My wife says she doesn't fantasize at all

Hi, everyone. I've gotten into this fetish as a result of my enjoyment of cross-dressing, BDSM and shaving it all, and trying to enhance my wife's and my sexual lives. We're both somewhat subby, me more so. We've been married over 20 years and I've had countless fantasies, but she says she never does fantasize. Though if I tell her outloud a sexy cuckold fantasy as we play...she does get turned on.

Does anyone else have a wife who doesn't fantasize? Just wondering.

Thanks!

Webbie

Sigh,

Absolutely I do. My wife says she doesn't dream, or fantasize....It's very frustrating because I dream and fantasize all night. When I tell her my fantasies she gets really turned on, but insists she has none of her own.... I wish i had a way of lookin ginter her mind.....

my wife is the same way...never fantasizes and thinks it's "bad" - but she loves stories ..especially about fucking other men, what's the deal?

Oh they do...

im very sorry but i have to tell you that i think your wives are lying....they might not want to admit it because for alot of women...its like thinking they are dirty...its been bred into us that having those types of thoughts are best left to the men but make NO mistake they DO have em now its up to YOU to find a way to bring em out!!! and just so ya know....most of the kinkiest women i know are Prudes!!!!!!!

Divorce...

Hi all - great replies, all of them.

You know Mistress_Lynn, I mentioned that aspect about my wife to a swing couple I emailed with from SwingLifestyle, and they seemed to concur with you. Well, I've been working on trying to bring it out in her. And she does get into my intermittent sissiness.
She enjoys having me in a "7gates" chastity device, and she also enjoys being tied up. She enjoys my wearing panties and hidden jewelry, and my shaving it all - at one point I tried playing the Dom for her, but it just didn't go over all that well. That's when I figured it would be best for us to both be subby, and to have a third who is Dom.
She does enjoy the idea of a Dom Mistress, perhaps more so then a Dom Male/Bull, but when I describe the fantasy outloud as we make love, she can get very turned on whether the Dom is male or female or both.
Part of why I'm in this "cucky" group is to find a way to unlock her sexual desires and free her to new and exciting ideas. I believe it is starting to become a hobby, for her as it has been for me, and that may be the rub. For her when she gets into a hobby she researches all aspects to it. And I've been trying to help her see love making as more of an enjoyable activity and less only tied to "love" per se, hence making the act more of a physical activity with sensual benefits... we'll see. I partly wonder if why some women may not admit they fantasize, or perhaps stunt their fantasies is the social/cultural mores as you say, that would make them feel dirty. But it seems to me, us cucky's in here get the most turned on by seeing our wives turned on - and that (their ultimate pleasure) being the utmost goal is the best reamister I can think of for helping our wives shed their prudishness and live life to it's fullest. Whether it means cucking or just helping them to blossom what ever that means to them permisterally, is the underlying joy of any cuck, or husband/boyfriend.


If I discover any ways that help my wife open up I'll try to share it.

One thing we did recently was, while I had her over my lap giving her a sexy massage....and taking her with a toy (of course bigger then me)...playing the bull, often I will fantasize to her that I've been massaging her in preparation for our Bull to take her over my lap in that way, as I then begin to tease her and eventually take her with the toy.
As the Bull, I suggested when she has boring moments at work, she needs to take that time to think about a sexy scenario...and from time to time I'll remind her. We'll see....

If anyone else has any ideas on how to help a wife to fantasize feel free to chime in!

Thanks again all!

-webbie

webbie
All interesting ideas, how did it play out?

WHEN I FIRST GOT INTO THIS LIFESTYLE IT STARTED WITH ME USING A DILDO ON MY WIFE (Which she had bought herself at an all-girls sex toy party...she said as a "joke"...yeah, SURE! I thought!) ...as I did her with the dildo I would ask her to pretend it was (Name witheld...an exboy friend who I knew had fucked her countless times before we married)..she would become very excited when I mentioned that...then later I asked her to take the dildo and do herself much like he did so I would know how she like to be fucked...she would go totally wild with lust...eventually I had her saying his name and talking dirty to "him"...I would encourage her by saying things like: "that's my good girl...fuck him good baby...get all his cum out of that big cock...good girl!" She would fuck herself furiously with the dildo until her body would totally stiffen and I could tell she was cumming like a horse. I would thank her and tell her how beautiful she looked with "him" fucking her for my eyes only.
All of this pretend play later led to her making it a reality for us when she started "dating" a guy...she would come home from her "date" and tell me all the little details and then demonstrate with the dildo just how the guy had fucked her...eventually she broke it to him that I was aware of their sessions and I would love to watch them together...when he hesitated she told him if he did not allow me to watch she would have to brake it off with him and find another bull who would let me watch...he agreed when he saw that it was "hubby present in bedroom or no pussy at all"...and before all this she had told me the same as yours have told you guys, that she didn't have fantasies...yeah SURE! Wives say that to save face and appear respectable, but don't let them kid you...they fantasize as much as we do...it's upto us to make them relax sexually and tell us about those fantasies...praise them when they do finally confess, and ecourage them to bring them to life.
Good luck, guys....remember...if at first you don't succeed, try and try again!

In many cases, no way the lady will indulge at all. Try again DOES sometimes work, sometimes just can gradually destroy the couple...
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But then you won't know unless you try, no?

Brutus2


My thought on the "destroy the couple" issues....I've made the comment b4, the couple has to have something between them fairly stong to begin with. This scene in no way saves a near failed situation. But I've seen couples that had something good to begin with elevated to something special. To those not in this lifestyle...wierd...I'm sure. To each his/her own, YES?

Started w/ german, english as a youngster, and now..some asian but nothing near diplomatic level.

"Joe Preston" sounds very english, though...
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Brutus2

oh, simply a useful nom de guerre


I have a professional life that must remain seperate from this....

This looks quite discreet for a "professional", dear...
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