Wifes leaving their husbands

Yes, MrsBlackBlowupDoll, that is helpful. Very helpful. I appreciate your insights, as I'm sure others in this thread do too. (Please expound upon your third paragraph.)

I'm not trying to be pessimistic. I'm really not. But I think it goes back to the mental/emotional state of the woman, as well as that of the man. Let's face it, the prospect of a wife leaving her husband cuts to the core of the cuckold lifestyle. I think cuckolding can be a fulfilling and satisfying part of a lasting relationship -- and I posed this question initially to discuss how that can be achieved -- but there are grave risks for a lot of couples.

For some women, there is no real commitment. For some men, there is no self-esteem. Etc... My belief: If two people love each other, are committed to each other, and know themselves -- then cuckolding can be a wonderful part of a relationship. I'm just saying that those "ideals" aren't always in place. The question is how to achieve that balance.

I agree that communication is key, but both people need to be willing to communicate (which isn't always so). And I'd like to know what you mean by "more extreme tastes." If there is love and commitment, no taste is too extreme for me.

Please share more.

Also, I'm not into my wife/gf leaving me. Whatever fleeting pleasure that might generate, it doesn't compare to the pain of losing someone I love. In that type of case, it's too extreme for me.

You may fantasise about being a cuckold but when it happens without your prior knowledge or consent then, unless you are totally insensitive, the betrayal hurts. There is always risk, but if you are both living the lifestyle, because that's what you've both agreed, the risk is still present but acknowledged.

When my wife cucked me the betrayal hurt like hell. When I offered to let the other guy come into my home to fuck my wife we didn't see him for dust. She then saw that all he wanted was to fuck without complications; she was upset and felt used. In fact her self confidence was so badly dented it's taken years to rebuild it.

I still have my fantases and would dearly love to see another man's cock pumping into her but it's not something she's interested in now.

Well said Master_1950. I think what you describe is true for most cuckolds. In my own experience when I was much younger and was cuckolded by a girlfriend without enough prior discussion and consent I was furious and dumped her in hurt – even though it was my biggest fantasy.

blackside999, I agree with you totally that "...the prospect of a wife leaving her husband cuts to the core of the cuckold lifestyle." To my way of thinking, fetish cuckolding (as opposed to the non-fetish use of the word that Master_1950 describes) is a form of BDSM that is all about humil-iation and risk. How much of each a given fetishist enjoys is where all the variations come from.

Fetish cuckolding activities are games that we play with our deep-seated fears of losing out in the Darwinian struggle for dominance and breeding partners. Some folks will just want to speak aloud a fantasy about her "replacing" them, or "choosing" some other guy, some will play act it, some will go through with it in controlled, scripted, tightly ritualized episodes, some will go further. But just because the fetish addresses this psychological fear doesn't mean that the risk is actually that great in real life. There are people with fetishes about being mauled by a bear, but it doesn't really happen much. (No matter what Mr. Colbert says )

If you have a healthy, solid, loving, intimate and honest relationship and you mutually agree to play with cuckolding, it seems to me absurdly unlikely that she will leave you. (I know, buzzki-ll for a lot of guys, but we're having a frank discussion here, not a beat-off one.) But there are a lot of qualifications in that sentence. If your marriage is not so strong or not so knowing and intimate – and nothing is more common than people who believe that their marriage is when it isn't – then cuckolding could be just the pressure that splits it (or, you could wait for something else to do that).

If you and your wife have discussed the hopes and dreams of your lives, your plans to grow old together, your deepest needs and fears and desires, and the value you place on each other, and are both willing and into this and have discussed your fears, concerns, and comfort levels, I think there is really very, very little risk. (And if you haven't done these things, well, why the hell not? Lay off the internet for a bit and spend some time on the marriage.)

(By the way blackside999, I haven't overlooked your request that I share more on the idea of catharsis and tendency towards moderation. I just got off on a different tangent today. I promise to get back to you soon.)
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It is nice to read most comments. They are positive with good insight. The only permister that bothers me is " Mani42 ", this permister has issues, maybe he is a closet FAG!!! who the hell knows! Everyone else thanks for your input, and " Mani42 " fetish on it!!!

Greetings,
I have come to this media rather uneducated and an absolute newbie to the term cuckold even though it is the type and style of relationship I have sought and often enjoyed, ever since sexual awareness. I have viewed a number of post and replys, some very thought provoking, insightful commentary on the lifestyle and have merely viewed deferring a reply given my virginity to communication in this media.
I can however speak directly to the questions and thought I might provide truthful insight, perhaps one sided, but my truth none the less, of a 10 year cuckold relationship. I was with a statuesque, openly wild and wontan woman for 10 years in a relationship where I only every had sex with her, after another man had ravaged her......we still had regular sex.
This was not our initial relationship, ours was not unlike most suburban couples, perhaps a lil 3way, perhaps more? One scenario lead to another and I am soon being dressed prettily to recieve her dates when they come to the door. Exposed as her sissy to those that she will give herself to, to those that she will have sex with then have me clean her as she relates every detail while purring what a pretty girl I was being and how her real man ravaged her, can you taste him?
These among so many other things were shared between us, a relationship built on the foundation of trust and communication, a relationship that overcame obsessive bulls that plied her with luxurious lifestyles and GQ bodies, each offer pale in her eyes to the bond we shared.
That bond was eventualy shattered not as might be expected, through the bull and the wife/cuck but rather through the wife breaking a more permisteral trust. In our search for that ultimate mate, the one who would intuitively evoke from us our wants and desires, we often overlook the obvious. That we are all human.
My ex is now living with the bull that for the last 6 years satisfied her daily. It is not her first choice, she would instead rather reside here, retain her sissy and continue to fuck men as she chose when she chose when she needed a man. She would not be with me unless I was somehow attired as her sissy...(her favorite term of endearment)
Has she known this site existed when we were together she would have made me a porn star Im certian given that was her favorite threat, to reveal movies of me taking cock. These threats remain unrealized however there is an intersting new Ms that rather enjoys having me seconds only.
So to end my rambling and to respond pointedly, there are real life consequenses to every relationship. There are chances taken in everything we do. Cuckold is a brand new addition to my vocabulary therefore my previous relationships were merely self described as open. Be it open, cuckold, Master/Mistress sub slave. It is about the individuals in the relationship and thier commitment to each other.
Cheers

One solution is for the Cuck to also fall in love with the bull, and spend lots of time in their bed with just the bull, or as a threesome! It's an exciting concept and can work. Did with us for a while!
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blackside999
My ex wife left me for her younger lover few years ago.
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We had been doing the interracial Hotwire lifestyle for 4 or 5 years when my wife left me to move in with one of her black lovers. She was 54 and he was 36. He was real stud, he had a full 11 inches of fat black cock. He worked for one of the major TV stations in the DFW area as a project manager. He had 4 black guys and 2 white women working for him. I will say it wasn't totally unexpected by me that she moved out. Even though we weren't having problems I just couldn't sexually satisfy her. Anyway she lived with the guy for 29 months. That is over 800 days! He found himself a new young blonde and my wife moved back in with me. She said that she couldn't remember hardly any days she didn't have at least one black cock in her. She said for those 29 months that the guy owned her. He supplied everything she had, food, money, entertainment, trips all over and lots and lots of black cock. She was a virgin when we were married and I am still the only white man she has fucked but she has spread her legs for countless black men.

My wife left me for the guy along the road who's wife had left him for a guy who'd been fucking my wife!

We'd known the couple for years and when we moved back to the same estate we got friendly with them again. My wife Debbie had first been persuaded to cuckold me back in 1999 after a good 2 years of talking about it. That first encounter with a young customer where she worked was spoiled by my angst and insecurities a day or two after they'd had sex, which resulted in us not continuing with it for another 9 years or so.

After bringing up the subject from time to time and Debbie gradually coming round to the idea again, we re-embarked on this lifestyle again in 2009, We were both older and wiser and the advent of the internet and social media made things a bit easier this time and I handled it much better. I guess I'd always had an inkling that Debbie would cheat on me if the right guy came along, especially if she'd had a dr1nk, but the thought of her getting laid excited me which led to me telling her that I'd be okay about it as long as she came home and told me. I worked shifts of one week early and 1 week late and Debbie developed something of a social life without me, so I knew opportunities would arise for her to get some extra cock from elsewhere.

We'd originally agreed that she wouldn't go with anyone I knew and that despite her having been sterilised, she'd make them use a condom. I even bought them for her, a way of showing her I wanted it to happen. Those ground rules went out of the window one Sunday afternoon when an ex-work colleague of mine (who I didn't like very much) invited my wife over to his house whilst his wife was out. I surprised myself by agreeing that she could go and later that afternoon I picked her from the end of his street minus her bra and knickers, but with his cum still leaking out of her red, puffy, well-used pussy. It transpired that he'd been trying to get my wife into bed for years and he'd either fucked her hard, excited at finally succeeding or perhaps as punishment for making him wait so long.

Although she told me all about that afternoon and another session a couple of months later when she'd gone to help him set up his computer and had ended up with her jeans and panties pulled down whilst he bent her over his desk and fucked her, having be-friended him myself since our divorce it transpires that they had sex many other times too without my knowledge, fucking on and off for 2-3 years, even going away on holiday together for a week whilst i looked after the kids, thinking she was actually with someone else.

She clearly became very secretive, why I don't know when she knew I liked her being fucked by other men. Even at 44, she let young lads in their 20s have some mature, easy, married pussy which she told me about, but not about her monthly weekend visits to her mate in a nearby town which - her mate tells me - soon entailed her staying at her mate's step-dad's flat. He said Debbie was a great shag (she was!) and gave good head.

I can only assume that Debbie either started getting feelings for one or more of these guys or she just found it more satisfying doing it behind my back and not having to come home and tell me all about it. We were in a bit of a rut I suppose, became more like brother and sister. That last year we were together, we didn't have sex at all.

Even so, her upping sticks and moving in with Tony just two doors away came as a complete surprise. Maybe something had already happened before his wife left him for Debbie's lover, but once she'd gone, my wife started popping along to make sure he was alright, have a coffee with him and then just stopped coming home.

They're still together now, though they have moved across town. I bet our neighbours wondered why I didn't go along there wanting to fight him, but that's not me at all. I wished them all the best and she used to call me and chat to me from their bedroom window if I walked by.

Do I regret having her cuckold me? Nope, not one little bit. I think she'd have been unfaithful anyway, so it was best she had my approval and I really enjoyed knowing other men, often young lads my s0ns' age, were fucking my wife. I'd do it all again.

My new girlfriend is nothing like my ex-wife, but of course I do fantasise about her getting laid too, which I guess is why I'm still here on a cuckold website. That urge never leaves you I suppose.
Peter C

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I understand that you get extra excited when you can show that spouse how superior a lover you are. I recognize it in my lover too.
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