what should I do?

WOW!!! Blazingsun, that's what I'm talking about!!! It was going too far and you did something about it. I was trying to convey to Martin not to lose his wife over a fantasy and to make the distinction between this and reality. You did just that and not only saved your marriage but made it enormously better. YOU are in control now and it's not going to get out of control because you obviously know that it's just a game - a fun game yes, but still just a game; and your spouse is for keeps. When you pushed her away from you it made her crave you; it showed her your manhood. It's not about having a huge dick; it's all in the mind. Nobody knows your wife like you do; you can read her like a book. You can do things with and to her that nobody else can. It's a connection and an advantage that nobody else has. I applaud you my friend. Thanks for sharing your story!!

thanks for that. I really could never leave Julia I love her too much no matter what she does and she knows that. At the moment I feel so sorry for her cos she seems quite depressed over the break up wtih Danny. Not sure how to cheer her up.The work position with people teasing her is not helping

...at least try to make the best of your current situation, since you have allready made up your mind about staying with her...

Maybe you should both try to set up some rules to make things easier

...just a suggestion

Martin,

As a lurker and voyeur, I depend on stories like yours to get off. The genuineness of your situation and your willingness to give your tale emotional colour makes it far more exciting than usual fantasy stuff, or the people who have "life-styled" their situation. Please keep the details coming! Pictures would be welcome as well.

But, as human being, I feel a little guilty about feasting on your misery. Frankly, unless you are able to "life-style" your situation, I don't get what is in it for you. You sound miserable. Your wife is treating you like crap, and with unbelievable disrespect, and your willingness to tolerate it speaks to serious self-esteem problems which I'd advise you to deal with rather than indulge. I afraid I have to side with the people who are telling you to dump the bitch.

Its a painful thing to do, and it will no doubt be very hard on you. But from what you describe, I don't see much of a future with her (I predict she will eventually leave you). I would say that the difference between what I would consider a healthy cuckold relationship and your situation is that in the former the wife still takes some level of interest in the husband's need for intimacy. It usually does not take the usual form of intercourse (supervised masturbation, sexual offense, *** etc.) but it is still sexual intimacy.

Your wife, on the other hand, appears to be disregarding your needs. Unless you can, as Scorpio suggests, set up some rules to make the situation mutually beneficial (a good suggestion), I'd get a lawyer.

Hi Martin,

Even I love my wife dearly and would prefer to die than to leave her and I feel everything I have done or would be for her (and my wife seconds me on that). I enjoy feasting on fantasies every once in a while like Woody. .
I know how you feel, even I cannot see my wife being sad or depressed. But at the same time its just know the difference between a game and when a permister starts a downward journey. It was like her core is changing and that too is not becoming a better permister. Everything what she stood for and for what I fell in love for her love can caring, her ability to help others ...everything was becoming void and all I could see was a hollow sexual permister in her.
In fact I did not like threating her, but I wanted her to realize things and I can say I was lucky to be able to do that. Every moment I was harsh to her would hurt me, but I think I was more like a parent teaching the young a lesmister. I would reamister it out when I was harsh or punish her. Now after things are and even when she asks to do anything or go anywhere she I hate the existence of that thought that 'I trust her.' I felt sorry for her mistakes but I felt that she is a part of me so if she was loosing her way I would have to bring her back.

But again Martin I feel at this point you have two ways either go with all the changes without complaining throughout the life OR just make her realize what are the changes and where you guys are loosing values. Where ever it goes you are equally responsible ( I would say majorly given her condition that she just had her breakup and would be thinking wth lust than with senses) as a spouse or a soulmate.

hi folks - thought I would give you an update.

well I am pleased to say that Julia and I have just re-started ou sex life. Last week she let me have sex with her for the first time in over 4 months. It was fantastic - she is just so sexy.

Danny is well and truly history now.

Matin that is great that you are a true cuckold. I'm really happy for you. My wife Elizabeth fucked a guy the first day she met him when she was on vacation in Germany. She was my girlfriend at the time so I may not be a true cuckold.

I believe in the power of the internet and the law of attraction. If you (and hopefully everyone else) would help me out by saying or thinking "Miles you ARE a cuckold", I know she will soon spread her legs for another man and make me a true cuckold.
miles

That's awesome Martin!! I'm so happy that it worked out for you.

there is one further issue tho.A guy she works with is showing lots of interest. He knew what happened beforeand I think he fancies his chances. He has asked her out a few times. She has always said no to him.

Here we go again !!!

Keep us allways up to date Martin. Theres really no reamister for all those loooong breaks.
I have by now become completely addicted to your story and can hardly wait to hear something new.

Just take a few minutes to post at least once a day please.
And dont forget the details (we still havnt seen a pic of her or of her body)

Everyone here is eagerly waiting for constant updates

sorry - I am never sure whether people are interested or not.

Julia is so much hapier these days - she seems to have got over Danny at last. I am also happy because we are making love again. She is such a sexy woman and I know I am lucky to have her.

With regard to the guy at work the cuck side of me would love something to happen again but I don't want what happened with Danny that is her stopping sex with me

I don't know about the other guys but I subscribed to this particular post because I AM very interested in how it goes for you Martin. I wish you the best and just hope you don't lose control again. It's just my opinion but I think she would admire you greatly if you *demanded* to retain control of the situation.

did you try to have a claer talk with her and set up some rules as some readers have suggested here before?
Maybe you can work out a compromised agreement where you could still be able to have sex with her. One of the countless possible scenarios could be that you have sex with her at least once a week (with you using protection, as you did before). Just make sure it never becomes a complete denial again.

she's saying that she would not go out with him.She does not want things to get like last time with Danny.She knows that I get turned oby her being with someone else but she says that she could only be in a sexual relationship with one guy at a time. She does not want to put me through that again

It's just my opinion but I think she doesn't understand the difference between "just sex" and the emotional attachment that a woman feels when having sex. Men understand it clearly but most women don't. That may be the whole problem.

I've persuaded her to go out with him tonight after work.She has promised that she won't have sex with him but admitted that it would be nice to have a boyfriend again

Martin - just read the entire post.....some points;

- yes - you love her
- yes - she will fuck other guys now since Danny has introduced her to new options, and has shown that she can have a great fuck from men other than you
- you need groundrules - she needs to know that there are limits and that push comes to shove you will protect yourself

All that said - if you can stand not fucking her and dont mind seeing and hearing her being fucked - go for it....

she still out with him - haven't heard anything from her all evening

she still out with him - haven't heard anything from her all evening

face it Martin - he is fucking her and she is loving ever pussy thumping second of it....once this guy is done with her she is going to be passed around the office and fucked by every guy with a pair of balls.....

I'm waiting with you. My girlfriend Sophie is also out tonight. She hasn't cheated on me for nearly a year. She told me she really wants to fuck someone else tonight, and has gone out with her girlfriends. She is wearing stockings,suspenders and knickers i have never seen before. I expect her to come back in the morning fucked and happy like your wife. Have a good night.

well you're right she did it. arrived back at about 2:30 in the morning. admitted that she had been back to his place and they fucked. he wore a condom.

say she will still fuck with me butwas too tired last night when she got home. shedoes not believe that this boyfriend will last long tho she enjoyed last night

so did you offer to clean her up?

Hey Martin, please post a set of contact details so we can meet up with her....she sounds like shes up for any cock that comes her way....

Permisterally, if you're turned on by this, as most of us are, I'd be wanting her to have sex with other men. In terms of being frightened that she'd leave you, I reckon there's a stronger chance of that happening if a wife has just the one lover all the time. With having other men, obviously where the sex is better than what you are providing, it kind of remains just the desire for great and exciting sex that is the motive. You've also got time on your side - I wish my ex-wife hadn't made me wait 18 years before making me a cuckold.

alright,

I was slightly interested in this cuckhold thing, please read WAS. I read your story and I could never allow such a disrespect to myself. I understand that if you lay down some ground rules it is possible for both partners to enjoy it but the chances of what happened to Martin are way to high for me to consider it.

In my opinion your wife is much less honest than you think, she may have been honest at one point but after this whole disaster I think most of that honesty is gone. I think she has just become someone that craves cock, and is willing to disrespect you and crush your morale (not the word im looking for but its close enough) to get it.

First off, this was bad from the beginning. It was handled completely the wrong way and should have been stopped before it progressed too far. For your sake, I hope that everything works out with the new guy. It would be a shame to see you in so much misery again. Since you seem set on having your wife fuck other guys i agree with others in saying you HAVE to set rules. You may like being cucked but that doesn't mean you should just let your wife do whatever she wants. You have to take charge of the situation, you can still enjoy your cucking but do not let it get out of hand. It was obvious from the beginning where your wife relationship was going with the guy. For how bad this messed up i would suggest never trying it again. But I don't think you are willing to do that, so I say go for the ground rules idea.

I know its been awhile since this thread has been posted in but i read the whole thing and it compelled me to join, if only to post in this one thread. I thank you for the story Martin and I hope everything works out well for you. As for me however, you have shown me that i never want to try, consider, or even think of this. Your world just isn't made for me.

I hope the "badmouthing" of your wife at the beginning didn't put you off to the rest of my post, and I hope you take the advice of the people who are concerned about you.

Hello Martin, how are you?
Why don't you give us an update of your situation? I'm sure many people are looking forward to hearing from you.

i actually read all this crap..lol.Martin u the king of cuckolds! Next time draw up your plan and set your groud rules.
Good luck, i hope u enjoy your experiences!

Martin,

I know cuckolding is a strong sexual fantasy. As reading material. I am first class expert in this. But I have been weighing this thing out and thinking this thing out, and your story has made me realize something that I sort of already knew. Men and women are designed to be monogamous beings. I was raised in Christian roots so its easy for me to refresh my memory about what I have learned from Christendom. But it blows my mind and actually kind of scares me when I try to break away from Christianity, through sexual fantasy and behavior, and I actually find a testimony like yours, that points to basic biblical principles. It's like the Lord will not be mocked. It's not faith it's science. People are designed to live monogamously because its best for them. The bible just codifies what the real word attests too. We all have a sin nature and beastly desires which we can revel in and relish. But you got to be fucking kidding me when here you are living the fantasy, when its out of control and painful. You can have sex with your wife again and she got past Danny... congratulations?

MEN ARE SUPPOSED TO PROTECT YOUR WOMEN, not let them get turned into a whore and a beastly natural by their own carnal desires. That asshole Danny was on a power trip. Plain and simple. I am a switch. I enjoy both pleasure of being in charge and not being in charge with a woman. So I get what it is to have a power-rush by degrading a woman from her husband as your slave, like Danny did. That's pleasure in itself.

I don't understand why you don't go down on your wife......???? You must really not care about her. I just read your blog and you still have not mentioned once her having an orgasm with you.

It seems to me that you are selfish. And that you care more about your sexual desires than hers. Because you could be, well I don't know about any more, because you haven't updated your blog in a while. But you maybe now and sure as hell could have for the first 20 years of your marriage given her an orgasm. That seems selfish. And now it seems selfish that your cuckold wanna be desires took over your judgement in letting her go through with Danny banging your wife with your consent. And then once you were no-longer a wanna be, you enjoyed being a cuckold so much that you nearly lost your wife. Doubtless if Danny came back with open arms, your wife would greet him with open legs.

I guess you get what you desire, in the end. You'll get to be a cuckold XD WOOOHOOOO!!! at the expense of losing your wife nearly all together... have a bright future. Start thinking with your brain and not your dick.