The Fantasy Yes. The Reality, No.

I do sometimes wonder how life would have turned out if I had dumped her, it wasn't as if I wasn't short of alternatives but there were kids involved. Real life is never straightforward is it?

Has she cheated on me since, I really don't know but it is something I expect all the time. I can't believe she gets any more satisfaction from my cock than she did before, probably even less now that she's had a real cock inside her.

Masters_1950

I find the inadequate excuse a bunch of B.S. (I am assuming you are talking about inadequacy in terms of sex, right?). If that is truly what it's all about to her, the opportunies you would have been willing to give her would have been ideal. It would have answered the problem perfectly and allowed you to still be part of it too. I don't know but, it seems the fact that you being OK with it and part of it, wouldn't have given the same thing that she got by cheating. If it was inadequacy, I don't see how that would have changed by including you and not cheating. I can see why it would be a good excuse to use on you if it was one of the reamisters you were willing to go along with her cucking you already...if you talked about that at all...she already knew you felt that way about yourself and would accept that excuse for her need to cheat without much question. Was it just once or for a period of time? Was it some one she knew already? If that's the case, maybe you watching wouldn't have been something he would have understood....explaining what a cuckold was to him might have made him think she was crazy. If they were flirting for awhile in some way and then as things got closer to them actually having sex, how would a woman then suddenly bring, "what do you think about my husband watching?" You really need someone that knows all about being a bull already to include you and that's probably going to be a stranger...maybe she's not so into that but, if it was just inadequacy that wouldn't matter so much. That's just one guess but, to cheat because of the inadequacy thing, doesn't seem to make sense to me considering your willingness to be cucked already.

Interesting take on the situation bullcock2222, and I'm glad you're enjoying the photos. I'll tell you I'm very oral and I certainly don't and won't use my wife, and despite my being oral, I'm not orally fixated. And from what you say, that mean's the odds are a wife will fuck around, as I don't beleive most wive's are used. I find this a bit unbeleivable.

I have heard that viewpoint from other bulls regarding my wife's body--that with a body like that, how can she not be fucking around? It's a bit of an overshot--I never said I wasn't a good lover. I'm fit, and although average at 6", it's a quality 6 inches. Moreover, no matter how much a bull thinks he knows women, the husband will always know his wife better than anyone. As do I. Yours is an interesting point though, as I realize you're speaking anecdotally. As am I. ;)

In spite of my own experience I'm inclined to agree with you. If a woman has a fantastic body like your wifes it does not follow that she must be fucking around. What is more likely is that she will be hit upon by guys who don't care that she's married or find her married state a challenge. My wife, who is nowhere near as attractive, had her fair share of guys hitting on her.



Yes it was for a period of time and she did know him already. The reality was that he was much younger and she was flattered. I can't imagine he would have coped with me watching and he ran a mile when he found out that I knew all about him and was willing to share. Like most women, she wanted the affair to be about more than sex so had to justify her betrayal by attacking me in a cruel and humiliating way. Even though she knew it would be the case, when it became apparent that all he wanted was sex she started to have her doubts. Nonetheless she was devastated when he dumped her - she was all dressed up for a night in a hotel, with my reluctant permission, and he left her waiting on the roadside. To add to her offense the local slut stopped and asked her if she needed a lift. She'd offered to tell me which hotel they were going too so I guess part of her was hoping I'd intervene but, as it turned out, I didn't have too.

From my experience, many of us would have been bettof off if we had kept the idea a fantasy. The reality of being a cuckold is not always as much fun as the fantasy. This is a web site for those of us who want or enjoy some element of the cuckold experience. I have always suggested that you venture gently into the lifestyle. Most wives will not stop once they start and I read of many men who write about their x-wives.

From my experience, many of us would have been bettof off if we had kept the idea a fantasy. The reality of being a cuckold is not always as much fun as the fantasy. This is a web site for those of us who want or enjoy some element of the cuckold experience. I have always suggested that you venture gently into the lifestyle. Most wives will not stop once they start and I read of many men who write about their x-wives.

From my experience, many of us would have been bettof off if we had kept the idea a fantasy. The reality of being a cuckold is not always as much fun as the fantasy. This is a web site for those of us who want or enjoy some element of the cuckold experience. I have always suggested that you venture gently into the lifestyle. Most wives will not stop once they start and I read of many men who write about their x-wives.

I guess I can join the club here.

Your wife is gorgeous. And by-god she looks good in lingerie. Has she always liked to pose for you in lingerie? If I just mention bringing out the camera my wife runs. How ever you do it I'm impressed and very jealous.

My wife and I fantasize too and that's where it ends. I'm reading these posts bacause I'm not sure if I want to keep encouraging her. At first she was shocked, she thought I had an alterior motive to have my own affair. Slowly I've been explaining my fantasy. She hasn't admitted to it but I can feel the idea growing in her own mind. I think she goes hot and cold.

MrBungle
Hi first time poster here. My wife an I have talked about this for some time. I have found her looking on different websites for dating, and when we are having sex, she tells me her fantasies about totally slutting out for another guy for one night. But when I ask her if she is going to try it she tells me she wants too, but a part of her doesn't think she should. I can totally relate to you.

wavslider - thanks for the compliments first of all...and yes she poses often for me. We do it as part of our 'foreplay' if you will. It makes her feel sexy...and she should because she is. I don't see the point in encouraging the wife to do anything. SHe knows how you feel.

curious_micple - If there's one thing I am sure of, I don't think anyone should go into the lifestyle without being 100% sure. As joejoe points out, many of us are better off in the fantasy. Your wife seems a little more open minded to the idea than mine, but still apprehensive. I think what people overlook is that it would be a life-altering experience, for better or worse. The thing to consider is: "Will it be worse?" Great comments all!

MrBungle- I wasnt suggesting that anyone should be abusive- I was just saying that there are certain women who stay in these types of relationships and its usually women like this who are less likely to do other guys- basically b/c they have this sick dependency thing w/ the abusive husband. I guess the statistics are that 50% of women have affairs. To me that number seems low. Just from what I see, married women who take good care of themselves arent doing it to keep the hubby impressed. Of course its all anecdotal like you say- you know your girl better than anyone and if she was doing other guys I would expect you would at least be seeing some clues of that which apparantly you're not.
bullcock

Well bullcock2222, you do have some points. Although, "from what you see" would likely be a skewed vantage point: some women stay in shape for themselves (and yes, even for their hubby I suppose). Especially if they have an athletic background from a young age. And yes, I would likely see some clues. But the stats are startling; 50% is a high number and I think it's relatively accurate, and the number for males is even higher. That being said, I haven't cheated on my wife either, so I've beat the odds as well. Thanks for your input! I hope your enjoying the show.

MrBungle,

I'm very new to this website and I was surprised that I'm not alone! I have almost the same issue with you. I have the same fantasy for almost 10 years now. I gathered the nerve to share the fantasy with my wife and she cut it off as soon as she heard it. Please understand that we're both brought up and educated strictly Catholic up to college level. She was my college sweetheart and we were both virgins when we got married. But because I did bring it up every chance I get, she finally gave in and shared the fantasy with me while we had sex, just to make me happy. She made it clear that she did not enjoy a moment of this fantasy but as a good wife she did play along for me. This went on for several years and I was really enjoying my fantasy until my wife got tired of it, and one night she surprised me with the question - "I bet you won't even get mad if I did this fantasy in real life huh?". I froze and fetishd to her question and my cock went limp instantly, I didn't expect this from my virtuous wife! She told me that she is just fed up with my fantasy and wanted to go back to our normal lovemaking OR she might as well fulfill it in real life. After a long talk that evening I came back to my senses, I apologized to her and told her we'll stop the fantasy. The truth is I enjoyed my fantasy but I don't think I can handle it becoming a reality! I haven't brought up my fantasy since that night, that's 3 years ago and now at 43 it's gradually creeping up in my thoughts again. (My wife is 42 but she look 32 because perhaps of her Spanish-Asian red). I don't want to take the risk of bringing it up to my wife again. But now that I discovered this website, I have an outlet now.

Thanks,
Bob

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bob82692 -

Thanks for your very honest, and candid summary of your own experiences. There are several things I'd like to point out.

First is that your wife was willing to indulge you...probaby hoping you'd tire of it.

Second, when you didn't, she put an end to it (obviously knowing your real feelings on the matter).

Your wife sounds like an intelligent woman, but most importantly devoted to you.

Lastly, you say you've found an outlet here. Well then--you're all set. No harm no foul.

Great post.

well mr b your wife certainly is very sexy ,ican completly understand how you feel,itoo have dicussed it with my wife but as yet not taken the final step.we both get excited ,like the both of you at the thought,like your wife,at the moment she feels a twinge of guilt,which over time she may lose.keep posting the sexy pics of your wife she georgeous,ty.here are a couple of pics of mine,hope you enjoy.
ned martin

Thanks Ned, though your pics didn't go through. If I'd have known there were so many I would have dedicated a thread to it; something like
"Wives You Won't Fuck." But I guess this is as good a place as any.

Thanks, MrBungle! Yes you are right about my wife. But I really miss those times when she played along with my fantasy, saying all those things in my ear as we had sex. Like I said the fantasy started to creep back in, actually it never left my thoughts I just controlled it. By the way, your wife looks very sexy, thanks for the pictures. Hmmm, my wife almost share the same features as your wife from behind. She is getting hotter as years pass by, I guess as the saying goes "women are like wine.."She started to wear high heels on occassions now on my request, she never did before because she did not want me to look shorter than her. I also cut off a couple of her denim shorts so short that her bare ass shows, she wears this on my request during our play time in bed. Oh my, shall I bring this fantasy up to her again?

THanks again bob82962. Sounds like your wife is willing to take things to a certain extent. I would take comfort in this. She already knows your fantasy--you needn't push it. If she ever wishes to indulge in the fantasy for even once, she'll probably blow your mind, because she'll have made the decision and the effort.

MrBungle,
it seems u hilted the right string with this. I identify to certain extent. I to fantasize (a lot) about my wife fucking other guys. She is also hot as yours so as u said, I would rather watch my wife fuck than some porn star.
I tried it with my x and was fine with it. Further more I enjoyed it very much. I think it would be better if she agreed earlier when I still had very strong feelings for her. She did it at the end, when she felt that I am drifting away from her and probably as a last try to save our marriage. It worked for a while but I was clear to me that it is not the same as if it was still the woman I love.
My new wife is hotter at 35 than my x ever was but so thats just boosting my wish to turn her in to a slut. But unlike x shes reluctant to fantasize about it. I tried a few times and it gave me some hopes but her self control is incredible. Shes brought up in very religious atmosphere. Thats not influencing our normal sex. She's very submissive and likes it all but within 1 on 1 limits.
Shes also a bit of exhibitionist, like your wife. She likes to pose for me and to have sex outdoors. I let her choose the places and she always chooses places where is strong possibility someone can see. She also makes more noise in those situation which I see as another way to attract potential voyeurs. I enjoy that a lot.
Once when we had sex in our living room I asked her if she would like it if someone was here watching us. It didn't cross my mind her fucking another guy at all. She asked me: "some girl perhaps?" I sad: "I wouldn't mind a guy to" meaning just watching. Then she shocked me a bit with question "would u like him just to watch or do something else?" I said: "depends. would u like him to do something else?" It took her some 20 seconds to reply but only after she had very loud orgasm: "No."
I'd like some opinions on this people.
I will stop here for this time. But I have more.

Thanks for you tale, Kuca. I had to smile, as I have had similar experiences. The wife enjoys the fantasy of being watched, and almost exclusively imagines a woman, and at most a couple.

On occasion, she will get naughty for me, usually if she's a little tipsy. She'll roleplay, and pick "someone" up at the bar, and "fuck" him, while giving me all the details. In reality, she's fucking herself with her 8" dildo, and saying how big "his cock" feels. Invariably it's an older man, which is a small glimpse into her psyche. That's as close as it gets, and those occasions are few and far between.

Thanks again, and thanks for the hot pic of your lady.

Here are some of my woman and her "date" ;)

Most men who have this fantasy have only one video. They play it over and over. In real life, the movie never stops and you are not directing every sceen. You never know if the cloths are for you or someone else. What was that call? Where has she been? If you wife is late, you wonder. Has she told me everything? She goes out when it is convenient to her and her lover, not when it is the "right time" for you. You have another permister or more than one permister in your life and in your mariage. You lose what little control you have currently. Think long and hard before you go down this path. Most women enjoy the freedom and after going through years of persuation and pestering, they are going to have some fun. After all, they only did this because you powerd the issue.

Thanks again MrBungle. I will not dare to open up my fantasy like you said. Although your last statement was quite intriguing. You guys are so lucky, your wife lets you take pictures of her in these sexy poses. Again I say she is very hot!

My wife and I have progressed to the point where she lets me make comments about her getting fucked up the ass by another guy when we are fooling around because she knows it turns me on. Before if I even mentioned it it would completely freak her out. Now she lets me "roleplay" as the male porn star giving it to her hard in the ass. So there is some progress, but it's probably never going to happen in reality.
My wife's ass: http://www.cuckoldplace.com/13_28160_0.html
Want to to stick your cock in it?

Mr. Bungle ... in same boat as you. My wife and I have been having cuckold type fantasies for over a decade now (started with an expansion of some femdom scenes we were acting out - she started fantasizing she was fucking an old boyfriend in front of me as I was powerd to watch).

She fantasizes a lot but would never do it for real at this point. It's a huge fantasy for me - dominates my mind every day.


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There are some very interesting posts here, so let me add my experience. I started off enjoying the sight of a dildo or vibrator slipping inand out of my wife's pussy. It turned me on imagining it were another man's cock in her and when I told Debbie this, she liked the idea too. We'd pretend we were having a threesome and this other guy was fucking her first. I'd get to go second and she liked feeling naughty, fucking him with me there. I told her that if we ever had a threesome in real-life, it would definitely have to be with another man and she eagerly agreed that she'd be up for it. In the cold light of day though, she'd have none of it.

As I worked shifts, Debbie had her own social life. She played darts for a team in local pubs and clubs and felt comfortable visiting and takeing in my works' social club. She has always been comfortable in male company. I would often wonder if she ever got chatted up when she was out and would sometimes ask her in bed before we made love, though she rarely admitted to it unless she'd had quite a bit to take. Occasionally she would confess that some guy had tried it - sometimes it was a work-mate of mine - and I'm sure she noticed how aroused I got when she owned up.

One night I asked her far she'd go with another guy. She was quite tipsy and she said it depends. When I asked what it depended on, Debbie said, "it depends where I am". It transpired that she wouldn't do much in a pub or at our club, maybe a kiss or a grope, but if she was out late in a night club, and the right guy came along, she'd go further. "Would you fuck him?", I asked. "Yes", she replied, with no hesitation, adding, "if he had a condom." "And would you tell me?" "No way!", she said and laughed.

I was shocked, but excited too. I laughed too and called her a dirty bitch, but thinking about it, I thought, why shouldn't she have sex with some guy she met in a club and probably would never see again? I could live with that. I told her this, but Debbie was sceptical. I had been quite a jealous type of guy before (and even more so with my first wife), so why would I now let Debbie fuck another guy? Maybe I thought that she'd do it behind my back anyway, if she hadn't already, so sub-consciously decided to let her do it my way. I told her that it wasn't the thought of her having sex with someone else that would upset me - quite the opposite, it turned me on big time - but the lies and deceiving if she did it behind my back. She seemed to accept this and we talked about it a lot. We agreed some ground-rules, such as always using condoms and not fucking my friends or work-mates. The latter disappointed her alittle, so I think she had someone in mind! Debbie admitted that she rather liked the idea of having a younger guy, a "toyboy", about 24,25. She also explored possible problem scenarios, such as her fucking some guy, who then started work at my company. Unlikely, but I wouldn't know he'd had her, though I thought I'd like her to tell me.

It has taken me much longer to write this than I expected and I have a lot more to tell you, so I will leave it there and come back later when I have more time - sorry to leave you in suspense!
Peter C

Peter - nice. Looking forward to more.

Some further thoughts ...

For us, my wife doesn't take and has some very strong religious views on monogamy - but, she enjoys playing out the fantasy. Ultimately, however, this is her very short term libido talking and if it came down to the kind of premeditated planning to do this - she would actually find it offensive if I proposed it for real. I think she finds real safety in the bedroom; but outside of that, other than an occasional tease about another man, she is very much against the idea.

Debbie seemed to bloom with this new freedom I was giving her. She seemed more self-confident and have a bit of a spring in her step. She often wore short skirts anyway (she has great legs!), but now she added a Wonderbra to her underwear drawer, to boost her cleavage, which she seemed to show more now.

My wife became more open about other men she encountered. She'd tell me unprompted now if she'd been chatted up and comment on other guys she fancied to her sister or friends in front of me. I think this was a bit of a test to see if I got annoyed, but I reckoned that if I was looking at women, why shouldn't my wife look at men? There never seemed to be a particular type of guy she fancied, apart from them being young.

Debbie was working now in one of those 24 hour convienience stores, so she was working shifts now too, sometimes all night. She told me about this delivery lorry driver she fancied. They'd have a coffee and a chat together in the night and it seemed that he liked her too. His name was Dave, he was about 27 with long hair in a ponytail. Despite Debbie's wedding ring, Dave asked her out, but he lived some way away. He suggested taking her out on a Saturday in his town, her staying the night and him driving her home on the Sunday - no doubt having fucked her a couple of times in the meantime! She declined his offer, saying that she didn't think her husband would appreciate her staying over (oh yes I would!). They did however go to a couple of football matches together (we all support the same team), but the most Dave ever got was a kiss, a cuddle and a rub of her leg. Debbie actually arranged her shifts so that she worked the two nights that Dave would be in. She phone me too to say he'd been in and tease me about him. I'd be in bed wanking, thinking about them kissing and cuddling behing his truck.

One weekend Debbie was going out with some girl friends from the dart team and rushed in from work to change. She didn't have much time, but threw on a black outfit. Black short skirt with tassles, black see-thru blouse over a black bra, black panties and black high heels - no tights. She eventually got home around 1.30 am looking very pleased with herself and a bit takes. "I've been a naughty girl", she said when she came into the bedroom and saw I was awake. I was properly awake now and my cock showing signs of erecting. "Have you now, young lady? How naughty?", I replied, sitting up, as she undressed. "Very naughty", she admitted. She got on the bed and told me that after visiting a few pubs, they'd gone to a club. No sooner had they got in there, a black guy had made a bee-line for Debbie and bought her a take. As they chatted, he steered her away frm her friends and towards a more secluded part of the club. He kissed her and she kissed him back and soon they were kissing each other passionately, tongues in each others mouths. They had only known one another about 15 minutes! With her perched on a bar stool, this black guy (he was married too) had put his hand on Debbie's knee whilst they kissed. Meeting no resistance, he had slipped his hand under her skirt and massaged my wife's bare thigh. Unfortunately, before he could get any further, one of Debbie's friends collapsed in a heap nearby and it was down to her to help her home. Had that not happened then I'm sure my wife would have been fucked that night.

Then along came Chris. He was a regular customer in Debbie's shop and she started to look forward to him coming in. He flirted with her and she enjoyed his attention. He knew she was married, 34 and had kids, but he didn't care. He was 23, a bit cocky, but Debbie was very flattered that he fancied her. We started making plans as it seemed very likely that this would be the one. Sure enough, Chris asked Debbie out, but she told him she'd think about it! When he asked again, she accepted, knowing I was okay with it. On her 35th birthday, we went out for a meal and the next evening she was out with him. He took her for a couple of takes after work, then back to his flat. As soon as he got her indoors, he pounced. As they kissed, he undid the buttons of her uniform polo shirt and pulled it off over her head. Then he got her bra off and was quickly fondling and kissing Debbie's tits. Chris unbuttoned her trousers and pulled them down, and her knickers, for Debbie to step out off. She got onto his bed whilst he stripped and she enjoyed the sight of his young, toned body and his eager, stiff cock. He joined her on the bed. He fingered her pussy, sucked at her nipples and complimented her on her body, including her tattoos and pierced belly button. I had bought Debbie a pack of three condoms and soon Chris was rolling one on to fuck my wife. They fucked fast and furiously, soon both cumming. Whilst Chris made a coffee, Debbie rang me to let me know she was okay. She said she'd been "busy". She'd told Chris that I thought she was stock-taking, but I knew from that phrase that they'd already had sex. I was in the supermarket shopping at the time with the kids and it was very difficult to concentrate knowing some young guy was in bed with my wife.

Soon Chris was ready for more, but this time Debbie put on the condom and mounted him. This was a slower,more leisurely fuck and again they both climaxed together. Chris wasn't done yet though, and before Debbie had to leave to catch her train home, he fucked her again.

I met Debbie at the station and she looked like the cat that had got the cream. We had agreed not to discuss events until we got home, but she kissed me and whispered, "Well, he ain't as good as you!" In the car, Debbie received a text from Chris saying, "the next time we're alone I'm going to fuck your brains out". As soon as we got home, Debbie phoned him to thank him for a lovely evening. It felt weird listening to her on the phone to a man she'd just been fucking.

We got into bed and Debbie gave me a blow-by-blow account of the evening. She was reluctant to tell me that they'd fucked three times, but it slipped out. I was alittle taken aback by that, but should have realised that a young lad like that would be able to recover quickly and have more stamina than me at 41. The ideawas that Debbie would see Chris for sex once or twice a week, working around my shifts and hers. I also agreed that she could stay at his flat overnight maybe once a month.

All this seemed fine, but a day or two later I started feeled worried; insecure and inadequate. All sorts of feelings went through my head. What if he had a bigger cock than me? (he didn't), what if she prefers sex with him? what if he wants to fight me? what if Debbie leaves me for him? We had agreed that if either of us was unhappy with the situation, then it stopped there, so I asked Debbie not to see him again. Coupled to the fact that he hadn't been in touch, my wife felt a bit of a slag, dirty and used. I reassured her that I did think of her like that and loved just as much as I always have. I didn't regard her as having been unfaithful, as it had basically been my idea.

We had a few quiet, difficult days, but gradually we got back to normal and we both admitted that it was nice to make love to each other, rather than her have sex elsewhere. It felt comfortable. Chris did get in touch with Debbie in the hope of another session, but she turned him down. She vowed that she would never do it again, and she hasn't. I'd like her too, but she "won't go down that road again", she told me.

Hindsight is a wonderful thing, but looking back now, I don't regret letting Debbie find a young guy to fuck. We both wondered what it would be like - now we know. I wish I had let things ride though and kept a lid on my anxieties. I wish Debbie had had Chris a few more times, as a "bit on the side" instead of a "one night stand". Maybe then she could have moved on to other guys and I would now be a proper cuckold husband instead of a one-off. I would do it again and Debbie knows she is allowed, but she won't do it.
Peter C

Thanks again eriko...I see your situation as terrible at best, but hopefully reconcilable. I'm sure that people who live "the lifestlye" find yours to be the antithesis of what it's supposed to be about, despite some desire for humliation for some cuckolds.

MelSubHub. Thanks for sharing once again. You're last post hits it right on the head. My wife too has a religious background, and in the safety of the bedroom she's willing to play, especially in the heat of the moment. She does have a slight exhibitionist streak in her, but this should not be confused with a desire to relax with another guy, and it is only prevalent after the influence of a few takes. I have one or two tales involving some odd moments incongruous with her sober self.

Peter C - thanks for sharing your account of your own experiences and those of your wife. There is an subtle romance to it: she's tried it, but at the end of the day, prefers you. Sure, her boots may have been knocked from here to Alberquerque, but it just shows that fucking is only a small part of the equation.

As a willingly cuckolded man, I've followed this thread with interest. I know what many of you mean by only wanting the fantasy and since my marriage ended nearly ten years ago now, it could look on the surface as if the cuckold lifestyle contributed to it. I'd have to say it probably did and yet didn't. I have seen my ex-wife since our marriage ended but not regularly.

One of the things that strikes me most about the willing and successful cuckold, as it were, is what I so often see as being even almost part of the attraction of being cuckolded, is that his wife has to have given off various signs and signals that suggest she'd not reject the idea. Tell me, MrBungle, when you raised the idea with your wife in the first place, was it in a sort of semi-serious way, as if you knew she'd probably say no anyway? Would you have been surprised if she'd kind of welcomed the idea? Suppose she had said yes to it?

Perhaps one of the reamisters the fantasy is more attractive than reality is that in the real world the unfaithdul wife needs to justify her actions. If she is attracted to another man or just finds sex with someone else better she must hurt and humiliate her husband even if she doesn't reject him completely.