How to make progress...

I've made some good progress in getting my girlfriend to be comfortable with kinky stuff but have hit a roadblock when it comes to playing with other people. I'm looking for advice on how I could get her to overcome her hesitations of having sex with other men.

The problem seems to be that she loves me too much, or this is the reamister she gives anyway. She says that she could never fuck another man because she isn't sexually attracted to anyone but me. I believe her in a way, but in another way think that if she just let go of her inhibitions she could have a great time. And I would definitely have fun watching.

Last night was the best yet. I suggested we go to a swingers club and she was all for it. Obviously I was pretty certain that she wouldn't be into touching anyone else and I was right. But it was a great night, the place was packed and she was even taking the lead, wanting to fuck all over the place in front of anyone. At one point we were fucking on a bed with two other couples and one of the men reached out at started touching her tits, which she laughed about but didn't freak out. When he tried to touch her pussy she told him no and moved away.

The same thing happened when she agreed to have a guy over to make a sex tape of us. I wanted to see her give him a hand job and she was okay with this. She was alright with him touching her tits as well but again nothing else was allowed.

So she's open to kinky things and has no problem with other people seeing her have sex but she still completely refuses the idea of sex with another man, which I want to see so bad. Any ideas on getting this to happen? It's not too hard to get her into a situation where it would be possible, how do I take it to the next level?

She's 35 years old, a petite Asian woman and pretty damn sexy. It would be no problem to find someone to fuck her.

Any suggestions?

seems very familiar...you are even ahead of me. my wife is ready to play on cam, makes pics and videos, chat online but so far, no way to get her to go out and meet other people.
My advice to you would be to make sure that she has a few takes...not getting her takes so she can claim that she did not do it on her own but enough to relax her....
how did you get her to go to the swinger club? I would like any advice for my wife too....I am sure that once she does the first step, she will jump forward quite a lot more very fast (touch, suck, fuck...)....
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Obviously she drew a line in the sand on what she's comfortable doing and is sticking to her limit.

I think this is good because she's obviously put some thought into this which means there is a possibility she' could go further.

I think you should just go along with her for a while and see if she's willing to go further of her own volition. She may decide that she wants more once the excitement of being watched wears off but is holding herself back due to how you might react.

You could just gently enourage her over time by telling her how it excites you when other men are looking at her and plant a seed in her mind that there may be a possibility that you could be ok with her playing with other men.

If she's ok with other men touching her breasts, why not push that a little further by inviting other men to suckle her nipples and do general breast play while respecting her limits. Don't just spring this on her without notice. She may not react well to this but if you talk about it during your own time she may not be so surprised even if she's resistant to the idea.

Once she sees that you're ok with other men playing with her that way she may start moving her limits (or not). You could suggest to her to give handjobs to men to push things along.

Every woman is different. She may never consent to do what you want but idea is to nudge her in the direction you want and hope she'll go that way.

Whatever you do don't pressure her. Just make suggestions and allow her to make the initial move.

I do feel like some of her hesitation is to do with how I would react. I've reassured her a lot but she still always asks if I'm sure I want this.

She has agreed on two occasions to fuck another man while I watch, but the way she said yes pretty much meant no to me. I wouldn't want to watch her doing something she obviously doesn't want to do. She's not a prostitute, I love her. I want to see her having fun doing something she's enjoying genuinely.

She's okay with touching another man's dick and with a man touching and sometimes sucking her tits, but the pussy is fully off limits and her mouth is for no one but me in any way. The couple times someone touched her pussy she immediately tensed up and said no.

I feel lucky to have progressed to where we're at, I'm just always going to want more until she's asking for other guys to fuck her. Maybe I should just lay off and play within these limits for a while to see if she'll go further on her own at some point, making sure she knows this is alright with me.

Thanks for the suggestions!