what should I do?

Tom

I think she was not going to tell me the full story to start with -- that's why she just said that she had been a bit naughty, but I made it clear that I would forgive her anyway no matter what had happened. Yes I am a little sad that she lied but even that turns me on too - having a wife that really likes sex and is prepared to do anything to get it. I admit I am probably not a "real man" type of man, otherwise I would not like her to fuck with a guy who obviously gives her more pleasure sexually. You'll probably think I am mad but I love her and would prefer her to get an orgasm with him than no orgasm at all.

Terenceandann

Thanks for the advice - I suspect you are right.

xschiava

I am about 5 and a half inches long, but fairly thin. Apparently Danny is about 8 inches and much wider. She says the width is the important thing.

Martin! You are in a situtaion where you decide the procedure - what will happen next. your situtaion reminds me of an incident I had with my girlfriend two years ago. We where in Copenhagen - Denmark and met this huge British black guy there. They started talking and hit it off right away. We invited the guy to our room and they had some wild sex while I watched the whole thing - very erotic. Later he came on a (business/fuck) trip to our beloved country and contacted us. We met again and after three hours of talking in a bar and restaurant they wanted to repeat the game. I relly wanted it to happen but decided to take control and said no - you are not allowed to fuck him. She got upset and all that but after that incident I have 100% control over the game. The game is decided in our heads not by the size of our dicks Babbionz and Martin I have enjoyed reading your wise comments and would like to switch emails or msn adresses for further chat.
Bredgar

I have read this thread with great interest, but not replied up to now. Basicly, your wife has the upper hand now. You know damn well that every time she goes up to Scotland, she is going to fuck this Danny. The good thing from your point-of-view is that he is up in Scotland, so whilst she is here, you get to fuck her instead.

The problems may come if he decides to come down to visit her of if perhaps Julia decides to try out more lovers closer to home.
Peter C

You should be proud of her. If she did it once you can be sure that she'll do it again and again and again. You should talk to her about it or she just start doing this behind your back.
Im 5 inch too and even when my fiance told me that's im enough for her I know how she react to 9 inch black dildo. We all know that bigger is better even if she tells you diffrent.

Martin,

I understand your feelings about being happy but also sad. In many ways, this is the essence of the cuckold experience - a kind of exhilaration and titillation in emotional pain.

I have to take issue with the way some of the other posters are framing this for you. What is all this stuff about �the upper hand� and �holding control�? The only real control anyone should have over a spouse is the spouse�s desire to be with you. If you spouse stays because of some power you have (social convention, fear of violence, economic dependence, a feeling of duty, or reciprocal obligation) rather than a truly voluntary desire, your marriage is (to be diplomatic) less than ideal.

I think you have been handling this right. You are being honest about how you feel and what you want. You are also being a grown-up about her own doubts and fears. People here seem to be getting a bit silly about her �lying.� I think her conflicted behaviour reflects her commitment to you, not some desire to deceive you. She clearly wants to have sex with Danny and packed the clothes out of a kind of hope, despite her telling herself it wasn�t going to happen. She has been honest with you at each step and has repeatedly given you the power to decide if she continues (talk about who has the �upper hand). It seems to me very clear that her primary concern is to protect her relationship with you and that she would give him up if that is what it took. But she doesn�t want to give him up. She is hoping she can have her cake and eat it too.

All these folks who are like �she�s lying to you, man,� remind me of the women who say, �if my man ever cheated, that would be it, he would be out on his ear!� Any marriage that would be thrown away so casually because of a moment of weakness is a sham to start in my book. If it makes you hot to believe you have handed her all the power, than by all means believe that. But as long as she wants to be with you, you still have power over her � in fact the only real power you ever had.

On this site, we all get worked up by our imaginations and some folks get really extreme. Some have even gotten more extreme in their real lives. But no matter what people say, they are at this site by choice and they decided to make their situation more or less extreme and they could stop it pretty much anytime. If it makes you hot to have her take outside lovers, there is no reamister that it need for it to go any further than that unless you want it.
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Thanks everyone for your comments.

She hads told me that she would definitelty never see him again if I insisted and that her relationship with me is more important than anything else. I do think she she really does feel that way. However, she admits that she likes Danny too and particularly the sex. For the moment she would like to have her cake and eat it as it were, provided I am content with that. I think I am for two reamisters. 1. I love her and want her to be happy 2. I find it exciting for her to have a lover (although also slightly worrying).

She speaks with him regularly on the phone now and he desperately wants to see her again. He has even offered to come down to London. He knows now that I know about it all. Not sure how I feel about him coming down here tho. Would I really want to meet him/allow him to have sex with her in our home? Would be a massive step.

Think twice about it. It's a definitive step.
Chiama quando vuoi...

Good thread Martin,
My husband and I have been living a "cuckold" lifestyle for years. Initially my Hubby (who initiated the whole thing) Had to coax me into having sex with one of his workmates. (After the first night I didn't have to be coaxed again)
My husband was a bit worried about my boyfriend and I having sex away from our home. He felt secure and safe in the arrangement as long as it was on our homeground and under our roof. He was reticent to let me "play away" from home at first, he allows me to go away for weekends now.
Your situation seems reversed. I don't think your wife has been misleading you, sometimes a woman being very careful of her husband's feelings may conceal or delay information until a more opportune time.
You should reassure her continually of you love and concern for her, it's been a big step for her too, emotionally as well as physically.
have fun. M.T.

Don't you really want to see her kissing him, then intimatly pulling him on top of her, grasping his large erect cock by her hand, and guiding it into her? That's what you really want to see. Invite him to visit!
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Not ready for that step Berlik. Don't know why the thought of them doing it in our home concerns me

I would be the same. I would not want my wife to have sex with someone else in our home. At his place or in a hotel, fine. I suppose if was the only chance the guy had to fuck my wife, I would agree to them using our bed, but I'd sooner she played away.

That said, Debbie once said to me that if I was to come home from work one day and catch her having sex with some guy, I would make no attempt to stop her and she's right, but she knows that if she wanted me to keep out of the way, she would only have to ask.
Peter C

Further developments over the weekend.

I have now spoken to Danny on the phone. He and my wife speak regularly now on the phone. He is desperate to see her again (she is keen too). He says that he would like to come down to London as it is unfair on her to have to go tere everytime. He says he would stay in a hotel.

hello Martin365,
did your wife let her lover cum inside her without condom when she made love with him ? Did she tell you that? because it's seems to be for a woman more than sex when she start to let a man ejaculate his sperm inside her, i mean,most of the time womens needs to be emotionaly involved to let it happened. what could be your reaction if she tell you that she let him fullfilled her pussy?

Yes she did let him cum inside her and he did not wear a condom. She is on the pill so pregnancy is not an issu, thankfully.

By the way it looks as if he is coming down at the weekendand will be staying nearby in a hotel.

Martin365
I can't understand if you like/want your wife been fucked by another guy or not.
Things went faster than you expected, isn't it?
After a couple of meetings he's ready to come to London to fuck her again.
And he will.

Anyway I would not allow someone to fuck my wife in my bed. An hotel room is the perfect solution.

Keep us informated.
Chiama quando vuoi...

babbionz

Sometimes I am not sure myself. It does turn me on I have to admit but there is always that concern that she might leave me - after all there is no doubt that the sex is better with him.

She said to me at the weekend that she likes having sex with me, because she loves me. She likes sex with him because it feels so good. I asked how good and she said amazingly good, better than anything else in the world.

I am not like some other cuckolds on here that would want him to totally take over or for her to stop having sex with me. She says that could never happen, and that she would give him up if wanted her to. When we have sex I try really hard to give her an orgasm like he gives her but it hasn't happened yet.

The weekend might be difficult. Not sure how I would respond to seeing them together. Might feel very jealous if she spends all the time with him. Surprisingly she says that he feels jealous of me. This is because I get to be with her so much more of the time. Apparently he said to her on the phone yesterday that she should not have sex with me or only do itif I wear a condom.

this situation start to be dangerous... he have to respect your relationship with your wife, is coming inside your relationship a few weeks ago and start to play the boss, with ideas of possessivity...strange guy anyway, i hope you will let him know who is the boss, some guy needs to be kicked, and that your wife is more intelligent than his stupid reaction...games ok, jalousy, that's unbelievable. I hope for you she will not worship him and leave you for him, it can really happened if you let this situation go further..

So what's happened?
Chiama quando vuoi...

did she met her lover this week end ? do you have news to share ??

Good grief Martin,don't just leave it there lad.Get back to us!!!

Good grief Martin,don't just leave it there lad.Get back to us!!!

hi - sorry been busy and unable to get online for a few days.

No it didn't happen last weekend - wife was actually unwell (not seriously) but it is all on again for this weekend. They're still speaking daily on the phone and she is very excited about the weekend. We had a bit of a row earlier in the week cos she is insisting on his insistence that I wear a condom now when we have sex. I have agreed for this week only.

Hi martin,

Fascinating thread showing the conflicting emotions involved in sharing your wife.

Waiting to hear the result of the weekend. It sounds like a highly erotic experience but potentially a rollercoaster ride emotionally.

Good luck to you

He's arriving tomorrow. Don't think I am going to see much of her this weekend.

I bet you do. She's moved the rules a bit with the 'wear a condom' thing. Before she was saying she'd stop if that's what you wanted now the thing that will stop is you having sex with her. And I'll bet she says tomorrow that it'd be a better idea if he stayed at your place.
Then you'll get to hear her make noises you can't get from her. I hope you have a detached house otherwise the neighbors will hear her through the walls!
You meanwhile will be in the spare bedroom jacking off listening to them.
Lucky boy.

its gonna be great`she will do this for sure

she gave me her wedding and engagement rings this morning. Said she will have them back when he is gone but for this weekend she is not married. Going to meet him at the airport soon.

how do you feel? When is he going back? Is she coming home only when he's gone?

watoo1 was right. He is staying in our place this weekend.

They have just gone out for the evening. Most of the rest of the time they have spent in the bedroom. I am relaxing in the living room as we only have one bedroom. It is clear that ether has been an amazing amount of fucking going on.

I went with her to the airport to pick him up. When he arrived they immediately went into a long snog. Then the the thing that shocked me most was that she said right in front of me to him that she loved him. Got the tube back to our place and they cuddled and kissed all the way. They stopped off at a restaurant - I went home. They returned fairly soon and went straight to the bedroom where they stayed for the night. From the sounds of it there was some major fucking taking place. I wanked off a few times. Never thought I could alow her to do this but it was even sexier than I thought it could ever be. Have to admiot given the choice of fucking her or her fucking her boyfriend I would go for the letter. Am I mad?

This morning I spoke to her on our own. She said she really loves me and is so grateful I allow her to do all this with Danny. She does love him but says that she would never leave me for him.

Not sure where they have gone now but for sure there will be more fucking taking place later

Some things in life are worth the risk.

It's pretty clear, Martin, that you and your wife are enjoying yourselves immensely. She has made a promise to stay with you - if she lied, you had lost her already, and might as well enjoy yourself while it lasts in the mean time. If she's a liar, she wasn't worth your time anyway. If she stays true to that promise, however, you can both have your cake and eat it too. Either way, it sounds like you should sit back and enjoy the ride as much as you can .