fquimby:
So what's the verdict, am I a cuckold?
Yes, sort of. Well, a wannabe, anyway. A cuckold fetishist is someone who gets aroused by the thought/act/fantasy of his wife having sex/relationship with another guy. The kink hinges on the sense of offense/alienation implicit in losing out in the mating competition. There are lots of permutations and embellishments, as you can imagine.
In your case:
- You get off thinking about her with someone else.
- Many of the specific acts you imagine have strong overtones of their own (anal, etc.) - overtones of her being "taken," or "submitting" to another male.
So, yes, you are indulging in a cuckold fetish. It seems mild (you would prefer to swing a bit yourself; you're only comfortable with the idea of her having certain ritualized sexual relations, not anything too vanilla, etc.) right now and may stay so. I wouldn't worry about it. You're like the guy who gets hot fantasizing that his girl will tie him to the bed, blindfold and tickle him a bit. Yes it's bondage, but it is a whole order of magnitude less than the guy who gets himself strapped and tied in exotic ways three times a week.
Your cuckold fetish need never amount to more than mild fantasy or bedroom play. Unless you want it to.
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