How do I do it?

I'm a 23 year old male with what I've been told by several past girlfriends and their friends is "too small" of a dick. And have currently been with my girlfriend age 20 for a little over 3 years now, we've basically a marriage as we've lived together almost since day 1.

Now like alot of guys on this site, my girlfriend has more of a slutty past than most, but UNLIKE most of the guys on this site, my problem/stories are true and I DO want advice on how to proceed.

I've always felt an inadequate lover and wished i had a massive length and great girthed cock- but i do not. Well my girlfriend is gorgeous, round 5"4, brown hair, beautiful pale skin, green PIERCING eyes, huge round thick ass, nice big 34 c (maybe 36 c) tits and is all around a thick girl. NOT fat mind you...just "thick".

During the beginning of our relationship she used to practically beg for sex repeatedly daily, and as time has passed we're lucky if we fuck once a month, generally because i'm not in the mood because i 1.) feel i don't please her enough and that the sounds she makes are light and possibly fake. and that 2.) i jerk most of my loads to porn on the internet 90% of which is watching big cocked black guys slamming young white innocent looking girls and turning them into complete cock whores for them, and i especially enjoy watching when the dick is so big and the guy thrusts so far in u see the physical pain in the girl.

In any event I used to constantly worry that my girlfriend would cheat on me, but with the way she speaks, I doubt as she could. (But then again maybe im just a dumb white cuck waiting to discover that.) But the past few times we've had sex i've used a nice dildo on her thats about my same thickness, but about 2-3 inches longer and has rubber studs all over it- well i've gotten extremely hot jerking my cock while i fuck her with this dildo and watch her writhe in ways i don't make her move, and listen to her breathing change as i hit spots i cannot hit with my cock as hard as i may try. i want to see her cum so fucking badly but when i feel like she's about to she always makes me stop and pulls me inside to fuck her. Now I could take this as she really wants me, or she's afraid she wants bigger cock and that'll make her realize how much she misses being a casual fuck kinda permister as she was before we got together.

Also over the past several months i've found myself continually thinking/wishing/dreaming about what it would be like to see my girlfriend slammed by a big cock- more specifically a big black cock; and wondering how she would sound and look then. My girlfriend is very naive in alot of ways, and in alot of ways she's not...but she has that "innocent" looking/sounding/acting factor to her that makes it irresistable. And i find myself get angry when I notice black guys in public staring at her and being like damn he aint doin it right...but at the same time im standing there thinking...wow it'd be so hot to watch them completely own and obliterate her little tight pussy. She has fucked a black guy in her past but says it was nothing to brag about, but i can't believe it. So every day i think of this and then last nite i dreamt of her being double stuffed by 2 huge dicked black guys and woke up hard as a fucking rock. Aside from ALL of this...i think she DESERVES bigger, better dick.

my question now is how do i even THINK of bringing this up to her? we've talked about swinging before but not seriously, and we both said we didnt want that. but i think this might be just what both of us are looking for. i don't know, it could ruin us...it very well might, but im so obsessed with it. and i need/want to know how u guys have successfully talked ur girlfriend/wife into letting another man or even men fuck ur wife, while u watch and jerk off?

PLEASE, if u've read this much...please respond with some help. i will check back later this morning for advice.

Repeated from the answer to you post on another thread:

Been there (Started there.)

The safest way to bring it up is not to propose it directly at first. Instead, have an intimate romantic time and lead the conversations to sexual fantasies. Then share with her that this fantasy makes you hot and see where it goes. Alterantely, you might consider renting a porno video (if you two do that kind of thing) as part of getting "in the mood" that has a conversation opener in it (say a "wild wives" theme or an interracial scene).

Approach the entire subject first as just a "you know what is really hot" kind of thing - don't move to "let's do it in real life" yet. See how she responds. If she finds it hot, you can start bringing it up again over the next several weeks and move it towards "maybe we should try it." If she isn't into it, but doesn't mind, you can do the same, just move slower, stopping at "maybe someday," before "let's try it."

Another thought: Do you have any interest in chasitity play? I only ask because I think if you stopped beating off so much by yourself, you would be more turned on and motivated with her. Despite a lot of the posts you see on this site, the real truth is that woman are more willing to experiment sexually when there sexual part of the relationship is working well and they are more open to the ide of outside lovers (swinger, cuckolding, threesomes, etc.) when they feel like the primary relationship is secure, intimate, and healthy. If you too warm it up again, you have a better chance of moving her along. (Also, I advise you stop posting her pictures without her permission. She may not like it if she finds out.)

Good luck.
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