Any Advice?

So I am a black male. Tall, good looking, and hung. My girlfriend is beautiful and we have fun together. Sex is good.

BUT I WANT TO BE A CUCK. and I have encouraged my girlfriend to cuck me. She has accepted it and gone out on three dates. The first was a total miss. The second date the guy made her kissed on her and she told me that she had gotten really wet. Wetter than I ever made her. A few nights after that she went out with another guy who she kissed and let touch her pussy for a moment. She was turned on but stopped because she hadn't told me prior to her date she'd be going out with him for certain.

Now a part of me is deeply turned on by being cucked. I'm cumming around 5 to 6 times a day from all the thoughts of it. We're living in different states. I moved last month for a new job and she will not be joining me until next year sometime but I am really worried that she will end up leaving me for one of the guys. She has a thing where she has to befriend them first before they do anything and that part doesn't turn me on. Her having fun and using them for her pleasure does but not the courting phase. I'm confused and I keep sending her mixed messages. One day I'm telling her to stop. The next I'm encouraging her. I don't know what to do. Anyone have advice?

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There is no one with any advice?

be clear with her..
"either you take the sex bit ...or nothing"
if she accpet you are on for a journey if not she'll end up leaving you. IMHO of course
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btw you seem very "capable" of satisfying her

and she looks very7 nice
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Thank you. I am large and do perform very well it is just the thought of being domesticated by her. Of her having total sexual freedom that gets me going.

I am amazed that no one has any real advice for a real situation but plenty for people make up stuff.

Most long range relationships don't work as people grow used to being apart. It seems to me that this is not the ideal situation for cuckolding. Just my opinion. The fact that she would like to be friends suggests she needs an emotional connection with someone to have sex with them. You may want to be a cuck, but my suggestion would be to place an an stating what you are desiring and meet someone who's desires are similar to your own.

Mixed messages are a danger for sure.

I'm working on my 2nd wife having been "successfully" cucked by by ex and 2 other long term girlfriends.

Everyone seems to go through phases of uncertainty (hub and wife) on the road to being cucked. You voicing your confusion though is only likely to make her hesitate and pull back from doing what you want. She needs to understand your fears about the courtship thing and her leaving you. I would just spell it out how much you really want this but obviously dont want to lose her.

Needing to get to know the guys seems to be her way of enjoying this so really you're going to have to let her have this courtship phase if she's to do it. My current wife has said the same to me about needing to "know" the guy before she'd relax with him.

With previous partners I grew to love the courtship bit, seeing their relationship flower, her dress to please him etc. Perhaps you will too. How new are you to cucking desires?

Just be clear to her that you want it and try to bite your tongue when your inevitable fears kick in - otherwise she'll wonder what kind of negativity you'll unload on her when she does spread for another.

Ps - she seems to have one hell of a body. Someone will be very lucky

I agree with Jcucks comment that this is not the ideal situation for cuckolding. With you being away, and she needing an emotional connection with someone to have sex with them. I think you will lose her if she starts having sex with others. Wait until she moves in with you, so she can return home to you each night and stay connected to you emotionally.

Thank you all for your advice. I greatly appreciate it. She does have a smoking body. She is amazing. I guess the long-distance thing might cause a major issue. I will talk to her about. We've been on pause for a week now so we'll see where it goes.

On the other side of the coin, my husband and I were apart for one year due to job transfers, and selling houses, he encouraged me and I agreed to make him part of it, listening on the phone, talking to the guys, and we only got closer, that was 20 years ago. So bottom line love can be more powerful than sex as long as both know the score.

She has done that to me once. We were talking about something important and one of the guys called her on her cell phone. She made me stop talking and placed the phone down while she and him had a chit chat. I enjoyed it. I know it can work but it is the thought of it not working that concerns me. We are close though.

I understand exactly dear, only the two of you can make that determination, set her down and tell her your fears, and your desires, express your love and go from there. One thing i will share with you is this is a fear all in the lifestyle have, but from a woman who knows, when my husband put that much trust in our love it only made me love him that much more. sex is one coin , love quite the other, one must distinguish between the two, for you to love her enough to let her be sexually free says volumns about you, if she loves you the same she will know how lucky she is. My feeling in life is: the biggest chances you take -- are not taking any. Jan

Very well said. The next time she comes to visit we'll have a conversation about all of this and hopefully get everything set.

If I may be of further help please let me know, life is short and should be spent with who and what pleases us, It may help you to know that the divorce rate in "regular marrages" is 60 times higher than in alternate lifestyle marrages, the reamister being? It is because in traditional marrages there is a larger number of deceptive affairs that hurt the heart and cause irreparable differences, no one likes to be cheated on, in alternate lifestyles there is no cheating and only honesty-- communicate-- life is to short to live in question or misery. Good luck dear Jan

You are one hundred percent right. I just hope if we do it, it all goes well and she involves me. I would like to one day watch. Possibly clean her up and ever take his manhood into my mouth to prep it for her. That would be an ideal thing. Just hope it all goes well.

redhead:

That is an interesting statistic. I think I believe it on the whole, but would like to know more from where that number comes. The wife and I, as part of our mutual rebuilding of the marriage, are swinging and swapping now, and she has commented repeatedly how much better and stronger the marriage is because of it (much to her surprise). No more cheating or deception, because there is no need for it. Hence, less strain on the relationship.

Drfarmer: I am a Doctor of Philosophy (PHD) and I belong to a group that studies social behaviors past and present, the statistics come from a culmination of information gathered through interviews of people from failed marrages, and marrages that have survived the decades. In all these interviews the subjects were ask about sexual and lifestyle habits. My intrest being into the cuckold lifestyle, I have kept a journal on the subject and at this point after 30 years the statistics I quoted are documented from real people and lifestyles around the globe. My study also supports what your closing comments state, people that seek alternative lifestyles find that the longer they do the more in love they become. As I said before it is a state of mind, sex verses love, the problem with conventional situations is the erges are the same, but when they become strong enough to implement it is through cheating and deception, which breeds mistrust and fear. I hope this has helped and answered your question. Now for dcslayer: Dear those are the very desires you need to share with your lover, but pacience is paramount, these things come to fruition over a long period of time and only when the chemistry is right, so take small steps, be pacient, and love her, dont fear her. Good day to all Jan

redhead:

Thanks for the info. Is this research you have done yourself? Presuming roughly half of all marrriages end in divorce, does this mean that less than 1% of cucking/bulling/swinging/swapping marriages end with divorce? Wouldn't that blow away the blue noses of the world.

Have you (or others) published on this? That would be a very interesting paper that could be extensively quoted!

By the way, I'll meet your PhD (Natural Sciences and Engineering) and raise you a JD. Makes me a "pairodocs," as the wife says. LOL

I have to add you are big beautiful babe. Makes up for your spelling. [Just kidding.]

dcslayer:

Pay attention to what redhead says. Anyone that smart and beautiful must know her stuff.

slayer, i can only share my experiences as a cuck for more than 30 years. i cannot help but remember my anxiety as i introduced my first Wife (27 years married) into an alternative lifestyle. i married in 69 and as headed to vietnam in 70. We had tried swinging (very common back then, and by the way, i was her fourth husband, and she had cheated on them all. i had pretty much failed at swinging, cause i never completely pleased the woman i was with, but she definately pleased the men she was with, and it didn't take long for some to want her outside the swinging. i was jealous, but felt it better for her to be honest rather than cheat. She declined these men but i knew she wanted better sex than i provided. That thought, along with some of my previous relationships (cucked by a girlfriend, enjoying eating more than fucking, etc.) made me sit her down, and tell her i expected and approved of her having sex with others while i was gone. i asked that she love me, as i would love her, and to please write and share all of her experiences with me.

So, i basically admitted to her i wasn't as capable of other in a sexual way, but i loved her with all my heart, and would be as happy as she would be as long as i heard about it, and she continued loving me. Let me tell you, hearing things 8 to 10 days after they occurred, left me in an aroused and ***d state. Did it strengthen our relationship...yes. Did it change it...yes. She became the dominant partner, i became more and more a wimp. We remained married for 27 years, but the last three were no longer happy for either, so we divorced. We are still best friends.

drfarmer: Thank you for your coments, I especially like the pairodocs Quote: And yes i never was a speller, and especially when I am trying to respond between obligations, but then we could spend hours discussing why you are compelled to point that out? just kidding. Anyway in answer to your question, this research has been a subject of intrest of five different phd's for various reamisters, however the cuckolding research is mine based on my interviews of people in the lifestyle. Cuckolding is a complex lifestyle being that it is many different things to many different people, anctually defining it is very difficult, however the statistics I have are these: I have interviewd 1137 couples that will attest to there life style being that of a cuckold senerio, out of that 1137 couples 818 had failed first marrages, or traditional multiple ones. Out of the entire 1137 couple engaged in cuckolding lifestyles, 71 have divorced or found more compatable partners. I would say that it speaks for its self. However it is not nor will i publish it because like most statistics it is based on a cross section of couples who may or may not represent the main stream. Anyway for me it is convincing enough for me to give my two cents worth of advice to the acceptance of the life style. In short it works . Jan

redhead44d,

Hi there maam, I wanted to ask your advice from a womans point of view, how do I go about meeting a lady for this lifestyle? I am a bi, swm, but more of a transgirl, I am very fem, often mistaken for a woman, not really functional as a male, and am cuck. I have created an ad on POF that is completely honest about who and what I am, seeking a dom woman, who would like this kind of lifestyle where she is dom and cucks me. What else can I do from a womans point of view? Thank you for any advice you have

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