Dildo replaces me?

I was wondering what some of you all think about dildos and wives? My wife has several toys, but her favorite is a 12" black realistic one...we've had to replace it last year as it started to crack...over use? lol.

Is the use of a dildo a way to take control in our marriage? My wifes way of saying I don't need your little cock, I can use this one when I want and it makes me cum sooo good. I know she uses it alone, but she uses it in front of me often.

I think it empowers her. I wondered if I used a Fleshlight, (a very good feeling "pocket pussy"....I used to have one till she made me throw it away. I wondered what it would be like if I used the fleshlight in front of her, cumming and moaning while she licked my balls....