Fucking other men doesn't make me a slut, ho, or hotwife!

I am able to fuck other men. Husband suggested the idea. My husband helps arrange it. He is there when it happens but in other room. Guys are hand picked and approved by me. He is not a wimp, cuckold or pervert. He is a decorated vet. He and I prefer young well hung black guys but occasionally young well hung white guys as well. He doesn't eat me out afterwards nor is he degraded by me during sex. I would prefer having sex with my husband. But he is currently unable to fulfill my needs due to a medical condition. He would prefer I don't, but knows I need sex to be happy and feels that just because he can't I shouldn't have to suffer as well. When we are on holidays we find guys via the internet. He meets them first then we have dinner and takes so I can get to know him a bit first.
The guys are not one night stands but become friends with benefits. I love my husband, we have been married for 20 years and no matter how much I enjoy the sex with another guy I would never consider leaving my husband. I would never sneak around on him and we both don't consider it cheating. He even plays golf with a few of the guys. I don't do gangbangs but have on occasion had two guys at once. We are not swingers in the normal sense of the word.
So don't judge everyone as a slut, tramp, ho or a wimp just because we enjoy being happy.

me

Go for it. You are a very sexy lady and I would love to make love to you any way you like. And congrats to hubby for caring about your needs.

If that is what works for you, I say more power to you. I permisterally don't tend to be a judgemental permister anyway. I say that if it works for you and isn't harming anyone else, then go for it.

I am a bit curious though why you felt the need to post this on an obvious "cuckold" website. I don't mean any offense, but women being hotwives and sluts and being fucked by bulls with the knowledge of their wimp husbands is kinda the whole idea of cuckolding, isn't it?

We couldn't disagree with you more! A partner who lets his wife have sex with other men is a VERY strong man, do you have any idea of the strength of character it takes to do that? Of course there are exceptions to the rule but most of these guys are not wimps!

sounds like you have found a good situation for your husbands medical condition.

you dont sound like a slut at all, but you are clearly a HOT wife. we use that term here and there is a difference.

and even though your husband is not into being a cuck in any way, does not mean that he is not getting off on you fucking a black guy in the other room. you KNOW it makes him excited.

I'm sorry, I should have clarified myself a bit more about what I meant. I certainly mean no disrespect to a cuckold husband. In many, many ways it takes a lot more character to be the cuckolded husband than it does to be the bull.

My point was that probably in "most" cuckold situations, the husband is excited by the offense of the situation. This is all I was trying to infer (albiet badly) by referring to the man as a "wimp" husband.

I'm sure that everyone has their own opinions on what is and isn't cuckolding and I'm certainly no authority, but for me permisterally, without some degree of female dominance or offense for the husband, then its not cuckolding to me, its just swinging.

Thats probably true but on the other hand the dictionary definition of a cuckold is a man who's wife has sex with other men. That does not mean that the wife has to be necessarily dominant. My lady is sub but she loves to savor other cocks! We would probably be defined as a hot wife couple but at the end of the day she's still cuckolding me albeit without humiliating me.

Seems to me that you are a little "loose" but you are free to define yourself.

There is a difference don't you think, a cuckold or hot wife makes the decision to have sex with other men, even though she could get the sex from her husband. It may not be as exciting or fulfilling as with another man but is available non the less and she knew what she was getting before she got married and went ahead and married the guy anyway.
In this case the option is not there. It is another man or nothing. To have one man only runs a greater risk of attachments forming that might eventually destroy an otherwise good relationship. In this case there is also many years of a relationship, family and friends to take into account so separating and looking for a new husband just because of not being fulfilled sexually is kinda selfish, don't you think? In this case it is, we think, a better option to take physical sex and put it outside the rest of the relationship. Besides both parties have to agree on each guy and each time so there is no mistrust in the relationship.

""""Thats probably true but on the other hand the dictionary definition of a cuckold is a man who's wife has sex with other men.""""

The dictionary also defines swinging as sitting on a tire suspended by a rope and moving back and forth.

To me, a cuckold is a man whose wife has sex with another man WITH HIS CONSENT and knowledge.

But others have their own opinion and I usually keep my mouth shut. I've even heard some on here calling a man a cuckold whose wife has sex with other man without him even knowing about it or approving. WTF? Hell, if he doesn't even know about it, what's the damn point? haha! Beyond that, I don't care what anyone says: A cheating wife or spouse is not a cuckoldress, they are just cheaters.

lovebigdick, sounds to me like you're doing fine. Don't let definitions or negative people get to you. If you're having fun, that's all that counts. My wife and I do this too. We use a stranger, a black guy who is not part of our social friends or work world but one that we know for our swinging games. I think it's better that way and I advise against anyone using a friend or coworker for swinging.

And I don't lick up her creampie or suck his dick or anything submissive like that. She does dominate me slightly as we enjoy that but nothing major and never in front of the other guy.

But in saying that, I have nothing against the guys who get into the more extreme forms of cuckolding or bi sexual sex. Whatever floats your boat.

There are no rules and enjoying sex doesn't make you a slut or degrade you in any way at all. In fact, it makes you and your husband two people who are enjoying their lives and having fun.

Sounds good to me.

labels ultimately have limited value.

My wife and i live the same lifestyle for the same reamister , she has a very high sex drive , and she likes her lovers to be not as much long as thick , I know when she has sex , and i know what takes place , shes not a slut or a ho , but a loving wife with needs that i cant fulfill , so , if this is what it takes to make her happy , so be it.

lovebigdick


Sure that make it more clear for me...your situation is different. Glad tyo hear that it works for you. Why not?