Get some pics of her "going out" outfit if you can!

We need to know what she is wearing

I've had a bad reaction or two from guys who thought they were mentally prepared to watch. It almost always overwhelms them and they sometimes react badly. So now my rule is that the wife has to tie him to a sturdy chair before her guy gets to watch for the first time. The girls usually get quite a kick out of that too.

Once it starts...its game on and the guy gets no more say as to what goes down. If she calls it off, that's one thing. But if she is ok, we keep going regardless of how much he complains. I've seen guys wind up begging and crying for their girl to stop. But I have to say that most of the girls just laugh it off. And I'm more than happy to pile on the mental pain.
From my favorite wrestling T-shirt...
"Here...hold my headgear while I kiss your girlfriend"

i m there now, watching her at the bar. its dead but a few people starting to drift in. hope she has invited someone. she looks so hot in low cut dress and strappy shoes. my heart is beating like crazy.

she just texted me and she did invite a young stud. he's late though. probably flaked, damn it. he don't know what he's missing.

Yeah, he flaked out. But claims he's going to show up this Saturday night. So we're going to try it again. I got the lowdown from her too - she didn't tell him about me. She was just going to meet him to talk about x-rated topics and maybe make out with him a little bit while I watched from another part of the bar. She didn't intend to have sex with him, just tease me. (Though he has a huge dick and while she and I are fucking she likes to talk about trying to get all of his dick inside her).

So we're gonna try once again Sat night. I'll be more relaxed knowing what she has planned. She actually forwarded me all the emails between them both and, while not as hot as they could have been, they were exciting. But again, I like the increased transparency. Not as torturous that way.

Anyhow, she looked so fucking great my dick almost jumped out of my pants! Her tight, flimsy dress, her strappy shoes and gorgeous, huge tits were just too much!

Maybe she will wear those shoes while she fucks him!!! She looks great and I hope things go down better for you...and even more importantly for her...to get that bigger cock in her.

Good luck, can't wait to hear what happened.

"Though he has a huge dick and while she and I are fucking she likes to talk about trying to get all of his dick inside her."

I would LOVE to have that kind of dirty talk in my bedroom!

Hope it works out!

In my experience, the ones who flake continue to flake, unfortunately.

Yeah, this guy's acting squirrely about Sat night too so we're gonna cut him loose. Not sure I actually want to see her fuck someone else anyhow. But it would be really fun to at least watch her flirt heavily with some cute young guy.

Well, if one thing leads to another....maybe you will want to watch her get fucked. I know that I can't wait for my wife to finally let me watch her with her bf...if she ever does. So, if it something you have been wanting...take advantage of it and then if you you don't like it...don't do it again.

Have fun, and good luck.

Yea, my wife will not let me watch either. MAN THAT SUX! For those of you guys who are allowed to watch, I envy you. We might try having phone sex with her BF while I sit quietly on the bed beating my meat.

UPDATE: After trying some more with the guy I mentioned previously (and him flaking out again) I went on CL and found a 23-year-old guy who looked like her type. We met him at a dark, crowded, sexy bar downtown. (She didn't know we were meeting anyone until the last minute.) We were amazed that he showed up, almost on time, and were more amazed that he was actually even better-looking than his pictures. (He looks like Orlando Bloom.) He got right into the mood, asking us about how this came up, why we want to do it, etc. He was really outgoing and that helped a lot, because my GF and I were really nervous (though she had several takes to help her relax). He told us what he envisioned, asked us what we wanted, etc. but all the while I could see my girl moving more toward him in her seat. After a while, I went to the bathroom, and hung out for a while in the basement of the bar to give them some time alone. When I came back, I could see her hand on his lap. When they saw me, they both sat up and she removed her hand. he seemed nervous and said, "Normally, I'd have to pretend i wasn't doing this." I didn't really know what he meant, but my girlfriend later told me they had been kissing and she was feeling his cock. I told her to put her hand back and I meant put it back in his lap, but they misunderstood. They thought I was telling her to put her hand back in her own lap. He excused himself to go to the bathroom and my girl explained that he confessed he was freaked out because I am so large. (I'm literally the size of an NFL likebacker and lift weights several times a week.) So when he came back, I told him i was cool with what he was doing and that I wanted to see more.

He relaxed a bit after I told him this. And my girl also told me they had been kissing. I got a bit jealous but also totally tuned on - jealous mainly because they did it when I wasn't there.

Anyhow, we decided we needed a change of venue, and my girl suggested a dance club with big, semi-hidden booths in the back. We walked there, and on the way, she laced her arms through both of our arms, so she had us on either side of her. She later told me she felt really proud to have everyone see her with two tall, sexy men. When we got to the bar I went in on recon and found the most secluded booth. It was perfect - we could all be on the same side. So we all crowded in as the 80s music pumped, and she immediately put her hand on our thighs...well, in our crotches actually. She said it felt really hot to have both our hardons in her hands at the same time. She was wearing a flimsy dress with crotchless panties and a peek-a-boo bra underneath. I started to play with one of her nipples and I told the other guy, "Joe", to do the same. He asked if I was going to crush him if he did, and I again reassured him that I would not. Told him I'm a gentle giant, which is true. (My girlfriend later told me it really turned her on that he was so scared of me. She really digs my large size and the fact that I'm intimidating.) Anyhow, he finally got into it and started feeling her tits (she was sitting in between us) and she started kissing him again, this time in front of me.

It really turned me on when they started French kissing, and I went to the other side of the booth just to watch them. To see her look at him with total lust almost made me lose my mind! I was so jealous but really turned on too. I had to piss again and when I got back, she had her pantyhose down and he was fingering her discreetly. He had to get up and piss then too, and my girlfriend made him scoot under her, so she could grind her ass into his crotch while she kissed me across the booth. Thie really got me going, and they did it again when he came back. Eventually, she go her pantyhose all the way off and put them in her bag, leaving just the crotchless panties on.

I went back over to their side with them, and my girl gave me a huge kiss. it was wonderful to feel her heat, as her tounge swirled around in my mouth, knowing it was not me making her so hot. "Joe" said, "Hey, she dripping wet down here. You should feel it." So I started rubbing and fingering her hot pussy too. We talked some more and took turns making out with her, but realized we took it as far as we could in public without getting arrested. So we said we'd be in touch, since we had decided she wouldn't fuck him the first night, and he left. We went home and fucked like crazy! I came twice but not once, then a rest, then again...I'm talking, I had one orgasm and just when the cum stopped spurting on her belly and tits another huge orgasm overtook me and I shot yet another load. She was so soaked when we were done it looked like she HAD fucked two guys. Oh, and we had a picture he'd sent us of his ig cock on the computer which she was staring at while we fucked.

Anyhow, the plan is to get together again this weekend at our place but for some reamister he's waffling about whether he can show or not. I'm not sure why - could be anything. My girl thinks it's because he's scared of me. He did say, "How do I know we're not going to get part way into it and you'll decide you don't like it and tear my head off?" I told him I'd just say, "We need to stop and you need to go," if I got uncomfortable but I'm not sure he believed me. Who knows - young people are so damn squirrely. But rest assured, if we do get together this weekend (or any other time) I'll tell you about it and post some pictures too, if my GF agrees.

Outstanding!!! Well, at least you guys got a start and had hot sex after. From here on out...its only a matter of finding someone to do the job. You would think that it wouldn't be that hard...but...easier said than done. Good luck, and I can't wait to see/read more. Thanks for sharing.

Thanks Allen. It is a lot harder than I thought it would be. But if all else fails she has an ex-boyfriend who she is pretty sure would help us out. And he's very good-looking with a really big cock. But he's closer to our age and she is partial to younger men. Anyhow, thanks for the interest!

Thanks for the update! I hope it continues. As Allen said, at the very least you got some hot sex out of it.

This sounds incredible. I definitely like the slow progression in the beginning - it's kind of how we started out in the beginning. Only difference was we already knew the guy and he was a friend of mine, but the bar scene definitely brings back some great memories!
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