Pretending to cheat(kind of long)

my wife and i have been into the hotwife thing for several years now, always(i thought) with my knowledge. recently my wife had to leave for a few months to retrain into a new job(she's in the Army). we discussed her having sex while she was there. fine by me, but she MUST let me know is what we agreed to.
Anyways, she had been gone a couple of months, and kept telling me she hadn't found the right guy. one day i'm paying the cellphone bill online and i see we are way over our text limit. i notice she is texting one number late everynight(as soon as she is off the phone with me). i thought she was going to relax! i call the number and sure enough a guy answers. i just told him i had the wrong number. now i'm mad. long story short, she confesses she has been fucking a classmate for weeks. big fight.

flash forward to this weekend. after a rough couple of weeks we are pretty patched up(what can I say, I guess I am a cuck) and she comes home for a visit. we've got a good buzz so i ask for some details. nothing crazy, she would page him to come down to her room late at night and she would be waiting bent over the bed for a quick fuck. they would also meet in the mornings. I ask a few questions; 'was it good''sometimes' 'was he big''not really' 'well,did you cum at least?' 'no. i used my rabbit after he left'.

Hmm. So I ask why she even did it. she admitted to me that she had some sort of fetish for cheating. a very strong fetish in fact. by this time we had a couple more takes and my arousal was very obvious. this, i think, finally allowed her to confess everything. not only was she fucking her buddy but had on a 'few' occasions fucked his roommate at the same time, and once even allowed a third friend to join in. She would regularely blow them as well. During the same time period she was meeting with another guy as well as the BBC I had arranged for her on a swinger site(this is notable, because after her first meeting with him, she claimed he couldn't get it up and nothing happened). I have since looked at his profile, and sure enough, theres new pics of my wifes lips around a very hard cock, and one of her getting absolutely pounded doggystyle(she didn't know he posted them). some of this happened while she was on the phone with me!

I was incredebily turned on, but i'm not dumb. I knew stuff like this doesn't start out of thin air. I questioned her about past things I had been suspicious about. She'd fucked the guy that ran her tanning bed, several times, she'd had three coworkers at the same time in our bed while I was out of town, and each of those three on seperate occasions on her lunchbreak. a guy at her gym. SIX! black guys she brought home from a nightclub WHILE i was arelax upstairs). She was blowing her boss and her employee(not at the same time), she blew a few of my buddies over the years. Sometimes when I called her at work i would hear strange wet noises, she always said she was smoking but i always wondered. She admitted that she had blown her EMPLOYEE under his desk every day for at least a month('his wife won't do it, and i love to' was her explanation) and the sounds i heard were indeed her sucking his cock. She would get me to talk by asking for a list of groceries for example, and bob away, only having to say 'ahem' around her mouthful of cock. The ladylode was a video she had hidden of the guy filming our 'conversasion'. My cock has been absolutely spent from watching that. I'll try to get a screencap up.

Anyways, the point for my post is this: how can we simulate the thrill she gets from cheating without the dishonesty? she really gets off on it and has always done anything i ask to please me sexually. she got into swinging and hotwifing very reluctantly, only because i wanted to(obviously, she is now a full-'blown' convert). she has certainly done much for me(blowjobs from her friends for instance. And to be honest, this whole thing has me turned on like crazy. We had some of our best sex ever this weekend. I don't want her to comepletely lose her thrill, but obviously there has to be honesty. I was thinking maybe a night every month where she HAS to tell me all about her activities? So ideas anyone?

Oh, and please no judgemant posts. I have told you a lot, but in no way can you judge the sum of our relationship from it. we are very open sexual people with a very strong bond. I actually did a lot to encourage her sexuality(her only sin was keeping it secret, although that was admittedly a biggie) And she is an absolute stickler for safe sex. No condom, no pussy(and due to the military all her coworkers are tested).

oh, heres less blurry pics(i took)

Have you read the novel "The Key" by Jun'ichirō Tanizaki? There is also a Tinto Brass movie based on it. In it both the husband and wife keep diaries. The wife writes about her affair and the husband writes about his excitement about his wife being with someone else. Both pretend that the other doesn't know their own diary exists. It's only a pretension though. They both know that the other reads their diary even though it is never explicitly discussed.

Maybe you can use a variation of this. Your wife can keep a computer diary of her activities (perhaps even include pictures) which you can read. Since your wife doesn't tell you stuff directly she can pretend that she's cheating and get the same thrill more or less.

Do you think this will work for you?

Sorry to say it, but once a cheater always a cheater. She will never get the excitement she gets from cheating, by "pretending" or anything else.