Need some advice...

Ok, I think I have a problem�

I am very turned on by the thought of my wife cuckolding me. In fact we have turned this fantasy into reality a number of times. The latest of these adventures ended in a bit of disaster. It had us splitting up and her moving in with her lover. That was until she found out he was absolutely crazy and that she had fallen victim to his own fantasy which was to not just have sex with married women but to literally steal them away. Once she realized this was his real motive and not that he was actually in love with her she was repulsed an left him after only 3 months. It created a lot of drama for her, and for me.

As one might expect with that kind of bad taste in they�re mouth she is now completely turned off by the idea. In actuality I was also turned off by it. It freaked me out that she fell for this guy, and it went beyond the fantasy that we had started out with. However, this happened over a year ago and we have been in marriage counseling and the whole bit. In fact everything in our marriage is like 100 times better than it ever has been. We are closer emotionally and spiritually we are sharing more of ourselves than we had in the years leading up to this event.

However, the one thing that hasn�t changed is sex. One, I still can�t get her off through intercourse like her past lovers could, and though I�m passionate in bed, I�m still about half the size of any of her past flings. Two, she gets bitchy when I can�t make her cum which is often, so much of our sex consists of me licking her pussy for 30 minutes and then I get to fuck her for like 3 minutes and that�s it. And three, well my cuckold desires that I thought had been crushed have resurfaced full power. Perhaps partly because she is flirtatious just like she was before other men, and also because sex is still such a major issue here.

Whatever the reamister, it seems like this is my lot, that this is a real part of my sexuality and the fact that I know the reality of living this fantasy this seems to only make this desire all the more potent. Unfortunately, I�m not allowed to talk about it or fantasize about it. I have asked her to fantasize with me by relating past events, or make up stories and while she seems to totally get into at the time. Afterwards she is so mad at me she tries to give me the cold shoulder.

I�m really uncertain about what to do. Should I just shut the fuck up and fantasize in quiet? Should I just be patient, all things change? Should, I mention it every once and a while? I mean I would really like to share a fantasy that has been very incredible for us over the years, but share it with our renewed passion for each other. But it seems all the things that led up to this doesn�t seem to phase her. She doesn�t like porn anymore, she use to love it and tell me how she wishes she was one of those girls, she doesn�t like dildos as much because if we use it too much she can barely feel me fucking her and that was a big issue that led to us living out this fantasy.

Stories just bore her, and even women friends who live this lifestyle don�t seem to sway her. Again the only thing that seems to give me mixed signals here is, that when she does recall past adventures I see how her eyes light up, the other day I did show her and old picture of her fucking a boyfriend and she wanted to jump me right afterwards. And when I use that dildo on her she has those mind shattering orgasms like she used too. Also sometimes she still likes to make jokes about my little dick, and how she needs something else, but that is only to get me hot.


Ah, this sucks!

Any experience, advice?

Ha! I guess the issue has resolved itself! She finally has come out and said that she has been wanting better sex for a while. According to her she has been reluctant to say anything because she wants to be in total control of the situation and I guess she feels I tried to control who she slept with and how much. I don't think I did, but anyway. She informed me that she has already been seeing someone for about 2 weeks without me knowing, but was afraid to say anything cause of the control thing. Anyway, I promised to stay out of it and let her have her way and she is pretty happy to say the least and well, so am I!

So my wife is back!

i think the better place for this topic at Cuckold World

Thanks for moving it.

You should have dumped her when she ran off with the guy in the first place.

Case closed. End of advice.

Tell her to take a hike, be a man and have some respect for yourself.

Marriage counseling, forgiveness? HUH? She ran off with another man, guy.

What the hell are you thinking by staying with her? Are you a doormat?

GEEZE.

Dump her and find a woman who cares about you. Life is too short to stay with a woman who thought so little of you that she ran off with someone else. Don't waste your time with some 'marriage counseling' fag bullcuckolds brownie.