Wifes leaving their husbands

Don't you guys ever worry about your wife leaving you for another man? Couldn't she easily fall in love with someone else and decide she has no need for you anymore?

And women, how do you feel about it?

Cuckolding is fun in theory, and it would be great if you could count on it not ruining the relationship, but isn't there a major risk of real-life consequences?

My wife although she doesn't do it often, when she does 'cuck' me, loves it because I love it! She only fucks other men to satisfy my desire for her to do so.

She may be a freak of nature but she wouldn't do other men if I didn't obsess about her doing it. She does enjoy the few guys that she fucks...they're good fucks and always satisfy her but, she wouldn't do it if I didn't have the burning desire to eat her sweet freshly fucked pussy and take the cum from her after she fucks her select lovers.

blackside999
this is my biggest fear and rather complex ...the risk of this happening in life with out the assistance of this..lifestyle is also a bigy..,as we never really know what life will thow @ us...we can only hope to take care when driving the vehicle and make good choices along our path , so as to
lessen some of this risk or @ the vry least minimize the negative impact and nurture any positive outcomes.

The chances of her leaving me or vice versa don't go up because we play in this lifestyle. If anything, with her and I, they go down. Regardless, if it happens it's going to happen. Ain't cuckolds brownie you can do about it.

I learned awhile ago to live for today. Tomorrow isn't here yet so I don't care about it. We're together now, and we're going to enjoy every moment of it.

Interesting responses. Thank you! I hope more people lend their thoughts.

Anything can happen in life and everything is a risk but if you have a good communication with your partner then its unlikely that she will leave you for another man. The most important thing for a woman is the emotional bond she has with her partner not the size of another mans cock.

I can say with Certainty, that I would not be a Cuckold, if I did not love my wife and she would not leave, if I put my foot down. I have become accustomed to the life, as a way of staying in touch with her sexually. Better to be clean up and called upon, when she is not able to get a "real" mans cock, than to just be alone and jerking off to playboy. If I would not do as she likes, she definitely would leave. So I am a more or less willing cuck, because of that reamister.

I can say with Certainty, that I would not be a Cuckold, if I did not love my wife and she would not leave, if I put my foot down. I have become accustomed to the life, as a way of staying in touch with her sexually. Better to be clean up and called upon, when she is not able to get a "real" mans cock, than to just be alone and jerking off to playboy. If I would not do as she likes, she definitely would leave. So I am a more or less willing cuck, because of that reamister.

I was married to a women and she cuckold me, when she fall in love to her bull, I think we take the "cuckoldrelation" to a higher level and I enjoy it werry much...!
We are a Cuckold couple from Sweden, like to talk to cuckoldcouples...

My wife have a bull...

When I started asking my wife how she felt about fucking other men, seven odd years ago, she told me "no way" she'd ever do that. A year and a half later she had her first guy. She did it for me, liked the sex, but found there was something missing.
After havng experimented a bit on and off, she more and more got convinced that this cuckolding-thing could be hers. IF she could have that one thing that would spice it up for her. "That one thing," off course, being having certain feelings for the guy.
Nowadays she's waiting for that special guy. A guy to fall in love with. Deliberately. She's looking out for him.

Yes, it as a risk. Yes, I could loose her. But there is no way that I am going to forbid her to continue her search. First of all, if I did and she would happen to meet someone, nobody is going to stop her anyway. But most of all, I couldn't stop her. My hormones would not allow it. This cuckolding-thing is pretty addictive I can tell you!

rene.

My wife cucked me with 8 guys in 7 years of marriage, because I wanted it and she certainly takes real pleasure to do so. It happened two times that she was no more sure of her feelings for these guys. it's not always easy to handel for a woman when one of her bull's wants to go further than only sex in the relation. She has to be strong not to give in to the guys who themselves fall in love with her! Such guys than show their real feelings and can sometimes be very romantic with ones wife. But these things can even happen without the cuckolding fantasm of the husband. So, yes the danger is their but if you keep listening to your wifes feeling in all this cuckolding you have the ability to help her to focus on you again. You than have to let her find her way only with you and wait the time it needs before suggesting a new cuckolding experience. I'm that far now that I let my wife decide when and with whom.
Sorry for my poor English.

I've always wanted to fuck around, even in my first marriage but didn't until after I had my tubes tied. And then I only gave my neighbor a bj a couple of times. (we were both cheating actually) but I told my then husband. We'd already been discussing swinging and such fantasy talk. I'd even told him I had no problems w/a poly marraige as long as I was the Top Wife. That marriage went the by the by as we began to further explore swinging and such. COMMUNICATION, the Lack of, was One of the factors in the demise of that relationship.
My soulmate/husband/cuck/switch/sissy/Beloved understood my needs long before I did/do. He recognized the various aspects of my spirit and soul. It has been an interesting road. All things I've done I initially did to please/submit to him but the reality is I wanted/needed it all. And now it is time for me to take the reigns and control.
It is because of all of this prior that I know that no matter who I meet and mate w/I will always come back to my Husband. I have developed feelings for a couple of the gents I've been with over the last few months. But nothing that comes close to what I have with my husband. It is partly the diversity of our sexual/sensual/emotional life together that keeps me confident in that no other would ever come close to matching what I currently have w/Him. I may belittle him, redicule his cock/impotence but it does not take away from my love for him.
It only enhances and strengthens it.
So for me it is not a question of whether I would ever leave him ~ I already know I would not. He is my anchor/my Beloved
I am a truly blessed Lady who is still learning and enjoying myself immensely at my hubby's expense. :) I love a cuckolded husband.

My wife did leave me for another man, after screwing other men for awhile before hand. I'm sure she talked a lot of smack about me too.

Would have loved to have heard it.
She left me for another man and
divorced me. Haven't heard from
her since. Would love to know the fun she's having and what she's telling him about me.

blackslide999 - the biggest risk one can take in life is to not take a risk

we all risk losing our partners every minute of every day

I think a wife leaving her husband for another is VERY sexy! Someone using what you previouly had has to be a total turnon! You,masterbating while he's enjoying her pleasures....too much....

My wife got the offer from her (now ex-) boyfriend last year. She loved him very much, and gave it much (agonizing) thought before turning him down. Difficult times for both of us, but it reinpowerd my feeling that our marriage is strong. If she ever does find someone she wants to leave me for, I will kiss her goodbye graciously and wish her all the best in her new life.

Sigh...

"You're not a real man."

You get it. Which is why you don't.

Faggot.

I'd take her, but I bet she's fat and old.
KIK voxstephen

All great responses (except for Mani42)! How many times can that guy use the word "faggot?" Why doesn't he just go to a straight-up cheating wives site? Or an all-male site? Anyway, the rest of you, keep up the great insights!

I only use the word faggot with you.

That's for a reamister. Because "in theory" you're a faggot.

Your 26 year old girlfriend knows it too, or you wouldn't be asking these questions. Still bet she's fat.
KIK voxstephen

This is why I think Bulls are even more gay than cucks. Cucks are cucks for a reamister. They are pathetic. Bulls that want a sub male in the room to get them off are just plain homosexuals.

I prefer taking the women of men who try.

That's priceless. Because I can.
KIK voxstephen

I've fucked several married women who cucked their husbands. Two in particular were beautiful; one in her 20's and the other 40's. I wasn't their only fuck. They had other bulls. Both eventually left their husbands for one of the bulls and are now married to them. Still stay in touch with one hoping for that one opportunity. She was a hot fuck.

Some people confuse lust with love.

I thought my wife and I had a strong relationship, but recently she started seeing a new guy and has left me. It is tough but I knew going in there was a risk of this happening.

I guess it depends on the strength of the relationship, the self-knowledge of the people involved (particularly the wife, but her husband as well), and the wife's level of commitment to her husband. I think self-knowledge is key, because even if two people love each other, if they're not self-aware they could easily discard real love.

Also, I think there's a danger of guys becoming too immersed in the cuckold lifestyle, where their self-esteem suffers and they no longer feel adequate in any way in relation to the wife. So I think guys need to maintain some perspective too and always work to make the relationship good, sexually and otherwise, independent of the cuckolding aspect. Otherwise cuckolding can take over.

I guess that's the case with lots of things in life though.

blackside...yes never thought about it that way but you are right...the desire to be cuckolded can indeed take over - I think that's precisely what's happening with me. I will try to remember your advice to try and maintain some perspective!

Hey cuckoldgary! Cucks won't leave their wives, but it's true the wives could leave the cucks. But I disagree that it's always about "bigger" or "more money." Those things are important, but even more important is the quality of the relationship. A woman wants to feel appreciated and loved, and she wants to know the guy feels adequate (at the very least). The guy needs to maintain some friggin' perspective and not lose sight of his self-esteem.

In a cuckold relationship, any cuckold relationship, the wife already has "left you," even when she hasn't. But part of that is her own permisteral issues. That's part of who she is and where she's at during that point in time, and it's part of where you're at. But it doesn't mean she doesn't love you. It doesn't mean she really wants to literally leave you permanently. She wants freedom, she wants to have her cake and eat it too, but she wants to feel loved and appreciated and pleased by her husband. Cuckolding should only be one aspect of the relationship -- not the whole relationship. When it becomes the main source of excitement (and this is always for the guy, not the wife), that's when she turns from a horny wife into a woman looking for a new man.

I'm being a bit oversimplistic in this message. The bottom line is, I don't think all cuckold relationships are doomed. Not at all. But many are.

Congratulations jamessmith! You've had a seminal cuckolding experience.

A dozen years or so ago my then fiance left me for her (female) lover. I was already her sub and she had already stopped having sex with me and had it exclusively with her, including in front of me while bound. She told me that her girlfriend was jealous and that she "didn't feel right" about cheating on her with me. Eventually she told me that she would not ever have sex with me again. They told me I could be their slave and live with them but if I did I had to understand I would never get to have sex with women again. I agreed, (but never moved in) but unfortunately they broke up before anything ever evolved from there. (My ex-fiance still wouldn't get back with me, however.)

This all unfolded over the course of a year. More than a decade later, I still horny about it (my wanking is regulated these days, but I can still get hot and bothered) so I think you have years of stroking to look forward to!
Pantalone, Wittol, oblate, abnegator, fellator, pathic, irrumatiophile,fop, epicene, cotquean, skivvy, thrall, and pilgarlic.

Quite a wide range of responses. Maybe I'm a little too idealistic about cuckolding (if you can be "idealistic" about such a thing). It sounds like there are some cuckold relationships that work but that there are far more that don't. And I think cuckoldgary makes some good points, while some others have a posted a different outlook.

So, I guess the question is, how can you make cuckolding work and have a lasting and fulfilling relationship?

I think that it can work blackside999, it is a matter of communication, security, commitment and boundaries. For us, we have chosen to push for more risky play, but we didn't need to. For years we engaged in exactly the kind of balanced, healthy, loving cuckoldry you seek. We were a very conventional couple in all other ways and had one of the most successful, supportive, loving and enviable relationships in our circle. (Still do if you ask me, but I think it is a bit extreme now for your tastes.)

Before I used the analogy of gambling. But I did not mean to suggest addiction. It is a myth that this is somehow a slippery slope, that each act of submissive play (cuckolding or otherwise) moves you further down some continuum to total nihilism. The reality is quite the opposite, with acts of cuckolding (and similar humbling) acting as carthasis and freeing people from a lot of emotional baggage. It leads to DEEPER and more stable relationships if it is un-forc-ed and mutual.

In fact, my experience and observation is that it takes a tremendous effort and act of will to keep pushing the momentum of BDSM deeper when one of the two partners have found the level which has quenched their issues. That is when relationships get into trouble, because the person wanting more tends to try to for-ce, coerce, or manipulate their partner and/or because the partner who has now satisfied their curiosity begins to recoil at the depths of the fetish of the person they thought they knew. And all the time, you are running against the wind - it is dramatically easier to just engage in this activity in moderation than it is to handle, address, and mutually accept all the complications and sacrifices that come from trying to live a 24/7 public alternative lifestyle. (Think about it: even the very wealthy like Michael Jackson have trouble living entirely in their own fantasy world.)

Don't be so pessimistic. In my experience the truth is that your wife falling for another guy and leaving is VERY UNLIKELY unless:

1. You are a jerk and don't do your job as husband - which has nothing to do with fucking and everything to do with protecting, providing, communicating and sharing emotionally and materially.

or

2. She is really messed-up and twisted about sex and what it means. (In which case, you shouldn't do this as you would be guilty of #1)

or

3. There is nothing mutual about this and you are pushing her into it. (Which is really #1 again.)

Basically, women nest. As a general rule, they are not always trying to "trade-up." (There is a lot on this point and how it applies to promotion in the workplace, by the way.) For them to leave, it is not enough that he seems a bit better, you will need to be failing in a significant (to her needs) way. Before embarking on a cuckolding lifestyle, you need to consider your weaknesses as a partner for her (that is, based on what she thinks and feels, not your own bullsh-it fantasy about what you should be, or a man should be, or a family should be.) and estimate risk. And you need to talk very explicitly with her about her needs, your failings, your fantasies and hers, etc. Even if no cuckolding ever happens, it will tremendously strengthen your relationship.

Is that helpful?
Pantalone, Wittol, oblate, abnegator, fellator, pathic, irrumatiophile,fop, epicene, cotquean, skivvy, thrall, and pilgarlic.