what should I do?

I need some genuine advice.

I have been married for just over 3 years. My wife is 27 and I am 28. We have a realy good relationship. She is pretty with long dark hair and a good figure. I have always found her very sexy and we have a good sex lfe. She had only been with one man before she met me.

Recently my wife went to stay with her sister who lives in Scotland for a few days. We live in London. Her sister had recently split up with a guy she had been with for quite a while and needed cheering up. About a week after coming back from Scotland my wife burst into tears one night. I asked her what was wrong and she told me the following.

One night she an her sister had gone out to a pub and then a club. They had both had quite a lot to take in the puib and were a bit takes when they got into the club. They then got chatting with a couple of guys who were very friendly. There was a lot of flirting and they danced with the guys.

My wife's sister was getting along very well with one of the guys and she invited them both back to her flat. They had a bit more to take at the flat and the sister and her guy started to get very friendly. After a while they went into her bedroom leaving my wife and the other guy in the living room. They carried on chatting and waited for the sister and the other guy to come back out. Time went on and it became increasingly clear that the sister and her guy were staying in her room for the night - clearly having fun from the sounds coming from the room.

The guy with my wife explained that he was supposed to be staying with his mate so he had no where to relax. My wife was due to relax on the sofa bed in the living room anyway. Her aske her if hecould relax there too and promised that he would not try anything on with her. My wife had made it clear that she was married and would not do anything. As he had been so nice all evening and she had enjoyed his company she agreed that he could relax with her in the sofa bed, but she stressed that nothing would happen.

Tired and takes she undressed down to her underwear and got into the bed. He followed suit and layed down beside her. They carried on chatting. She said he was funny and they were having plenty of laughs. There was quite alot of messing about going on including a sort of pillow fight. During this they starting bumping into each other and eventually they fell into a cuddle. This progressed to a snog. During this she could clearly feel his erect cock against her.

My wife said that at that stage she told him to stop which he did. She said he looked so disappointed and she sort of felt sorry for him. She apologised for leading him on and then stopping. He said it was OK and asked if he could just have one more kiss to say goodnight and then they could go to relax. She agreed to this, but the kiss turned out to be more than a goodnight one. They snogged for ages and that led to them having full sex. She admitted to me that the sex was great. He had a large cock, bigger than either of the ones she'd had before. During the night they had sex three times.

In the morning she felt terribly guilty. Both guys left and the sisters both discussed what they had done.

My wife's sister has actually continued seeing her guy. Recently the other guy has started saying that he wants to speak to my wife. The sister will not give him her number but has agreed to pass on his number to her. He says he just needs to speak to her but appreciates that she is married so he is not looking for a relationship.

I was shocked when I first heard about what had happened, but i have to admit it also turned me on a bit. I had fantasised for some time about my wife being with another guy, although I had never told her. I have not even told her now, as since I find it exciting it also worries me a bit in case she goes off with the other guy. I have told her I forgive her and she was really grateful. She promised she would never be unfaithful again.

My wife has asked me wheter she should phone the guy. She thinks that she shouldn't in case he want to continue things with her. However, I know that she is curoiious to know what he has to say. I am also torn by this as I find the idea of her having sex with her really exciting but I would definitely not want to lose her.

Tell me what I should do.

I wonder about you wondering. I mean this seams perfect. She loves you enough to need a clean slate and tell you. She's horny enough to do something about it. I don't think you'll lose her.

You need to tell her you are OK being a cuckold as long as it doesn't lead to a total loss of relationship.

Mine doesn't want to cuck me full on, ( other than mmf threesomes ), because she can't gaurantee she will stay in the relationship. I think yours would but only she can tell you that.
Vancouver BC, Canada

THanks for that Dick Diva

We have discussed this more and more and I have finally persuaded her to call him which she will do tonight or over the weekend. She still insists though that nothing will happen between them again.

Oh yes it will!!!!

I second smudger
Chiama quando vuoi...

Well things have progressed considerably over the weekend.

Friday evening my wife said she was going to phone him. She said she was just going to phone him very quickly and tell him that she did not want to see him again no matter what. She didn't want me to listwen in and went to our bedroom to make the call. As it happened she was on the phone for early 2 hours, although she told him at the end that she was nt going to see him again.

Saturday morning wife's sister phoned. Her new boyfriend and his mate (the one who had been with my wife) had been trying to persuade her to get my wife to go up to Scotland.

My wife phoned the guy again in the afternoon and again they were speaking for ages - I culd hear lots of laughing. Afetrwards she told me all about the conversation. He desperately wanted her to go up there again. He accepts that she is married but really wants to see her again. He says even if sex is not possible he would love to see her again just to chat.

In the eveing my wife and I had great sex. Afterwards I was totally honest about my feelings. I told her that I would not mind her seeing him again and possibly doing more as long as this would not mean that she would leave me for him. She seemed shocked and said that she had absolutely decided thatshe wouldnver be unfaithful again.

Sunday we discussed more and my wife said that she had been surprised by what I had said the night before, but also that it showed that I really must love her. She promised that she would never leave me. I stressed that I really would not mind her seeing him again.

Sunday evening she admitted to me that she would like to see him again, though she insists that she would not have sex with him again. She has decided that she will always be faithful - she says she will never have sex with anyone else.

Latelast night she phoned him again and told him thatshe will be going upto Scotland again sometime soon. I was there when she told him. She said in no uncertain terms that sex was outof the question.

Martin365

great experience!

Keep us informated.
She's very loyal with you but I bet she will have sex again with him.


Chiama quando vuoi...

She has just bought her ticket to go up there the weekend after next - we'd already arranged for friends to come down this weekend.

She's still adamant that nothing will happen when she goes up there - says she going really to see sister. She does admit that she will see him but just as a friend.

It's great you telling her you are OK with her seeing him but have you told her it turns you on to know she is receiving great sex? It does turn you on right?

In some way she needs to know it is affecting you in a possitive way and that you too will never leave her because of her infidelities.
Vancouver BC, Canada

Yeah Dick Diva I have told her that the idea of her having sex with him again turns me on. She still tells me tho that she is not going to.

She's going up this Friday - has her ticket. Both of us are excited, although I have to admit to being a little nervous about it too.

I'll keep you informed.

I am becomning a little worried now about whether I have been doing the right thing. Yes it turns me on to think about her with him but can't help feeling nervous/concerned that she leave me for him.

She bought loads of new clothes yesterday to take up with her - a really pretty dress and skirts and tops. Also some sexy underwear.

Guys am I doing the right thing here? I can't possibly object to her going now having agreed so readily before and even told her I wanted her to have sex with him again.

Well I think you should try to relax.

You have given her your blessing to have sex with another man. I think after a few takes your fantasy will become reality.

And if not you have a faithful wife so you can't lose.

Keep us informed

dkei, thanks for the advice. I did speak with her about my worries. She assures me though again and again that she will not do anything with him, that really she is going to see her sister. She admits that it will be fun to see him again but she has no romantic (or sexual) feelings for him.

Well although everyone is leading you on I must say I'm not so sure. First, I believe the first night was "standard procedure" for getting into her pants. Second, I beleive that there are fair chances that he will score again when she goes up (subconsciously she's ready for him). Third, when she gets fucked again, she will be carried away, since she will realise she can't control it. What may save you is distance, since she will not easily go back and forth - but if he comes to your area you will have lost control too. Even if she is with you, her mind will be with him; even ifshe fucks you, she will be thinking of him. COnclusion: watch your step!

This is a very hot discussion, although I can understand Martin's fears that stand in stark comparimister to the eroticism. Martin, if you went along on this trip, perhaps that would help with your apprehension. She could return to your arms more quickly after seeing her boyfriend. From a cuck wannabe perspective, your situation is potentially a great one. It's not easy to get one's wife into these situations and you've achieved it!

Well she is off this afternoon by plane to Scotland for the weekend.

She spoke with him on the phone for quite a while last night. We made love afterwards and she promised me that she loves me, and insists that she will be faithful this weekend. In many ways I believe her - she really is an honest permister. She admitted to me what happened before, she could have got away with it without me ever knowing.

However, I do feel that her behaviour does not quite match her words. She is taking all the new clothes with her, including sexy underwear which she brought earlier this week. She hasn't worn any of it with me this week but I saw it all go into her bag for the weekend. This morning she put on the sexiest red semi seethrough bra and thong. Have to admit I wanted to fuck her there and then but unfortunately not enough time.

I have a real mix of emotions. It such a turn on to think that she is seeing him again and what might happen, but also feel madly jealous, especially when I saw her getting dressed this morning.

Going to be difficult to think about anything else all weekend. I am acually going to my parents, who invited me when I told them my wife was going up to Scotland (I said to see her sister).

U ARE LUCKY BUT I HOPE SHE WILL CALL YOU TO TELL SHE'S GOING TO FUCK HIM, REALLY ISNT IT TURNING YOU ON ?

Hi guys, I have some experience in this field and I must say that since she says to you she will never leave you it is unlikely you are going to loose her. Sharing your wife can be a really exciting thing if she is willing to share details from her adventures with you. If she stops doing that the two of you might be facing problems. But sharing gives you so many possibilities - just think about she being fucked in Scotland and you listening on the mobile, watching on web cam and so on - today everything is possible with all this hi-tech around us.
When she admits do not hesitate to show that it turns you on - she will love that in the end. And if she thinks your behavior is odd - show her this web community - other people are doing this as well. I am looking forward to reading your essay after the week-end. By for now.
Bredgar

Interesting point of view. Wise words Bredgar.
Martin, as you made things clear with your wife you don't have to worry about loosing her. She loves you.
Sit back, relax and enjoy the feelings about she's out with another man.
Let us know what's happening.
Chiama quando vuoi...

Martin, I'm with some of the others and believe you shouldn't worry. If she's being this honest and upfront with you why would you have any reamister to doubt her. Even if she fucks him this weekend as long as she comes home and tells you all about it, who cares.

My wife and I have been married for 6 years (I am 30, she's 26) she's had a steady boyfriend now for 4 years and it's made our relationship stronger. She first had sex with him after a party with my blessing, I was alright with it and now why does she have a reamister to lie to me? I'm alright with anything she does, so she knows she can just tell me the truth. She see's him about once a week (at least every other week), I get sex 4-5 times a week (pretty much every time I ask) and she has fun pleasing another man from time to time. It works out for all of us.

hi guys i've been there and have to admitt i loved it my wife had a one night stand and told me about it straight after. we spent ages going over all the details and after alot of talking she started to see him a few times and things just got better. she admitted there was no feelings whatsoever it was just really good sex its now got to the point now where if we are in the mood she will phone him and go straight over for sex with him. she is never gone more than an hour somtimes half an hour and we both love it. long may it continue.

Hi Martin,
any news?
Chiama quando vuoi...

well here goes.

She got back from Scotland yesterday evening. First words were "would you be really upset if I have been just a little bit naughty?" I promised I wouldn't be as long as she was totally honest with me.

She then told me what had happened. She had intended to get a taxi from the airport to her sister's place. Guess who was at the airport with his car. Yes the guy who she had fucked before (his name is Danny by the way, wife's name is Julia). She was really surprised and within minutes they were snogging. He drove her straight back to her place. They were chatting away in the car. Once in his flat they immediatly started groping one another and were soon having sex. They then had dinner before spending the rest of the evening in bed. Wife admits she was a complete slut for him.

Next morning/lunchtime they went over to the sister's (Jackie). Her boyfriend Craig was there and they just chatted all afternoon. They went out as a foursome in the evening for a meal and a few takes. Julia then went back with Danny to his place where they fucked again.

Sunday morning breakfast in bed with more sex. He took her back to the airport in the afternoon, although he tried to persuade her to stay.

She said she was ashamed of her behaviour. I assured her it was OK as long as she would not leave me. She promised that she still loved me and would never leave but admitted that sex with Danny was better. She said that she now realised that she had never had an orgasm before she met him. But every time with him she had had at least one orgasm.

She said that she would never see him again if I wanted. However, we agreed that for a while at least it would be better if she did from time to time. Maybe one day I will be able to give her an orgasm if she learns from him what I need to do.

I am very turned on that I am now a real cuckold but slightly upset that I can't do what Danny can for her.

Hey Martin,
are you glad?
Chiama quando vuoi...

I think so - slightly sad too

That's an exciting feeling, you want to but you don't want to at the same time.
Anyway it was quiete sure she was going to be fucked again and you knew that.

If it's ok with you as I wrote before, sit back, relax and enjoy

Let us know more details, once she tells you.
Chiama quando vuoi...

Point One: No matter what she said to you, she packed the sexy underware and that was for a reamister. My concern is that she knew she was going to have sex with him so why all that silly talk about being faithful to you? She's not being quite as honest and open as you think.

Point Two: You have no control over him. He wants her sexually and who knows, he may want her body and soul as well! In my experience you can only play these sex games when you (as the husband) hold some cards or control.

I allow my very sexy wife to have sex with other men but I hold the control. The men know what they are there for and she knows what I would do to the both of them if they run off together. Truth is, it would never get that far because I just don't allow it. You have. The cucks here might well be getting off on your story and be encouraging you but you've gone into very dangerous territory. You sound an ok guy and I wish the best for you. Life is short, just go on your feelings now. If it gets miserable for you then stand up and say no more. If it results in her going off with him then she was going to anyway.

lucky guy..........what are your dimensions? why are you unable to give her an orgasm? are you like me a small dick husband?